Moaning mn career mums.Yes you...

[Jenna2012]

Been reading various threads on mn with interest for several weeks now.why do u ladies feel do pessimistic about ur work life balance and compete with the ' oh poor me title'. If you want a better quality of life, surely u can downsize and have less financial Responsibilty and then look after ur dc yourself instead of paying others to look after them. I just don't get why you have kids unless you wanna love And look them yourself. This doesnt apply to single parents.is the financial gain worth it?

Hellooo Olivia

Going to be a busy night at MN towers...

Shit! Someone tell the feminists they have gone too far, I repeat TOO FAR!

I may just sing the hits of Spandau Ballet. Would be as constructive and enlightening as this post.

Chubfuddler - same. In my house, I like to call it benign neglect

Evening Olivia, nothing to see here, honest

You don't sound very kind hearted OP, kind hearted people don't usually criticise others for their life choices.

But I am having fun, so do continue.

Plomino,I'm typing this in on my iPhone. Mistakes may occur.

Hello. I work ft and my dp does the child care, is that ok?

Ahhh Jenna. You are very naive, aren't you. Being a parent is only part (but an important part) of my, and DP's lives. DD is hugely important to us, but we were both people wit careers and interests before we had her, and will be again after she's grown up. Also, what do we bring to the economy if we (I) waste 8 years of higher education. Also, I wouldn't presume to pretend to know more than a trained educator in the teaching of my child.

I'm giving the benefit of the doubt that the OP is just deluded and not a bridge dweller...

Hope dp never runs off...

Your values/ideas will be fucked.

Especially as you aren't married. Quite a vulnerable position you have put yourself in there...

yes, please explain more about your thoughts on fathers being able to care as well as mothers

Olivia! What are you doing here?

Won't someone think of your children?

Jenna, out of interest, what was your career before you became an SAHM? And do you think it wil be easy for you to walk straight back into it in 5/10 years' time when your DD has grown up and you want to focus on your 'goals'?

Jenna so if your DP earned, say, £15K?

jenna - does your DH not have the nappy changing gene that you have then? Or is he too incompetent to be left with a child?

I can never understand why men who can apparently hold down a responsible job are unable to make a decent fist of raising a child

Now you see this is why I stayed single - men must be really useless if they can't change a nappy, sing nursery rhymes and sit in soft play areas.

and also I would like to know how old your child is

Do you have any old carpet OP?

You could also roll that up, take it onto your front lawn, unroll it and start digging a large hole.

If your neighbour looks out of the window...just look up and mouth the words "You're next".

It has to be waay more exciting than this malarky surely?

Cortina

I think the ops right. Better to live in a box with a goat and have facilitated children than have a job.

I jst feel sorry for the kids, Tweasels
I wanted parents to explain is it really worth it, when they constantly compete with the' we don't have any time, we work constantly etc'. I guess the dc will be the judges when they grow up...

Ok I'll bite.
Many households need two incomes.
Many women feel they have a contribution to make to society outside of raising their children.
Many women keep working so as not to deskill and to earn a pension.
Many women do not want to be 100 % reliant on another person for money.
Many women like working.
I'm sure there are lots of other good reasons.

what is your view on student parents?

if I am the best DS can manage as an educator and facilitator then he's well fucked, poor lamb.

Jenna, why do you think people go to work?

I'm going to go out on a massive limb and suggest that you didn't have much of a career to give up in the first place op?