to say to people I am not a girl, I am a woman.

[blueraincoat]

Just that really.

It really, really grates when people call me a girl. I am not a girl, I am a woman, I haven't been a girl for a while now. I just find it incredibly patronising. Whenever I say this people sigh or tell me I am being pedantic. Am I the only one this gets to?!

well I do call my BF a boy quite a lot and he is forty.......

Why ever not? Were you facing the wrong way?

Come on blueraincoat, let's form a women's society and leave the girls to...whatever girls do.

YANBU grates with me too. I am not a girl. I am in my 30s, have a mortgage, am married, have 3 DC. I am a grown up woman.

thisis - of course you have to turn around else how will anyone else know what you said to anyone else if they're all busy turning round saying stuff? See?

"She is a good girl"

What an asshole. Jeez.

I don't know Nelly. it's just 'this woman' sounded harsh for some reason. Maybe 'customer'?

Blooming hell it's just an expression, like seing the lads tonight kind if thing. Really some f you lot take things too seriously

I am the boss and if anyone at work called me a girl I would stamp on their toes.

They just wouldn't though. I don't get why people would find it flattering. It doesn't actually mean they think you are youthful and rosy y'know...

However if my Granny was still alive I'd let her off.

Girls turn. Women perspire.

See I don't mind it at all. The menfolk at work are 'lads'

I don't really mind any of the 'love' 'duck' 'mate' 'darling' things either

Doesn't bother me in the slightest.

We do say 'lass' rather than girl though

Although if my Granny was still alive she would call me a 'wee besom' so it probably wouldn't come up.

Thisis Haha

As I said depends on the context, I just wanted to see if it was just me.

But you ARE a luffly girl aries

(We meet again, mmmmwah-hah-hah)

:)

Gibhag in a professional setting you would nt use that phrase. I would hate to be called hey you nearly 40 year old woman, much prefer girl

You don't have to refer to someone's age in order to not call them 'girl'. It doesn't bother you, fine...but it would bother me. However I can think of anyone under the age of about 80 that would refer to me as a 'girl'. Which suits me fine.

CAN'T

(I have very stupid fingers)

I just googled 'definition of girl' and it says female child or a persons daughter' which I guess we all are the latter.

Synonyms do include wench and damsel though which I'm not too keen on.

i always say good morning ladies in work.

I can't believe that people spend so much any time at all worrying about this stuff? really? I have no idea If anyone refers to me as a girl or anything else and frankly I couldn't care less.

It depends on who says it. I do not want to be referred to as a girl at work, or by my DC's teachers/carers, or the Tesco delivery man and what have you.

Among my friends and family though it doesn't bother me in the slightest.

My granny,who was Irish,called everyone good gersha (female) or good gossan (male) regardless of age.