Poss sensitive - To think this DJ was ridiculous and tell the radio station?

[WelshMaenad]

Driving about this afternoon and my local radio station played "Small Bump" by Ed Sheeran. As you may know, this is about a baby who was stillborn at four months, which is revealed at the end if the song (lyrics " you're just a small bump unborn for four months, then torn from life. Maybe you were needed up there, but we're still unaware as why). I don't expect EVERYONE to know this, but would expect someone who plays songs for a living to be aware.

The DJ came in after the song finished and said (paraphrasing) "Awwww, that's such a cute song, playing that for everyone who is pregnant at the moment!". Which, bearing in mind it's about someone LOSING a baby, is pretty fucking insensitive.

AIBU to think that she should have been aware what the song was about (or maybe just bloody listened to it properly as she played it?) and WIBU to contact the radio station, not in a 'disgusted of Tunbrudge Wells' way, more to say look, she really ought to know better, and this could have caused upset, you might want to ensure it doesn't happen again and hire more intelligent DJs

It is a very lovely song.

But the last two lines are:

You were just a small bump unborn for four months then torn from life.
Maybe you were needed up there but we're still unaware as why.

It invariably makes me cry. Especially when ds2 sings it.

I think the four months thing is the wrong way round - it is four months prior to being born (so stillbirth is correct term). I only know that as I was looking for music on this theme after mcs and read that he wrote it when a friend of his lost her baby at 6 months.

Bit sloppy of the DJ I think.

It would be a nice gesture to email them to let them know, they can't be expected to listen to and understand the lyrics of every song played.

Tazzle whats the song please ? Would you pm me ?

It's strange how people get so mixed up as to what songs are about, I once knew an old lady who was outraged whenever she heard "March of the Siamese Children" from the musical "The King and I". To her, the only "Siamese children" were Siamese twins and she thought it was disrespectful!

Just take Young hearts run free as an example of not listened to lyrics-how many weddings has that song been played over the years, and yet it's really not about happy marriage:

"What's the sense in sharing, this one and only life
Ending up, just another lost and lonely wife
You count up the years, and they will be filled with tears
Love only breaks up, to start over again
You'll get the babies, but you won't have your man
While he is busy loving, every woman that he can ("aahh haa")
Say I want to leave a thousand times a day
It's easier said that done
When I just can't break away ("just can't break away") "

I dont think it would be unreasonable to email the station so that the DJ doesn't faux pas again. I doubt they ever listen top whole song.

I remember going to see James Morrison an when he introduced one of the songs he said he gets a lot of people saying they had it as their first dance song but he said he didn't think it was appropriate and they hadnt understood what the lyrics were written about.

When I chose our wedding music I made sure I researched all the lyrics and meanings as I remembered this [geek]

Could someone tell me the funeral song please?

Can someone tell me the funeral song too please.

I need to know what the funeral song is too please

Another curious as to tazzles funeral song?

If I was the DJ I would definitely want someone to tell me what the song was actually about. I am sure she meant no harm by what she said but as someone who is very heavily pregnant and suffered a missed miscarriage last year I can only imagine how much offense and hurt the DJ's comments could have potentially caused.

A few years ago I gave the lyrics of two songs that were played at a school concert to the Head Teacher. The songs were totally inappropriate for the context they were being played in. I made it clear I wasn't complaining just saying 'you're lucky no one has complained about that and maybe you should check on that before the concert next year?'

I am sure that sort of thing happens a lot mameulah........... the tune and chorus are what most of us actually listen to.

Would also like to know funeral song please!!

I'm very curious about the funeral song.

I always listen to lyrics, but not everyone does I suppose. Stupid mistake from the DJ and I can see why it could be upsetting.

I also have a NICU graduate and I can't hear Wires without a little tear.

TwitchyTail - I read that he had wrote it about his nephew.

Ed Sheeran actually wrote the song while his gf was still pregnant. The last two lines were added when she sadly suffered a miscarriage. It's probably why people make the mistake about the intent of the song as the rest of it is about his excitement about waiting to meet his child :(

I went to a wedding where the first dance was to 'no regrets' Scott Walker They chose it too...

I know your leaving is to long overdue
For far to long I've had nothing new to show to you
Goodbye, dry eyes
I watched your plane fade off west of the moon
Than I felt so strange to walk away alone
No regrets, no tears goodbye
Don't want you back
We'd only cry again
Say goodbye again
The ours that were yours echo like empty rooms
But the thoughts we used to share
I now keep alone
I woke last night and spoke to you
Not thinking you were gone
Than it felt so strange lay awake alone
Our friends have tried to turn my nights to day
Strange faces in your place
Can't keep the ghosts away
But just beyond the darkest our
Just behind the dawn
It still feels so strange to lead my life alone

As i said

I went to a wedding and they played Band of Gold. Sadly not the first dance!

I can't really comment on inappropriate wedding songs, I walked down the aisle to Good Riddance by Green Day.

The registrar hit the wrong button on the cd machine at my wedding. We were meant to end up with 'whole lotta love' by Led Zep and ended up with some tragic song containing the lines 'Babe I'm gonna leave you tomorrow' or some such. We didn't even notice but my mum screeched 'WHAT'S THAT??????' :)

I don't think I know the song but it sounds sad.

What's the funeral song please?

Tazzles, is the song Robbie Williams' Angels? It's common at funerals. Haven't analysed the lyrics though.