To tell this woman to f off and buy her own dress?

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I've worked with the same women "Wendy" for around 3 years now, and I am the same age as her daughter "Amelia".

Today Wendy asks me as if it would be possible for me to bring in my wedding dress to work for Amelia to borrow for her wedding. She explained that they were both struggling financially and that Wendy herself was in debt.

My DH has a good job and earns well and we were able to afford to have a lovely wedding and I was able to afford the dress that I wanted. Neither Wendy or Amelia were invited to the wedding, however I have been told by Wendy that they were both looking at the wedding photos on Facebook and how Amelia would love to have the same dress.

I am being a bitch if I refuse? My dress is so special to me and I don't want just anyone wearing it.

Has anyone mentioned OXFAM shop online? They have really beautiful dresses, donated or end of line, all sizes, some are a bit 'vintage' but others look amazing. THey have physical shops or you can order online.

If I was you I would explain that your dress means something special to you and you don't feel comfortable with giving it to someone. I think it's not something you ask, frankly.

www.oxfam.org.uk/shop/bridal

Fess up have you been wearing your wedding dress to work on dress-down Friday?

Brilliant. Utterly brilliant

Wow, good on those people donating their dresses to Oxfam! I'd never heard of this. I will be recommending to friends.

Well I replied to her and explained again thats its too sentimental for me to loan but I would be happy to look on eBay for her to see if my dress is on there. I also said that my bridesmaids kept their dresses so I couldn't lend those out either.

• I received a lovely reply of - thanks for nothing you selfish bitch.

I said hello to Wendy this morning and all I got was "hmm" back.

Now is the time to change your profile pic to a close up of your dress
Just shows you were right not to lend it

Fucking hell, block them both from Fb and from now on ignore them. Cheeky bloody women!

'spread a little kindness' ?? to a woman who pretty much demands to have someone's wedding dress? That is beyond rude. How can anyone expect to be given a wedding dress?

Oh my goodness what a nasty pieces of work. Defriend and block immediately. Entitled or what!

And what Severedhead said

They wanted to use you they can buy teir own flipping dresses what nasty women

"thanks for nothing you selfish bitch"

Words utterly fail me! Which is a rarity. Fucking hell!! I would have to reply with something, I'm sure someone will suggest something witty. What a horrible cow.

I would also have to say to her mum something like "would you mind telling your incredibly rude daughter not to contact me on facebook again and you and her have proven me right as to why I wouldn't lend out MY wedding items that I paid good money for." Also defriend and block them both on FB.

Say NO!!! And tell her the truth as to why!!

If she's struggling for money use charity shops, eBay or bootsales ect

Any Neal person would be completely undersading

Normal doh

delurking just to say

I'm speechless.

The total nerve of some people is staggering! I honestly am smacked of gob!

What's your working relationship with this woman OP?

My flabber has never been so gasted!

How rude.

i'm afraid i would have to be incredibly unprofessional now and leave a turd in her drawer tell everybody in the office.

May I suggest a response? Amelia My, what an unpleasant email and a horrible thing to say when I tried to help. Good luck with scrounging a dress and finding another near-stranger sucker who you can ask for loans from and then insult. I will be blocking you on facebook now to stop the abuse and to stop you from asking where I bought my knickers from (I won't lend them out either, in case your bum smells as bad as your attitude).

Is this woman now likely to badmouth you in the office, OP? Keep everything cool and calm from your side.

the last bit might* be a bit childish

Frightfully rude.

Ignore, ignore, ignore.