To wonder what the fuck is going on?

[namechanger11111]

I've got to be quick because not so dp is coming over soon.

We've in the last few weeks got back together after splitting for a few months. It's not been 100% great and we might have rushed things a bit. He was seeing someone else but broke it off for us to get back together.

He hurt me a lot during getting back together by putting her feelings before mine.

Anyway I've just logged into his yahoo inbox and there are several video calls between the 2 of them from after we got back together. I'm shaking and I feel sick that he's done this. I want to talk to her but I don't want him knowing.

He's also just come back from a weekend away he was supposed to take his son on but ended up going alone so he says.

I want to talk to her and find out the truth before I confront him because he'll fill me full of bullshit as usual.

He lost his phone the other day and freaked out that i'd taken it and it never leaves his side.

Wow OP, I'm so angry on your behalf... please please please do not get back with this nobber! You are worth 100 of this gutter rat. Sounds like he enjoyed playing games with both you and OW and now you've put pay to that... who knows, maybe ow has given him the elbow too, good!

If you're ever feeling weak... post on the relationships board, there's some very strong women who will guide you in the right direction.

It might not feel like it now but there's some lovely decent men out there who will treat you right... for now though, concentrate on yourself and DC.

He sounds disgusting. He is trying to get you to believe its NORMAL for him to constantly have other women, be meeting them/ talking to them / talking about them etc & the only thing wrong with this is you refusing to accept this. You are worth more, he's a selfish beep & I don't think you'll ever get him to agree what he's doing us wrong - what you can do is stand firm & refuse to engage. Well done & please keep going - don't go back to him!

He came over at lunch time today to pick up his ticket for ds's concert and was trying to grope me! I had to push him off me and tell him to fuck off.

Then he was banging on about how we have to spend Christmas together. I said there's no point playing happy families this year because we won't be next year.

I'm not sure what's wrong with him but he's not getting it.

He's resenting losing control and trying to get that control back. Either that or he doesn't believe you're serious.

You're doing great, stay strong!

name changer, I love the way he says he'll forgive you! genius! Do look on the relationships board. They are great over there.

Also, without wanting to jump the gun, please be careful. He seems to be having an awful lot of trouble with the new boundaries, and sometimes people who throw tantrums can get physical awfully quickly when thwarted. So just be careful, that's all.

Wow he sounds utterly creepy! Well done you though for finding your inner strength and getting rid! He is not healthy to be around though - can you cease contact?

And thanks for the update, we all want to know what is happening so keep updating us as and when there are developments!

He starts off nice then goes nasty when he doesn't get his own way.

I think he thinks I'm making a big fuss over nothing and that I'll come back running. I'm not going to though so he'll have to accept it eventually.

Wow he sounds awful! Guess he isn't used to you standing up for yourself. If its not a dumb question - why do you still give him the time of day?

Onwards & upwards - you can do so much better!

Gosh, he can't even be faithful to the woman he cheated on you with. What an amazing man.

Of course he doesn't accept it when you tell him it's over. If he accepted it he'd have to go along with it, which isn't what he wants (not enough slices of cake on his plate yet, only two women on the go).

Obviously he should be able to see his children, but is there any way you could allow him to see them without having to be there? Someone else to do handovers? Your mother or a friend to chaperone when he comes round? All this groping etc is quite worrying as well as very, very rude. If some random bod did that you'd quite rightly have the police on them for sexual assault - which it is, even by the father of your children. You have the right to say no and have that respected.

Annie...it is the groping that worries me and makes me want her (sorry, OP, I know you are still here!) to be extra vigilant about the possibility of physical violence. Really bad.

Don't worry I'm keeping a close eye on things.

First of all OP I think you should have this moved to Relationships.
Second I think you should stop letting him in the house. Get key off him, change locks whatever. Organise regular contact days, suggest reasonable days and times to him and tell him to pick up the kids. Have them ready to go and hand over at the door. Tell him if he calls at any other time you won't answer.
The groping worries me. He is a creep with no respect for you.

There's a reason i can't do that at the moment but i don't really want to get into it.

He's just told me he doesn't want to be with me anymore so i said in that case you won't mind not groping me. He ended up storming off!

Good for you!

It's tough, I know, but better for you in the end.

He is a knob!

I want to thank everyone for their help. I've reported the thread so it can be removed because I'm worried I've given too many personal details and ex has just text me something that makes me suspicious.