Poss sensitive - To think this DJ was ridiculous and tell the radio station?

[WelshMaenad]

Driving about this afternoon and my local radio station played "Small Bump" by Ed Sheeran. As you may know, this is about a baby who was stillborn at four months, which is revealed at the end if the song (lyrics " you're just a small bump unborn for four months, then torn from life. Maybe you were needed up there, but we're still unaware as why). I don't expect EVERYONE to know this, but would expect someone who plays songs for a living to be aware.

The DJ came in after the song finished and said (paraphrasing) "Awwww, that's such a cute song, playing that for everyone who is pregnant at the moment!". Which, bearing in mind it's about someone LOSING a baby, is pretty fucking insensitive.

AIBU to think that she should have been aware what the song was about (or maybe just bloody listened to it properly as she played it?) and WIBU to contact the radio station, not in a 'disgusted of Tunbrudge Wells' way, more to say look, she really ought to know better, and this could have caused upset, you might want to ensure it doesn't happen again and hire more intelligent DJs

Our wedding video (got married in Rome, so perhaps the language barrier can partially explain) has Easy like Sunday morning as a backing track

Have checked another interview online re it being the singer's own baby - he says "It's quite a touchy subject, so I wrote it from the perspective of actually being the parent". Elsewhere seems clear it was a friend, not his child.
Just seems odd if we're on a thread about getting things wrong, shouldn't do it ourselves!

Lunatic I wasn't correcting you, you're right about dates of course, just correcting the age of the baby in question.

lady in red was a popular "our song" for ages! even though it was commonly thought to be about shagging the babysitter behind the wife's back

first dance wedding songs I've heard:
Angie by rolling stones "with no loving in our souls and no money in our coats you can't say we're satisfied, hey angie aint it time we said goodbye"
Under the bridge by chilli peppers, about heroin
Eric clapton you look wonderful tonight (about being a piss-head husband whose wife has to help him into bed)
The las, there she goes again (pulsing through my veins).. about heroin

could go on

and the total opposite, appropriate lyrics with inappropriate melody: "songs of love" (also known as the father ted theme song, used to walk down the isle, couple had NO sense of humour about the sniggers because we weren't listening to the words)

Radio presenters very often do pick their own music - depends on the station. By all means let her know, as obviously she didn't, but a really nice friendly email rather than a criticism.

I think it's an understandable mistake with this song. DP and I saw it performed on tv a few months ago and had a whole debate about what it was about. Easy to miss.

OP - a polite email wouldn't do any harm I don't think. Sounds like it was a genuine mistake on the DJ's part so you're just being helpful by emailing.

no mammamary... not that one......... similar title

I don't suppose it matters if it was his child or not, the sentiment is still very touching.

All that hope early on, and then a two-line disaster at the end.

It is very apt for the sudden grief following such hope that miscarriage or stillbirth brings. Which of course makes it a good song, it is so emotive.

I know exactly what you mean MrsDeV. I haven't (technically) had a miscarriage, but had a couple of failed ivf's where I grieved for my embryos in a way that few people understood. To me, one day they were children (even if only potential children), then suddenly, bang, they were gone .

Perfect Day is another one that's often played at weddings - also about heroin.

I want to know the funeral song too!!

This thread has led me to look up a song I haven't heard for ages, which like Small Bump is a man's perspective on pregnancy loss (in this case, a father when his wife miscarried) so quite rare.
Sad, but sometimes that's what you need.

(don't understand why the funeral song can't be posted?)

Is the funeral song Angel by Sarah McLachlan tazzle?

When I was on the maternity ward someone had a request played on hospital radio. 'Like a Virgin' Maddonna

Someone in serious denial there, Littlemiss.

I cringe whenever i hear 'You're Gorgeous' by Babybird used in cutesy ways - it's about some young girl being forced into getting her kit off for some sleazy old bloke. And I'm not that keen on 'Wonderful Tonight': I know the chorus is very romantic but I just get mental pictures of a pissed Eric Clapton making Patti Boyd drive him home and put him to bed because he's completely out of it while George Harrison lurks angrily in the background.

Lou Reed emphatically denies that Perfect Day is about heroin. He wrote another song about drugs called 'Heroin'.
It is apparently a love song about his soon to be wife. Only when it was used in the film Trainspotting did it the rumours about drug references begin.

We used it at our wedding and checked it out beforehand :P

Funeral song?

Ah, but my first boyfriend sang "You look wonderful tonight" to me, so I don't care what it means, I still have a very soft spot for it.

YANBU, definitely email.

Would guess funeral song has been mentioned on thread already.

Think tazzle is probably concerned that revealing might upset someone who has used the song not knowing its real meaning.

"Think tazzle is probably concerned that revealing might upset someone who has used the song not knowing its real meaning"

but by making a mystery of it people have been naming loads of other possible funeral songs therefore making it more likely to mention a song that someone has used IYKWIM

tazzle hasn't been back, though, has she?

I think by this stage it would be better to just name it, if anyone knows which song she meant.

but the fact that perfect day may not originally have been about heroin (and lady in red MIGHT not have been about the babysitter) doesn't mean they aren't inappropriate as that is what they are now commonly associated with

Like with songs of love, doesn't matter that its not about funny pissed priests, because that's what people HEAR

This thread is interesting. I assumed the funeral song was Angels.

I like misunderstood songs played at weddings especially though, very entertaining! I was hoping my sister would pick one last year when she married, but she and her DH chose JLS Then all of her guests on Twitter and FB tried to get JLS to retweet wedding congratulations but the stupid bastards completely ignored every one of us, yet were happily retweeting every-single-other-bloody request. Still annoys me even though it's stupid as it wasn't even them but their PR person for a start.