Wait, I'm confused. Surely we want to find out about what happened because coffeedog painted a picture of this evil party usurper, and then someone else came on and said I think I might be the other mum you are talking about, and if so it wasn't at all how you said and I'm not evil or party-usurping.
So what I want to know is - is that the other mum coffeedog was talking about, and she totally misrepresenting the situation? Or are there coincidentally two pirate parties for twin boys in which a little girl is joining in - in one case, uninvited, and in the other case, amicably - except it my all go to shit because that mum thinks coffeedog is talking about her. Which is it?
But most posters on here seem only interested in the outcome of the party (which doesn't really seem to deserve its own thread) rather than the identification or not of the party usurper.