AIBU to want to have 'private areas' in my own home?

[TrustMeImANinja]

I genuinely do not knkw if IABU and Im shocked how strongly I felt about this.

We recently lost a bottle of full Calpol, not being something we want misplaced we were trawling the house for it. DH went up stairs and I can hear him going through my underwear drawer (our baby likes to open drawers and put items in). A cross feeling shot through me, I dont want him going through my underwear drawer! Theres nothing to hide, knickers, an old photo of him, a scan pick, some condoms in an unopened box. None of which I mind him knowing about. Just that I fucking hated him rustling through my privare drawer. I feel the same with my handbag. If hate for anyone to rifle through that either.

Am I being ridiculous? I fear I am.

I have been with him for many years, nearly more than half my life but this still pissed me off.

I didnt say anything but I wanted to scream "STOP GOING THROUGH MY DRAWER!"

AIBU? After all these years and all these kids do I have to accept that private areas are now free for all?

[OneMoreChap]

Interesting. I'd never,ever, ever open anyone else's post.

I'd get very if DW opened my bank statements. [Yes, I know we have web access to all the accounts, but it's the principle].

[valiumredhead]

don't forget wisteria cutting

Snort!

[JessieMcJessie]

DrawER, it's a drawER! (not aimed at you, OP)

[TunipTheVegedude]

'Trim hornbeams along avenue'
'Dredge moat'

[seeker]

Weed ha-ha.

[bondigidum]

Yabu, hardly like its anything he hasn't seen before! Plus its just underwear.. Its not like some deep dark secret diary or anything. My only private thing is my phone.

I don't use a handbag, I use my pockets because I hate handbags with a passion but if I did have a handbag that would be private just because that is common courtesy. But not your knicker drawer, doesn't he ever do the laundry? If so he touches your dirty ones

[mum11970]

I don't mind my husband going through anything of mine, drawers, phone, handbag, post. In fact one of my kids seems to permanently have my iPhone when she's home and reads me any texts I get.

[Aman1975]

Dw knows all my passwords and keylocks, we have 1email account between us apart from work ones, there is nowhere in the house either of us can go. If either of us need money we go into each others wallet/bag. What have you all got to hide?

[Aman1975]

Can't go. Oops

[DumSpiroSpero]

YANBU! I'm not fussed about my undies drawer tbh, but if anyone, including DH, was to go rifling through my wardrobe or handbag I would go batshit.

I've never been the tidiest person, and as a teenager my uber-tidy mum was constantly going through my room/bag ' because it needs tidying up' so I expect they'd why I feel so strongly about it.

Mind you, I really love my own space generally - tbh if we could live in separate houses with an interconnecting door I'd be thrilled!

[Inertia]

Fine with DH doing it ( he would prefer not to go through my drawers or bag ) but would not be happy about anyone else doing it.

[Ragwort]

I wouldnt particularly want my DH to rifle through my knicker drawer (mainly because it is such an unsightly collection of sensible underwear ) but it wouldn't actually bother me, however I am 99% sure he never looks at anything because he never seems to know where anything is kept, I have a big walk in wardrobe that I don't think he has even stepped inside once .

Regarding post - my DH never, ever opens his own post - for an experiment once I didn't open his post for three weeks, he wasn't in the slightet bit bothered. Equally though, he would never open anything of mine - I wouldn't really care, sadly I don't have any secrets.