I am considering a tummy tuck. DS is 4 months and I got massive with him, I had excess amniotic fluid, plus he was big so I ended up with an emergency c-section when he couldn't come out. I put on 4 stone in the pregnancy which I have now lost and am a size 8 again, but my stomach just looks horrendous. It is really wrinkly and there is so much skin just hanging down. There is no way this amount of skin will shrink back before anyone suggests that might happen, there is just massively too much skin there. This didn't happen with my first dc.
I feel really awful about it. I can't stand dh touching me or even hinting about having sex - it makes me cry every time. We used to be very close and have a great sex life. I know dh is desperate for a physical relationship again (so am I, I just can't!), but I imagine that if we started having sex, he would very quickly lose his erection because he'd be so disgusted with himself for shagging something so gross. :( I can't shake that thought and it makes me cry. I am on anti-depressants which have helped I think - I still think/feel the same but I am more able to put it out of my mind now, so I only cry when the subject comes up, not all the time anymore.
I had a consultation and was advised I am ideal for surgery as I have loads of skin and not much fat. However it would cost £5,000. Dh says he understands and we can do this if I chose to, but it would mean me going back to work earlier. I love my dc and want to spend as much time as possible with them, especially as baby ds is my last baby. Is it mad to leave him a few months earlier than I have to, just for this? I want to see if we can get a mortgage holiday for 6 months, which would allow me to pay for the surgery and stay on mat leave, but dh won't entertain the idea in case one of us loses our job or an emergency happens and we need it but have used it up. So AIBU/WWYD?
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MikeOxard · 11/11/2012 15:46
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