Aibu to think it's a bit rubbish to use "9.30 is so early!" As an excuse / complaint?

[Cathycomehome]

Ds2 is to be Christened on Sunday. Some people who are distant, duty invites like cousins, have said it's too early as they are far away, and that's fine. But loads of other people, who are very local have said "9.30?!?! Seriously?? Well we'll try...." It's pissing me off.

Yabu op. I don't go to christenings that are that early! I work all bloody week no way I am getting up early on one of my precious days off to see something I see pointless happening

We prefer the 9.30 mass on a Sunday. It means we get up early and get something out of the day. Neither of us like lie ins, they are a waste of time.

(Unless you went out on the lash the night before - which we dont do, natch, cos we dont have a life)

To the people who say they will come for the food, I would just smile and say

"The even starts at 9.30, if you cant make that, I will cross you off as a "no" as I need to have confirmed numbers for the catering " and smile.

Not only am I an utter heathen, but I am rarely dressed before the end of the Archers omnibus on a Sunday (I often listen to the Food Programme in the bath).

But this is a chirstening - I would get my lazy arse out of bed and be there. I hope people don't just come for the nibbles after - that would be . Lazy fuckers.

Charlie that's extremely rude.

I'm genuinely taken aback that people are so selfish that they aren't prepared to give up their lie-in.

I bet they're there queing outside Next bright and early when the sales start on Boxing Day.

And people complain that the kids today have no manners .

Unless you're fasting for the communion (do people still do this?) you could announce that you've decided to celebrate before the ceremony with a champagne breakfast, so that everyone will be free for the rest of the day. See who that drags out of bed.

I would assume they just don't really want to go tbh. 9.30 seems a perfectly normal time for a church service.

YANBU in the slightest. How bloody rude of people, it's a really special day for your family and they should be honoured to be part of it, the ignorant gobshites.

I hope that you all have a really great day and that the rude bastards keep their ill-bred opinions to themselves, turn up on time (9.30, FFS it's hardly the middle of the night) and it all goes well for you.

I don't think it is early for a christening at all. 0930hrs on a Sunday is about 3.5 hours after we are up anyway though.

A one off for a christening?? Poor excuse. 8am is early.. 9:30 isn't... and if they really wanted to be there, they would be. Doesn't seem like they do. Poor form :(

Yes it is early and if I was invited I would probably think "cripes that's early" but I would still go. I would just plan ahead and be organised.

It's not ideal but it's do-able - I mean, anything's do-able I'd you really want to do it surely?

Very rude to use the early start as a reason not to go.

people may treasure their weekly lie in, and to watch a baby getting splashed and yelling is not enough of a reason to lose it. However it would be more tactful to tell you that they can't make it because they are doing something else that day.

I suppose it depends on what matters to you. I'd value going to a christening more than going shopping or whatever. and its a one off. Do people really value their lie ins so much? Do people with children really get them?

at everyone who thinks 9.30am is early for a Christening. The city where I live has a famous cathedral which has a tradition of holding a Baptism at 5am on Easter Sunday morning . I kid you not. I don't quite remember how the tradition started & was mildly amused at the thought of people getting up that early on Easter Sunday - until it was my god-daughter being baptised & I had to blooming well go!

The same friend is due to give birth to DC5 around Christmas time & has asked me to be godmother again. I'd be thankful for a 9.30am service!

I think YANBU, I would be exactly like Selim! In my head I would say feck it, and what will I wear, but I'd say thank you, see you there. This is a big day for you and it's one morning, FGS. I'm not a church goer, but it's plain rude to refuse an invitation on the grounds that it's too early.

Oh that is FAR too early for me on a Sunday but you didn't invite me so that doesn't matter. As people have said, it's a one-off special event so if I were invited, I'd say 'thank you very much' and just grumble inwardly about having to rush around the one morning of the week where we can usually take it easy.

Hope it went well!

Cathy - wondering if we attend the same church... mine is the same and we got DD baptised at 9.30 a little while ago. I shall just say East Surrey.

A lot of our friends made it, many from London. It is quite early for people travelling miles, but considering it's a one-off not really too bad for locals, as you say.

Perhaps people who are saying it is too early are atheists who do not want to go to a church and partake in a church service when they do not believe in it.

I have refused to go to a couple of Christenings because I don't believe and if they had been early, I might have used that excuse instead of having to state my beliefs so plainly...(followed on BOTH occasions by - "oh you can come along and not mean it if you want...." - really?!?...)

YANBU - they are rude and lazy bastards with no manners. Tell them straight - only people who will attend the church can come to the nibbles.

"oh you can come along and not mean it if you want...." - really?!?..

Yes, you can. A christening is about more than the religious thing, and if it means something to friends or family, then it's perfectly possible to put your atheism to one side for an hour or so. I've done it often enough.

"Yabu op. I don't go to christenings that are that early! I work all bloody week no way I am getting up early on one of my precious days off to see something I see pointless happening2

I'm glad I don't have selfish entitled friends like you Charlie

This isn't about whether 9:30 on a Sunday morning is too early or not (although I am a little astounded at the people who think it would be physically impossible to get out of the house in time). This is about whether it is extraordinarily rude to say "hmm, well, this is so unimportant to me that I might turn up if I can be bothered on the day". Obviously it is fine to think that, but I can't believe people who are actually your friends were rude enough to say it!

You say yes and turn up, or if you really can't face it you say no.

Incidently I am an aetheist and I have been to weddings, christenings and funerals in churches because they were important to my close friends, and so important to me. I think you really can take the religion out of it and just go to support people you love. In the same way that I would be very happy to go to a Muslim or Hindu or Satanist or anything else ceremony under similar circumstances.

We haven't had it yet, it's Sunday coming, sorry for confusion. Well, I'm glad not everyone thinks I'm unreasonable. I've ordered catering for the definite yeses, let's hope they scoff the lot quickly before the "just for nibbles" brigade arrive!

I would go and would grumble about the time.

A christening isn't an excuss for a booze up