to think no one else would go mad about this!

[worldofmyown]

Im sitting crying cause im sick of it. Pathetic.
Cbeebies is on for lo and oh started watching tele on his phone so my exact words are "if you play with lo you can change the channel" he throw his phone on the floor and started shouting dont tell me what to fucking do. why do you have to be involved i can do what i want. if i want to watch tv on my phone its nothing to do with you. i said i only said you can change the channel and he said its nothing to do with u and stormed off upstairs. leaving me with lo like i lool after her all day amd night myself.
Aibu to think no one else would react like this as he says everyone would.
Lo is 4months so when i say play if she gets upset give her toy back and shes fine and happy x

I used to put ds3 In front of cbeebies at that age when I needed the toilet or something. He would stop demanding my attention for a few minutes. Sometimes even long enough for me to make a cup of tea. I love cbeebies.

Playing with babies can be really boring and it sounds like he just didn't want to make the effort. Used to drive me crazy when exp would do and say similar, I'd have spent all day singing and waving toys around and it was too much of a ball ache for him to have a go for a bit, when all I wanted was to feel like an adult for 10 minutes and not a children's entertainer.

Is he stroppy and lazy in general? Sounds like this is a combination of alot of stuff.

I know maddening but you know people enjoy making others feel worse. if i want an arguement i can go upstairs to oh.
I now know from people that were being helpful that it wasnt just me that though oh was being pathetic x

Why give the OP a bashing about the tv? Because you can? It was a perfectly reasonable question about her partner's behaviour.
The equivalent would be: AIBU to be annoyed that the dog ate my brown shoes? Then everyone lays into me for wearing brown shoes.
Give the OP a break FFS.
Yes world your partner's behaviour was ridiculous and twatty.

Yeah hes always tired (lazy) but i look after our child despite being extremely ill since giving birth. i dont conplain to him x

Thank you everyone that saw the point and didnt want to insult me for no reason x

Wow this site is like children in a playground. so sorry perfect parents!

Total overreaction and really horrid way to speak with you op.
I would nip in bud, or else your dd is going to have a fabulous vocab listening to his bad language and rants and you are going to be feeling much worse.
Are you still ill? You don't deserve to be spoken to like that at all. Noone does.

maybe it sounded from his point of view that you were giving him an ultimatumrather than a choice. perhaps he waswatching something totally unsuitable;or perhaps he thought he was being helpful..... which caused the unexpected reaction

With a four month old everything is so exhausting and frustrating - lack of sleep, feeling crappy about yourself, especially if you've been poorly too. It is so hard and mind numbing with a baby and it's even worse when you have no support.

I think you need to talk to him about him pulling his weight and his general attitude. If you're both tired you are going to be snappy and short tempered with each other, everyone ends up miserable. Probably not the best time to talk to him tonight though.

or do what I did and just get rid of the grown up brat, no one throws things and stomps off in my house anymore

Yes im still really unwell. still very weak and getting scans and everything to see if tgere is any damage done as i had a very traumatising birth xxx

If you are a qualified childcare practitioner, then surely you understand how important it is for children to have carers who model loving relationships and exercise self-control over their moods and behaviours.

This isn't really about TV, so let's leave that. Your partner's reaction is unacceptable. In your own words, he's constantly stroppy and short tempered over ridiculous things. If this doesn't change, it'll create a really toxic atmosphere for you and your child. Is this the kind of relationship you want your daughter to have? Because if he doesn't change and you stay with him, that's what you're teaching her to expect.

I would really advise you to look into some options for him to learn to control his outbursts. Could you investigate counselling, getting recommendations from his GP, anger management, parenting classes...? Something needs to change because this is no way for you & your daughter to live, always on tenterhooks, fearing the next explosion.

I'm not really sure why the channel needed to be changed but your partner was certainly BU in his reaction.

I'd also be interested to read any 'research' which 'proves' that TV is bad for children's brains.

It is an over reaction to shout, swear or throw. Is this usual behaviour for him?

However

I would fuck off to another room if I was told I had to play with my four year old to be allowed to watch tv.

If my 9 yo wants to watch HH when 2 yo dd is already watching something I would ask him if would play with his sister whilst he watched it.

Surely the adults in the house have equally autonomy over what the 4 mo old baby does and what you choose to watch on tv?

I have a 3 month old, so OP I'm sending you a much-needed

You seem like you're trying your best and are rightfully upset at the disrespect shown to both you and your DD from your partner.

Does he work? Does he help out practically with her? Does he give you emotional support? Do you have anyone in RL you can get support from?

Sorry for all the questions, don't answer if you don't want.

"Anyway i am a childcare practioner and teach the EYFS if you dont know what that is feel free to look it up."

Yeah, me too, and nowhere does it advocate TV usage with children in the EYFS It's strongly advised to avoid TV usage under the age of 3 iirc. Certainly at least before 2. As others have said, this is because research shows it's not good for children. Being a childcare practitioner does not make you superior nor does it mean that you know all.

Will try to find the research I've been looking at, it's dug in the rest of my bloody research somewhere

Back to the AIBU:
YANBU to be pissed off with him. He sounds like a dick.

Jesus...OP I would start a new thread in Relationships...so that people can help you with the actual issue. Then you wont have to deal with the AIBU shrieky fools, banging on about babies watching tele...

To your initial question:

No no one should get upset in this way about such a simple question

Having established that, you really do need to look at your relationship. You are going through a difficult time (new baby, health problems for you), a testing time for you, for him and for your relationship. But now do you think he has raised to the challenge? Is he helping you? Is he finding his place as a dad? Does he look after his dd etc...?

IME. men don't like to be told how to do things. If he was looking after LO leave him to it!!

I totally agree that its not acceptable behaviour infront of a child.
i didnt say he had to plat with her i meant just keep an eye while i washed bottles etc x

YANBU.

Oh dear. Well both my dc watched the tv as babies, some people really are a little OTT about this.
And your oh sounds rude op. Is he having a bad day or is this normal behaviour?

In all honesty i am leaving this thread and also website.
Im sick of the smart arse comments, digs and hurtful comments. i get bullied enough at home thanks.
Thank you to those helpful x