to think no one else would go mad about this!

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Im sitting crying cause im sick of it. Pathetic.
Cbeebies is on for lo and oh started watching tele on his phone so my exact words are "if you play with lo you can change the channel" he throw his phone on the floor and started shouting dont tell me what to fucking do. why do you have to be involved i can do what i want. if i want to watch tv on my phone its nothing to do with you. i said i only said you can change the channel and he said its nothing to do with u and stormed off upstairs. leaving me with lo like i lool after her all day amd night myself.
Aibu to think no one else would react like this as he says everyone would.
Lo is 4months so when i say play if she gets upset give her toy back and shes fine and happy x

IME. men don't like to be told how to do things. If he was looking after LO leave him to it!!

Oh I wouldn't stress yourself op. People do give great advice on here too. Just take what you want from it and ignore the rest.

He is being a twat.

The thing about tv is that it is just pretty lights at this age, so the row could've been avoided by everyone getting on with their day and watching the tv they would normally (minus shouty/swearing violent stuff which does seen to unsettled babies) most people aren't trying to say baby tv is bad - just that it's unnecessary.

I think maybe he feels like he us having to compromise too much and you feel like he isn't compromising enough? I think you need to try and talk to each other calmly and find a middle way.

honestly OP try the Relationship board, its really supportive and there are lots of people with experience and advice. People just come on AIBU to be bitchy to each other

i get bullied enough at home thanks.

Great.
If its so bad why do you stay? Why did you ave a baby with this man?

You both sound really stroppy and short-tempered, tbh.

Do you 3 feel better now?

OP - AIBU can be a bit of a bear pit sometimes - post again on Relationships section for more support about your relationship with this man. You shouldn't be feeling bullied by this man.

Ophelia, that is an unnecessarily bitchy comment. Hope it made you feel good.

Tv aside, op is obviously upset and rightly so. Why do people just look to put the boot in? Nasty.

[[Journal Reference:
Christakis et al. Audible Television and Decreased Adult Words, Infant Vocalizations, and Conversational Turns: A Population-Based Study. Archives of Pediatrics and Adolescent Medicine, 2009; 163 (6): 554 DOI: 10.1001/archpediatrics.2009.61 research]]

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SOrry, first link doesn't seem to work.

Your "d"p sounds like an arse to have reacted like that, but tbh you don't sound much better by throwing a strop over the responses to this thread. They're perfectly reasonable (and backed up by research).

This is really spiteful, the poor op could be in an emotionally abusive relationship and rather than try to help or see that her dp was being unreasonable, some of you bang on about telly You should be ashamed really.

op - he was being a twat. Go to relationships and post there

Was responding to a query from justabigdisco

Keep your knickers on.

This is AIBU, after all.

I am not ashamed.

AIBU is not a licence to be an unfeeling dick.

Op has got all defensive because she started a thread to get support and to vent. All she has got is sneering know it alls using her upset to make themselves feel superior.

Lizzy, I am not an unfeeling dick.

I did answer her question; I thought her partner was BU.

I was responding to a poster up the thread.

The Mumsnet nest of vipers at its best. What a nasty lot you can be at times.

Ok, so OP perhaps made a slight mistake by posting this in AIBU. Give the poor girl a break. You're talking about her being bullied at home? The bullying on here is disgusting! I can't imagine any of you lot talking like that to someone you know in real life in the same situation. What a lot of cowards you are, hiding behind a keyboard.

Gosh you are cross Cote.

OP didn't mean for thread to be hijacked.

Hope you and DP make it up.

What was he watching? Maybe he was watching something too adult for dc?

No, not cross Gup, just find it a bit unbelievable that grown women can behave like this.

There was absolutely no need for some of these responses.

Can only imagine that some of you are having particularly unhappy lives days to feel the need to jump on the op like that and try to make her feel bad about her parenting choices on top of the problems she is already having with her partner.

Exactly Lizzy and the others posting the same thing, so brave behind a keyboard. Let's kick some poor woman she's down. Nice.

Op please go into relationships on this site it's in the body and soul bit, there is a thread support for those in emotionally abusive relationships . The links at the start of the thread might help you and the posters have experience of these sort of behaviours from partners, it's nasty and unacceptable to blow up like that , hope you are feeling better .