to be angry/upset with my 'friend' for not coming

[Ilovecrossfit]

to my baby's first bday party. she basically said '...Friday not good Ive my yoga class' ???!!! We have children similiar age.
It's a local fitness class she means, not 1to1 session ( which id understand)..even if she 'said sorry id love to come but' that would sound better but Ive got a feeling she basically was saying " couldnt care less"

When my told my hubby he was like " why are you surprised'...so obviously he wasnt...hmmm

Yes Im paying for plays and coffees and said no presents please x

I don't know many adults who would cancel plans for a first birthday party, TBH.

First birthday parties are for the parents and Grandparents, IMO. Other than that it's a waste of time as the child will NOT remember nor care who was at their first birthday.

Therefore YABU.

see, my initial response is, why would she want to come , don't be upset, but then I remembered that one of my friends didn't come to DS's 1st (2 years ago) and I am still annoyed about it- though that is mainly because, despite only probably bothering to visit twice a year (from not far away) she insists of referring to herself as "Auntie..." and talks as though she is really close to him, but couldn't be arsed to come to the party (which, for non- Christened babies like mine I often think of as a sort of substitute for that celebration)

So actually she's just not coming to soft play? YABU.

I remember my DSis's "1st birthday party" - our parents stuck a candle in a cake and sang happy birthday while I wondered what the point was, as she had no clue what was happening bratty 4 year old me

Well if you are upset then you're upset. You can't help the way that you feel. Personally it wouldn't bother me, I didn't do parties for any of my children until they were at school. I can't remember being invited to any either, so I don't really get why you're making such a big thing out of it.

so you didn't even know she did that yoga class.. but you know its not pre-pay? erm. Okay!

whatever! look OP its really not a "priority" event as many posters have pointed out. If she declined a christening or big birthday or wedding to go to yoga YWNBU, but its JUST SOFT PLAY with a 1 year old who wont care who is there!

So.... it's not a party after all, it's a play date, that's not happening on your child's actual birthday, you've told people not to bring presents and it's all about you getting together with your friends who should feel obliged to attend because of the pain and tears it cost you to get pregnant?