to be hurt by comments about my DS from friends staying with us?

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Or do I need to get a thicker skin?

Separate comments made by both of them

"ooh, just what you need, more sugar"

"yes, that's what you should have, more sugar"

DS is very active, borderline hyperactive

In no way does he have too much sugar.
One of the occasions he had just got up, one of the occasions, he had just had weetabix for breakfast

Dh thinks it was a bit out of order too.

They have clearly been reading Mumsnet.. ask them their username

No!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Dont admit on MN to putting sugar on weetabix - you will start a riot :D

I take it your friends don't have children?

he didn't have sugar on his weetabix!!
we actually don't have sugar in the house
I went to put some on my porridge this morning

they do have a daughter, but she's only young and probably very placid

What Heath said. Our DS has so much energy. Our friends without kids wonder how we cope whereas he's fine, he likes jumping out playing games he creates.
I remember one friend looking horrified saying 'Is he this bouncy all the time?'
He's just one of those kids who likes being on the move.

They sounds like dicks then...tell them to mind their own business!

Ask them to repeat themselves. When they do, say "oh, do you have a specific recommendation about DS's diet?" Force them to say what they're actually thinking rather than just make a snarky comment.

Also, if they don't like sharing a house with your DS, they can pay for a hotel next time!

Buy him a bag of Haribo and suggest a b&b down the road

Oh and I don't know about sugar but my ds goes a little crazy if he has ice-cream. Giggles like mad, for ages. It's extremely funny but we do limit it.

DS is like this all the time, he doesn't stop until the second he closes his eyes.
I have monitored his sugar intake over the years and there is absolutely no difference when he eats biscuits or chocolate.
He has a couple of small biscuits when he comes out of school, chocolate is a treat

Depends how they said it really. Was it sarkie? Do they consider your DS to be 'energetic,' in a PITA way?
It was either a passive agressive swipe at your parenting or a joke. My Nephew is similar to this but he is a wonderful kid and I know my sister does not overindulge him. Doesn't stop me teasing her though and we have both been known to say comments like that when he is running around with the mop bucket on his head

Pack their bags, leave them on the doorstep and lock the door next time they go out.

I wouldn't like rude people staying at my house. Let them come to me I love sugar on my Weetabix

If they are staying with enjoying your hospitality they should keep their ill considered comments to themselves. Very rude to remark on your child's diet or behaviour.

Why did they say that if he wasn't eating any sugar?

But very rude anyway. Obviously their way of commenting on his behaviour which they shouldn't be doing.

Kalisi- I don't actually know them that well, one of DH's best friends and wife
They live abroad

I think they consider my DS to be "energetic" in a PITA way. That's what hurts, I would never make comments like that about someone else's child.

If my mum or sister said it, I would laugh. Because they know how I struggle with him, and they know it's not me giving him too much crap

Also, DS was like a caged animal, having to stay in while they made their mind up about what they were doing, he couldn't eat his food where he wanted, they slept in the spare bed, where he has been sleeping,they upset his routine a lot (I know that happens with guests)

they do have a daughter, but she's only young and probably very placid

That will be why - they'll be assuming all DC are the same and that their DC placid behaviour is good and that it?s down to their superior parenting.

Like others I think the science says sugar makes no difference and only the most critical parents assume it does ? as a parent I don?t believe that.

Find a response that shuts your freinds up ? or don?t have the round till they learn better while wising in your head horrific parenting experiences on them in the future.

they bought pastries from the shop and offered them around

and I had made chocolate cake with DS, and he saw it in the fridge and asked when we were having it

It's just rude and I would not have them to stay again. I would also consider the value of their "friendship"

Oh ok then, yeah what everyone else has said then. They sound very rude!

Why would they say 'more sugar' if he wasnt having any?
Why would You say 'nothing' If he wasnt having any?
makes no sense

They were rude. But the moment to make a response has passed.

You just need to decide what to say the next time they say something snide.

"Please don't make derogatory remarks about my son or any member of my family," accompanied by a steely glare feels about right