to think that mumsnet should be a website for all mums regardless

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of literacy and the way they speak/type and should be welcoming to everyone? I cant fucking stand this perceived superiority over certain posters that use text speak, use of hun, lol, x's etc or the suggestion that they are somehow unsuitable for this forum and should bugger off to the other one.

As as for the fucking grammer police, fuck the fuck off. Just because someone maybe didn't use capitals, or misspelt a word, or hasn't posted perfect english, doesn't open their post to ridicule.

isn't that why pedants corner was created,stop em annoying folk,being snippy
keep em all In one place like craggy island for picky gits
and tbh the lufflys,naice life horahs and lil man can coexist on mn,it's bie enough

usual

Oh no, I don't feel that need. No-one knows me. But it's a spillover from that chip.

MaryZ, you are like Lil Sybil off of Downton Abbey.

I think for the most part you end up seeing what you want or expect to see on here.

I always find the middle class clichés a bit odd because for the most part I see more people taking the piss out of them than actually living them.

U ok Hun?

This thread is making MN sound a very cold, snobbish in appealing place to be. I may have more time to read my books I think.

Unappealing .

Can't really expect a working class oik like me to spell, off to check out netmums.

Peace and love.

Language has one purpose, and one purpose only, communication. If you don't communicate clearly and effectively you do not have as many readers. If you are writing on an Internet forum, presumably you want people to read what you say. Therefore, you need to write in a way that makes that communication possible. Language does matter because, without it, we are alone.

I don't think this thread is making MN seem unappealing. That other thread about "not fitting in" is worse, full of inaccurate stereotyping which if were reversed would be deleted.

I don't think there is anything wrong with a little self regulation to stop the forum turning more like some other forums. No one should be pulled up for spelling or grammatical errors, but there's nothing wrong with a little pointer here and there as to the way things are around here. That way people can choose if the forum is for them or not.

In the same way that many of use wouldn't use NM, nothing against it, it just doesn't suit our foul mouthed needs.

no,language has conscious and unconscious function.the language is judged on content,class
we make assumptions based on language,some favorable.some not
why it's a biggie is we all read the words on the screen and appraise and exhibit preferences

Yabu
Text speak is surely for teens who don't know any better, or for Twitter emergencies.

Anywhere where there is no character limit renders it rude and pointless, and does leave one open to being flamed or assumptions being made regards your intellect.

Spelling mistakes happen, especially when one is using a phone.

Op, no offence but who pissed you off? It takes a bit of getting used to, this here forum, but I have yet to see someone get a rollicking who didn't open themselves up to it. MNHQ are pretty up on threads which cross a line anyway.

I agree with you Tweasels about that thread, I thought it was quite mean spirited.
It was mocking of how they feel MN is perceived and definitely reverse snobbery.
And was only about a tiny, tiny minority on here, there are twats of all classes.
And I speak as someone that is claiming benefits and has an HA house.

I have been pulled up a few times reguarding my spelling and grammer being dislexic its really nerve racking to post anything incase things are pulled up as you say Tweasles. I got at school at uni and in some work placements yes I have degree but the feeling that you judged because of spelling is hard fir someone like me if you get it all the time in Real life. It may be well meaning but its soul destorying really or do i have to say in every post that im dislexic

I posted on the other thread, I simply said that I did not fit in.

Tweasels exactly how are we different and what would you not want to see MN become.

I've never had anyone ask me my class or background. I've said I'm from Chatham, home of the chav, and no one told me to fuck off to netms instead.
I joined up here as you can swear like a sailor and no one tells you off. There are no smiley ticker tape things. And loads of bloggers are members of the other forum and most of them drive me mad at Twitter for my sarky natured, sweary, and ex-of-chavtown background.
If you feel like you don't fit in, that says more about your own self esteem than anything else. And no one makes you stay either.

I think netmums is more for the younger demographic. Mn suits me better as there's more people closer to my own age.

I agree MrsDV.

The caricature is just that.

Trust me, they slag MN off too.

I'm not MC, I'm unmarried, I don't own my own home, have a long term sick child, partner is self employed, neither of us went to uni, don't shop at Waitrose or Boden, and neither of my kids is named in a pretentious way.

I still do fine here. Never been shunned and don't expect to be. If its not for you, that's fine. We're a nice bunch really