Aibu to think it's a bit rubbish to use "9.30 is so early!" As an excuse / complaint?

[Cathycomehome]

Ds2 is to be Christened on Sunday. Some people who are distant, duty invites like cousins, have said it's too early as they are far away, and that's fine. But loads of other people, who are very local have said "9.30?!?! Seriously?? Well we'll try...." It's pissing me off.

Not catholic was my first thought. No catholic priest would be ready to face a crowd of families and babies at 9.30

I agree. Isn't it the law that there is a pub next to, or accross the road from every RC church that is open from whenever the church opens?

YANBU - I'd have thought people could get their act together as a one off. And surely no-one with children under 10 actually gets a lie in on a Sunday - children get up at the crack of dawn (may be being unduly cynical here as I've only had 5 hours sleep and feel like shit).

YANBU.

This is a religious ceremony. What's their problem? It takes place when it takes place.

I am deeply irreligious but would not dream of taking such offence as your invitees have.

Some people just don't surface until midday at weekends, but are they the sort of people you want at your son's Christening?

Praise God and pass the judgey pants! Lying in is a character defect? Oh my!

I managed to get to a christening for 9.15 which was an hour away from my house (with my toddler twin terrors] so it is possible

Yes, it may be early but it is a one off important event that others should make an effort for.

How rude, it may be a little early on a Sunday, but so what, its a one off. If people can't make a bit of effort then sod em.

YANBU. It's the time it is and if your friends send family realise the importance , to you, of the occasion, they should be there. Mind you, we get to church at 8.30 for the tedddies' service twice a month!

It would be early for us, we are of the lazy Sunday morning variety, however I certainly would not complain and saying you would only turn up for the after part is rude unless you are far away, have to use public transport or something.

Our CofE church holds separate services for baptism, it isn't part of the main service, which is a bit unusual I think, but certainly makes it easier timing wise, both of ours were early afternoon.

YANBU. Not much you can do about it, and if they can't make the effort to come, then that's a shame.

Agree with the poster who points out Catholic christenings tend to be later!

Its too early. But as I one off its fine.
if you expected me to give up my lazy Sunday morning every week it would be different. But its once.
Unfortunately christenings are not important to a lot of people.

It's not that early. Especially as these families presumably have no problem getting up and out for school/work earlier than that. But that's not the point. I'm glad, on reading the thread, to see that the tide has turned away from the "sorry, it is early" stance. Using the time as an excuse for possibly not coming is pathetically lazy on their part so you are perfectly reasonable in finding it rubbish! Also, it's not as if you're the one setting the time. It's completely out of your control! I can't believe they're even commenting on it. it's not as if you're suggesting they come round at 9.30 for a party or shopping, in which the timing is in any way up for negotiation. How extremely rude of them. As others have said, if they can't commit to coming to the important bit, then tell them that you won't be including them for catering purposes afterwards.

One more thing cathycomehome: it's not a question of you asking them to give up their precious Sunday lie-in. Rather, you are inviting them to share in a special occasion! They are privileged to be asked and should jolly well act that way, rather than making you feel like you are dragging them out of their warm beds against their will. If a christening doesnt mean anything to them and they don't want to go, then they can just say "sorry, we won't be able to make it" rather than making it so blindingly obvious how unimportant your special occasion is to them.

I get up to take my DD to her swimming club for 7.00am on a sat and 9.00 every Sunday.

Having a lie in is great. Treating it as some kind of life necessity is fucking weird.
Just get up. Have a nap later if you must.

I totally get where youre coming from op.

AFAIK most all churches want baptism to take place during the normal church service, precisely because the ceremony is about welcoming the child into the church. The days when it was a 3 o'clock in the afternoon affair and disconnected from the normal congregation are long gone. Therefore if people actually want to turn up to celebrate with you in a genuine way, then why on earth would they make pathetic excuses?

I am also flummoxed by some of the inconsistency on here. We frequently hear from people complaining that their young kids wake at the crack of dawn so how come it's so hard to be ready by 9.30 as a one off? And 9.30 is way later than working people will be used to getting up for anyway. If you have a job you're probably out of the door by 8am latest, if you have school kids you have to get them there well before 9... Is it really so hard to get up on a Sunday for a once in a lifetime event for the child? As for those saying they'll skip the service but come for nibbles- bloody cheek, tell them not to bother.

If people really aren't sufficiently bothered about a baptism to make the effort then they should have the balls to say so, not pretend its just too hard to get up and out of the house

Goodness me, of course I'd get up for a christening, particularly if I knew it was important t the parents that I be there.

How hard could it be?

Blimey how do you lot get your dcs to school . You might feel its quite early to start your Sunday but surely as its a one off and a christening you would just make a bit of effort. Not much you can do about timings when the church dictates?

YANBU, and sadly it seems you have some very rude friends who think it's ok to complain to your face. Even more so the ones that want to turn up just for the free food and drinks - that's pretty scruffy behaviour (unless they're old, infirm etc or live miles away).

It could be 5am for all I care, if were considered a close enough friend to be invited to a Christening then I would go no matter how early because it is a one off important event. It isn't like the OP is asking them to go every Sunday is it?

The OP has explained it is a rural church with a shared vicar. That is when the service is, there is no choice. 9.30 is a pretty reasonable hour of the day.

I wonder if people could just about struggle to get their arses to an airport for 9.30am?

YANBU.

I get up early, no matter what day it is so would be happy to attend.

However even if you don't, surely you would make the effort for just one Sunday?

If not, and the prospect of a lie in is just too tempting the surely you refuse the invitation?

You either want to go or not.

Our local church service is 9.30

It is too early, especially as DD sings in the choir sometimes and has been known to be needed at 9.am.

DD2 and I have been known to remember we are atheists and send her with DH.

However, babies only get christened once. So they can shift their lazy arses.

Well, that's just it, we only lie in on a Sunday because we generally can. If we needed to get up we would, just like during the week.

I'm afraid my family would laugh in my face and assume i was joking if i tried to arrange a gathering at that time on a sunday. Not because they're a bunch of lazy sods but because they work all week and quite like having one day a week where they do not have to be up at the crack of dawn, me excluded of course as my little darling is a very early riser. I recently attended my nephew's christening at the very reasonable time of 12pm.