Aibu to think it's a bit rubbish to use "9.30 is so early!" As an excuse / complaint?

[Cathycomehome]

Ds2 is to be Christened on Sunday. Some people who are distant, duty invites like cousins, have said it's too early as they are far away, and that's fine. But loads of other people, who are very local have said "9.30?!?! Seriously?? Well we'll try...." It's pissing me off.

Are your local friends really so hopelessly disorganised that they cant get their families up and out in time? Because its either that, or they don't actually place much value on attending and haven't got the guts to just politely decline.

are those that are openly moaning actually have kids to get up and ready?

its early but would make the effort. its ONE day. and personally would rather an early start with kids than having a late finish especially with work/school next day.

would love if you had the balls (i wouldnt) to ask at the door of your house having the afters "did you attend the ceremony?" then close door when they say no.

Cathy,

We had exactly the same response about Ds's confirmation. Infuriating. You just need to make it clear that it is the Church's timetable, not yours, and nor negotiable.

And I think they are rude to put it like this. I might have said sorry couldn't come but wouldn't have used the can't be arsed and don't value our friendship enough response. It's not like a normal party and they have been honoured to be asked.

Rise above it but put a black spot by their names.

I think its just plain rude. Yes it's early but its a one off special occasion. We travelled 2hrs for a 10 o'clock start and was pleased to be invited. I'm sure the people you love wontmind and as for the others tell them you need a definate yes/no and save on catering if they can't be bothered make it. Enjoy your day :)

Errrm, I'm Catholic and both my daughter's were baptised at a separate 3pm service. I think when and how christenings are held are very much down to the style of the parish, the priest and whether you've got family spread out who need to travel over. I've been to CofE christenings that were separate services and part of the Sunday morning family service.

Anyway, OP I do think that people are being rude. This is an important event in your child's life and it would be nice to think that family and friends would make an effort to get up early just this one day for it. I've bitched about having to get up early for similar, but would never moan about it to the person who's invited me. Hope it doesn't overshadow what should be a lovely day.

yanbu! you've invited people to a special day in your life and they're making a fuss? bastards. I'd make it, I wouldn't even question it. And I don't even believe in God ffs.

I hope you have a lovely day.

I would attend and not say a word to you about the time. But I would think it was too early, I value my Sunday lie ins. Actually I would attend only if I really had to, I am atheist and do not like christening babies (do what you want as an adult), so if I could get out of it in any way I would.

I think 9.30am IS very early for a Sunday.

I know a lot of people, myself included, who like a bit of a lie in after all the early wake ups Monday-Friday.

I'm not talking stay in bed til midday, but that it's nice to move at a slower pace on a Sunday and not have to rush about to get somewhere!

The thing is, the guests aren't being asked to get up and out every Sunday morning, just this one. It's a one-off and really bad manners to complain about it to the OP.

Well here'sa thought for people who have to "catch up on their sleep " on Sunday - for this one special occasion why don't you just go to bed a bit earlier the night before?! It could be a viz top tip..

The christening was today wasn't it cathycomehome? Hope you are having a lovely day.

Hear hear- have a wonderful celebration and don't let a few lazy whiners spoil it for you.
Not sure where you are, but here its a beautiful crisp sunny autumn day. I had already walked the dog by 8.30 this morning, and I'm up and out every week day by 7.30, dropping the kids at the childminder before work. If people want to laze their life away rather than get up and do a lovely thing on a lovely morning then their loss really

"All those saying they couldn't manage to get everyone up and dressed by 9.30 am - what do you do on school days?"

That's what I thought.

"YANBU, it's a one off occasion. Most people can get to work or school by that time can't they? So it's not impossible. It just means having to give up ONE lie in, big deal."

I agree. We live in a rural community and all the churches round here have a shared vicar. It means that some church services are early (9.15) and some are later (10.45). Our church does alternate time services on alternate Sundays, but MIL's church only has a 9.15 service so the vicar can take the next service at 11.00 in the next village.

DD was christened at a 9.30 service and some of the guests drove 150 miles that morning to get there in time (their choice)

Well it is quite early for a Sunday of you're not a regular church goer!

I'm sitting eating me breakfast now and it's ten past one...!

However my dad used to make us go to the 8am Sunday church service because he didn't like the 'happy clappy' (enjoyable!) elements of the 10.30 church service. Now THAT is early.

It would be very early for me to get two naturally urchin like children and one naturally urchin like husbsnd looking presentable in smart appropriate clothes as well as myself nicely dressed and makeup and hair smartly done and all our shit together and gift wrapped and at the church ten minutes before the service.

Maybe some naturally organised folk relish that sort of challenge but it makes me feel a but headachey just thinking about it!

I love lazy sunday mornings and am very bad at dragging myself out of bed but I would never grumble at the timing of a special event! We were at BILs wedding at 8am (didnt start until 10) to help the florist set up and made sure we were there until the end as the rest of their family left rudely early. That's just what you do for the people you love, even if your heels have crippled you by the end of the night.

Not everyone works Mon-Fri and regular office hours and is able to put aside their needs to attend early morning services, even for a family christening.

Yes, some do, and won't attend, but there are a lot of us who don't, and can't.

Tapir I think not being able to attend because you have to go to work or are asleep after a night shift or something is a little different and is perfectly ok as a reason for refusing.

Indith I agree, and have turned down such an invitation myself recently. However, I see a lot of people on here assuming that everyone is like themselves, and therefore labelled as lazy.

Just pointing out that we don't always know others circumstances (even though we think we do)

i'd say 11 is sort of the ideal time, so its only hour and a half before, its not like you're saying 8am
anyone with young children would surely be up in time anyway (unless theyre amazingly lucky with their kids sleeping patterns! ...in which case they deserve an early morning haha :P) and everyone else needs to stop being so lazy! you'd think they'd be happy to see the baby and that they're invited, not moaning! as you said you can't change the time

Cathy - hope the christening went well, do come back and update us .

I don't understand how it's "early for a Sunday" - 9am is the same time on Sunday as it is through the week :o
If you have somewhere to be you get up and out in time. If you don't you can have a lie in.
I wonder how many people on this thread will be in the queues at 5am for the Boxing Day sales...

I have to say though that I don't necessarily agree that having small children gets you ready to be out early, that's never been my experience. My DC used to get up so early I felt like a zombie for most of the morning :) Now they get up at a reasonable hour I actually do feel ready to jump in the shower when I get out of bed.

I don't know anyone who would think that was really early, I would expect a christening to be early tbh. It's only a one off isn't it, can people really not set their alarm clocks a bit earlier for a special day?

Blimey op you have got some rude friends.

It is ont thing to mumble slightly to yourself, but really rude to say it to you.

And half 9 isn't bloody early! Yes it is lovely to have a lazy morning in bed, but it isn't a necessity.

Some people just like to moan don't they.