I genuinely do not knkw if IABU and Im shocked how strongly I felt about this.
We recently lost a bottle of full Calpol, not being something we want misplaced we were trawling the house for it. DH went up stairs and I can hear him going through my underwear drawer (our baby likes to open drawers and put items in). A cross feeling shot through me, I dont want him going through my underwear drawer! Theres nothing to hide, knickers, an old photo of him, a scan pick, some condoms in an unopened box. None of which I mind him knowing about. Just that I fucking hated him rustling through my privare drawer. I feel the same with my handbag. If hate for anyone to rifle through that either.
Am I being ridiculous? I fear I am.
I have been with him for many years, nearly more than half my life but this still pissed me off.
I didnt say anything but I wanted to scream "STOP GOING THROUGH MY DRAWER!"
AIBU? After all these years and all these kids do I have to accept that private areas are now free for all?
AIBU?
AIBU to want to have 'private areas' in my own home?
TrustMeImANinja · 29/11/2012 10:36
I wouldnt particularly want my DH to rifle through my knicker drawer (mainly because it is such an unsightly collection of sensible underwear 
) but it wouldn't actually bother me, however I am 99% sure he never looks at anything because he never seems to know where anything is kept, I have a big walk in wardrobe that I don't think he has even stepped inside once .
Regarding post - my DH never, ever opens his own post - for an experiment once I didn't open his post for three weeks, he wasn't in the slightet bit bothered. Equally though, he would never open anything of mine - I wouldn't really care, sadly I don't have any secrets.
Yabu, hardly like its anything he hasn't seen before! Plus its just underwear.. Its not like some deep dark secret diary or anything. My only private thing is my phone.
I don't use a handbag, I use my pockets because I hate handbags with a passion but if I did have a handbag that would be private just because that is common courtesy. But not your knicker drawer, doesn't he ever do the laundry? If so he touches your dirty ones 
Interesting. I'd never,ever, ever open anyone else's post.
I'd get very 
if DW opened my bank statements. [Yes, I know we have web access to all the accounts, but it's the principle].
I think it's a little odd to be bothered that he was looking in there as he was looking to see if the calpol was in there rather than just have a nosey... but even if he was just having a nosey it wouldn't bother me, as long as he didn't mess it up!
I suppose many of us have drawers, cupboards, bags or whatever that are 'ours' and have a certain expectation that stuff in there isn't for anyone else to use/take/rummage through - but on the other hand if my DH had a reasonable expectation he would find something in there that he needed/wanted/was looking for, it wouldn't bother me as I wouldn't be with someone who disrespect 'my' stuff.
I'm not sure I've explained that at all well - I know what I mean
Your anger at him over this does seem out of order though, yes. He was looking for medicine - surely nowhere is out of bounds as long as it's found?!
We don't have privacy areas.
We rummage through each others drawers and i open his post. I open the post because if I don't be opens it and puts it back in its envelope.
this makes filing and paying bills difficult. I'm also home first most days.
How weird, other than telling DH to keep out of a certain cupboard due to his presents being stashed away, it wouldn't occur to me that certain parts of the house that we share should be private, I go in his bedside drawers all the time, if I ever want a screwdriver/other miscellaneous crap, that's where they'll be. I've got things that are "mine" like my bags/jewellery box etc. but I couldn't care less if he had a rummage, he's got his stuff like his camera bag and if he objected to me having a nosey, he'd get this face > .
I open his post too - on here that seems to be the crime of the century .
True enough OP. There must have been a reason he was having a good old look mind! Don't be surprised if you get underwear for Christmas!
Yes he does put washing away. But opening a drawer, putting something in and closing it again is totally different from rifling through it.
My reaction probably was a little strong, but I knew that which is why I didnt voice it. Self control and all that 
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