AIBU to be pissed off at friend and let her know it?...

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I always arrange our girls nights out. It can be quite challenging as need to find dates that suit everyone,venues etc.

Due to works nights out,other commitments etc I had arranged that our xmas night out would be last saturday.

However one of my friends is a very fussy eater and made it clear that if she didnt like the choice of restaurant she wouldnt come. We picked an indian, she doesnt like curry so was fine with her not attending.

Now my other friend had made no objections to which restaurant we were going to and seemed quite happy-up until the point that this other woman pulled out. They are bosom buddies btw.

Now she didnt even tell me she wasnt coming-even though I had booked it-told another friend and then when I spoke to her about it came out with the shit excuse of her nearly 2 year old not sleeping and she cant leave him-she has a dh and it is their 3rd child not fucking pfb!!

I dont believe this excuse and think that not coming because your pal isnt is a bit pathetic in a grown woman? plus I think she was peed off we didnt invite her dh but thats another story...

Aibu to be pissed off and tell them they can organise their own nights out from now on?...

I am not insulting anyone else parenting choices-I am merely saying that I find some of my friends behaviour martyrish when it comes to their dcs-that is my opinion.

I am firmly ofthe opinion that clingy dcs/seperation anxiety in dcs is made not born but again only my opinion.

Honestly I really dont get why people dont think my friend was extremely rude to pull out at the last minute. Btw they text me asking me to go out with them-not vice versa so am obviously not completely vile....

Am pretty shocked at the amount of 'mean girls' comments to the OP. Seriously why are some of you so angry?!

Not agreeing with everything OP says's - if you don't want to go on a work night out then don't but she is not being unreasonable to think cancelling at the last minute is very rude.

Not to sound like a braggard but I am quite popular and I know my friends enjoy my company

Wtf?!

One of the most cringingly funny things I've ever read!

Fuck Me!!!!

OP, I can see where you are coming from and I think the replies you have got here and the massive assumptions about you are ridiculous.

I too think that people can make clingy DCs. I have a friend whose 2 children are terrible clingy and it is all of her own doing. She can't even leave the room to have a wee without her DS crying and screaming. Its bloody ridiculous tbh.

I do think that YABU not to accomodate the fussy eater. I am classed as a fussy eater and I do say to my friends that I am happy to not go if I don't like the food but that is when it is somewhere chosen that does only serve 1 type of food, like Indian. Because they are my friends and they want to include me, they will find somewhere, affordable and close with food that I like, it really isn't that difficult.

I agree that it was a bit rude to pull out at the very last minute. But she may not have liked to say the real reason. If I didn't go somewhere because my 'best' friend wasn't there (although if you are a group of friends then I don't see the problem anyway), I wouldn't say that, I would come out with a crap reason. I suspect there is more to it though given your references to her being pissed off about her DH not being invited.

I am also the social organiser, I am giving it up soon because it is doing my head in. Certain events won't be organised anymore but I don't care. I am fed up of chasing the people who constantly come out with the "oh yeah, I forgot to reply, you know what I am like" then expect me to spoon feed all info and constantly remind them even though there is usually a Facebook event where they can check out all the details for themselves.

If I were you, I wouldn't bother with the organising group things. It is a bloody hassle and I have more important things to do with my time then chase up lazy people who won't reply to a simple text because "you know what I am like" but they expect to be included in everything.

I think they don't like you.

Yes, let's all just make assumptions about everything to do with the OP and decide that none of her friends like her, she's an awful person, people despise going on night's out with her...

I hate it when people cancel at the last minute too but these things happen. If your friend is shy, maybe she felt uncomfortable coming without the other friend who she is closest too? So YABU. But not about the fussy eater if it is purely 'fussy' eating and not allergies etc.

I don't think you are being at all unreasonable not accosting the fussy eater.

You considered her but went with the majority in terms of convenience/price. Fair enough!

Am myself a bit fussy over some foods but would not let that dictate my attendance, she didn't have to eat. She clearly was not that bothered about coming if it was only about the food.

"she has 3dcs as do I-but she also had a dh who quite frankly should be telling his wife to bloody go out and have a good time and not be such a martyr"

She should LTB for not ordering her go out

Well you are BU but it is annoying when people drop out of things

Can't believe what bitches the majority of people on this thread are being towards the OP. I know who I'd rather be friends with!

Yabu. Control freak springs to mind.
If my df didn't like curry, I wouldn't book a table.
Lighten up pet!

Fucking hell is this the real housewives of Orange County or something

Your the social sec not the excuse police. If she didn't want to come she didn't have to go. Get her on here we'll teach her no is a complete sentence and she didn't even have to come up with an excuse.

For some reason I have Human League Don't You WantMe Baby going through my head because of this thread...

I can't see why everyone's knickers are all in a twist over the op. I'd carry on being the organizer as long as nobody objects and the others can either go with you or arrange their own evening.

I have never had a phone call from dh asking me to come home because one of ours wouldn't settle, he knows better.

You can't please all the people all of the time so don't even try just invite and try not to let it bother you when people drop out.