To tell this woman to f off and buy her own dress?

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I've worked with the same women "Wendy" for around 3 years now, and I am the same age as her daughter "Amelia".

Today Wendy asks me as if it would be possible for me to bring in my wedding dress to work for Amelia to borrow for her wedding. She explained that they were both struggling financially and that Wendy herself was in debt.

My DH has a good job and earns well and we were able to afford to have a lovely wedding and I was able to afford the dress that I wanted. Neither Wendy or Amelia were invited to the wedding, however I have been told by Wendy that they were both looking at the wedding photos on Facebook and how Amelia would love to have the same dress.

I am being a bitch if I refuse? My dress is so special to me and I don't want just anyone wearing it.

Anyway presumably the bridesmaids have their dresses not you?

Yes I wanted them to keep them to do whatever they wanted with them. For all I know the dresses could have been sold ages ago.

Her daughter sounds very cheeky. She does not know you and she is asking for bridesmaids dresses . How does sh know they will fit her bridesmaids, and be th ight colour . Just say no you don't you have old them

Or that your bridesmaid have kept them like normally happens

They are odd.

£10 for 3 dresses now that is cheeky.

They certainly seem to have a pretty developed sense of entitlement to your dresses!

Wow , how ridiculously cheeky. I'd be tempted to message her back and tell her that she is being very rude.

Tell her that none of your dresses are available to her, nor will they ever be.

I agree to message back and point out the rudeness. Otherwise, they might continue passive aggressive FB behaviour.

I'd just say "sorry it's traditional for bridesmaids to keep their dresses. Hope your wedding goes well"

I just wouldn't be able resist buying 3 rank dresses from a charity shop and then give them to her.
On the run up to the wedding keep pressuring asking them to see the photos of your lovely bridesmaids dresses

Send her a message back saying she missed a couple of zeros from her offer!

You can change your Facebook settings so people who aren't friends with you can't message you.

They both sound like weird cheeky fuckers and I seriously suggest you customise your fb settings so weird mum can't see your posts or just block them both. They both obviously have a massive problem with you saying no and are now being even more unreasonable with their status updates and messaging. I would tell this Wendy twat that you have said what you want to say on the matter as don't want to be bothered with any more messages from her daughter either.

Fucking space invading weirdos!

Please change your fb settings asap! I can't stand the thought of them invading your page! When is this weird one getting married?!

How did I miss this thread? Bonkers, quite bonkers (not you Op). I now have the feeling you'll start getting messages about your last lot of holiday photos 'oh, that dress would go lovely for my honeymoon, can I have it? I'll give you 25p for it.'

10£ for 3???
My mind is boggled

They're cloning your wedding OP! They'll be asking for your DH next!

Fwiw, I feel the same about my wedding dress, nobody else will wear it (unless I have a DD who wants it), it means so much to me and cost me an arm and a leg

'Amelia's' message is just plain rude given you've already said no to Wendy.

Surely no bride demands that the bridesmaids give the bridesmaid dresses back to the bride after the wedding???
I've never heard of a bridesmaid not keeping her dress.

These people are sounding odder and odder. They'll be asking if you can lend them the wedding car for £10 next.....

Crikey. I didn't have bridesmaids because I couldn't afford the dresses as it would have pushed my limited budget too far. My toddler children were kitted out very nicely through ebay for very little money. To ask to pay £10 for 3 bridesmaids dresses is cheeky beyond belief.

You don't deserve a message about being selfish, I don't think that could be aimed at you.

Oh dear, I've only just come to this thread but you handled it exactly as I would have suggested. Their reaction to that will tell you if you were right not to lend it.

Do not think/worry about it any more.

Tbf she might not know her daughter sent that message. Just reply the bridesmaids kept there dresses.

I wouldn't reply. I'd just block the daughter and not mention it anymore.

This has gone from being a cheeky request to them bring totally and utterly unreasonable.