To have asked a 4 year old and 2 year old to let me sit down in the Doctors pharmacy?

[CandyLoo]

At a small, tightly packed, busy pharmacy opposite Doctors surgery.
3 chairs (barely any standing room).
A lady, and the 2 children taking up the 3 chairs.
2 children not ill, in there with their Mum collecting a prescription.
No free chairs, I asked if I could sit in one of the chairs.
Mum moved one of her children, the other moved to stand with her sister.
Mutterings from the lady next to me, and when she left, said rather pointedly to the child, 'Here you are love, sit in my seat'. They left soon after.
By this stage, the pharmacy was very busy, I have no qualms giving up my seat to anyone older than me or simply if anyone needs it.
AIBU? The lady sitting next to me obviously thought I was, rude comments about me to her husband when she was outside.

Leave the bastard!!!!

Bupcakes that made me laugh!

Bupcakes A fag aged 7?

'Excuse me Sir, you appear to have dropped your wallet.'
That's where I've been going wrong... Usually I'd shout 'Oi, cunty!' and slap them in the face with said wallet.

YABRidiculouslyU OP. People insisting it's about respect are being equally ridiculous.

Yeah I asked her what a fag was like so she lit one and handed it over

And to think that if she had got on a bus, some well-meaning parent might have made their kid stand for her! She was a terror!

Bupcakes She sounds... Interesting! :o That's what puts me off, I know loads of people like that where I live, the thought of a poor kid giving them a seat out of "respect" makes my skin crawl!

Oh and respect is earned, not something that you're automatically entitled to just because YOU dropped out of your mum's vadge fifty years before someone else.

Yes it's nice to show GOOD MANNERS to people and offer seats/hold doors, but thinking that strangers owe you respect merely by dint of what fucking year you were born in, well, shit the bed.

This is ridiculous.

Bups

Love your attitude.

Ooh I can add to this- live! Am on a bus right now squeezed between pushchair and window. A woman with another pushchair just got on. 2 elderly men offered to move from the priority seats incase there wasn't room for pushchair (there was anyway). She said yes and then got child out of buggy and sat down herself, leaving the 2 oaps standing and the foldable umbrella pushchair empty and taking up the other pushchair space. Clearly not a MNer, even I feel like having a froth

can't see why the need to change now is what they said about slavery/racism/women to vote/child labour/ that is not a valid agreement.

Thats almost as stupid a point as whoever shreiked about making children stand on planes.
It may not be a valid argument for slavery et al but since we are talking about manners and not, you know, genocide and people stealing, I'm going to go out on a limb and say that its quite a different thing.

"Oh and respect is earned, not something that you're automatically entitled to just because YOU dropped out of your mum's vadge fifty years before someone else."

Arf! I luffs you! :o

Child back in pushchair but shopping now on seat..... Everyone standing like sardines, It's broken Britain I tell ya!

Oh and respect is earned, not something that you're automatically entitled to just because YOU dropped out of your mum's vadge fifty years before someone else.

Except you aren't going to earn respect from strangers in a 5 minute meeting in a chemist. Which is exactly the point of why you assume that someone aged 50 has done more to earn your respect than someone aged 2. Thats the whole point of having manners.
Isn't that obvious?

If I was in the same situation I would have let the kids stay sat down and I am pregnant, you probably had to stand up for, what, a few minutes? Sheer laziness and entitlement.

No one should assume that someone deserves their respect.

"Respect your elders, they've been around longer, know more, and work harder. Give them your pampered childs seat!"

My bollocks detector has just exploded.

Respect your elders, they've been around longer, know more, and work harder. Give them your pampered childs seat!

Really

All of them?

Lots of the older people I gave up my seat for sat down and proceeded to slag off my school. DH had exactly the same experience!

Virgina, that's because you don't have to respect random strangers wandering around in pharmacies.

You really really don't.

Narked I would have piped up and said "well, if that's the case I'll have my seat back then". :o

Virginia I used children standing on planes as an allegory of how ridiculous the notion of children having to stand for all adults was. I didn't "shriek" anything.

Clearly that went straight over your head.

LOL at live update

"Except you aren't going to earn respect from strangers in a 5 minute meeting in a chemist. Which is exactly the point of why you assume that someone aged 50 has done more to earn your respect than someone aged 2. Thats the whole point of having manners.
Isn't that obvious?"

Manners is something that you should dhow to everyone, not just because they're sodding well older than you. That is ridiculous. And OP is whining about not getting any respect (is she Phil Mitchell?) and I am telling her that respect is EARNED, not your God-given right. If someone wishes to be kind and give you their seat then that is nice but their prerogative. They don't HAVE to do this just because she has a few years on them.

Bupcakes is spot on.

Freaky I totally agree.

I think PickledFanjoCat has the same detector that I have. Need to get it calibrated as it's going off all the time.