...to put tights on my DS?

[DingDongBelle]

DS (18mo) is a Warmth Refuser. He will not wear a hat, scarf, gloves, socks, boots or shoes. Attempts to apply these items to him are met with screaming.

I fight them all onto him and leave the house: hat usually removed by doorstep. Scarf and gloves by the gate. Before we've been out ten minutes he will have his socks and shoes off and I will have wrestled him into his coat a couple of times.

I've taken to layering him up like a woolly little onion (vest, gro, tshirt, hoodie, etc) to keep him warm but he will not wear shoes and I can't shop for pretty house stuff essentials while he's screaming. BUT his little toes are freezing by the time we get home.

I want to put woolly tights under his trousers. DH is highly upset at the idea. AIBU?

Mumsnet Jury: GO!

I'm from Northern Europe and nobody would even consider NOT putting tights on boys in the winter. It's cold, tights are practical, why not?

Thanks all. Just to clarify: DH is not in any way homophobic. We are both in the theatre (in the literal sense, not the euphemistic one ) and have many gay friends. There is just something about the tights that makes him very cross.

Context; he has no style. He rejected a birthday present jumper for himself a few weeks ago for being "fancy" (it had three small buttons on the collar).

You may have cracked it with the footballer thing. No H&M in our town oh well will have to go to Norwich shops

Right I'm off to buy essentials tights :) Thanks, mumsnet geniuses

I put thights on my ds and he is 19 months.

I got DS's from H+M, though I had to order online as when I asked the assistant where the boys tights were she looked aghast, and I had to tell her "yes you do sell them". Not sure if they are available in shop in bigger stores

YABU, he'll catch the gay

Yes...of course!! I always put tights on my son and changed to long-johns when he started school!! Who cares what anybody thinks! Baby comes first!!

Spiderman tights?? I want some for myself

Have you seen Swedish men? Big Viking types into ice hockey and and jumping into frozen lakes ;) men from Stockholm were voted the sexiest men in the world this year.

OP yanbu, maybe buy some tights for your dp too ;)

And still, some shops are so crazy in Sweden they don't even have separate categories for boys clothes and girls clothes. They just sell tights and tops and trousers by age and you are totally free to decide if you want to put this particular item of clothing on your DD or DS. World has not ended yet.

really honey! DH is from stockholm, he does wear long-johns all winter...

Tights are fine.

But you can also get cute leg warmers. DS2 had some last winter and they were great as he couldn't manage to get them off!

My (nearly) 13 yo DS is toast-rack thin and wears a plain white shirt and his Next blazer.
No vest.No jumper.
"I'm a winter baby" he retorts (when I threaten to sew him into his lovely M&S wool mix jumper, lovingly bought but worn once )

He plays rugby/outdoor PE in his polo top if he "can't be bovvered " reaching into his bag for his proper rugby shirt.(They do have nice jersey line trackie bums though)

He hasn't caught The Gay but TBH he hasn't caught many colds either

I think the longjohns are so sexy! Shows off their manly legs ;) (they fully grown Stockholm men)

How about putting him into a giant onesie/babygrow with feet with shoes and a coat inside it? . . . Or maybe a one-piece warm suit with feet (can sew them on) with the zip secured by some soft of toddler-proof locking device?

For dh's information, they're not tights, they're socks with a gusset

For practicality, I use long johns rather than tights, because if their feet get wet (which will happen when they go for a pee 30 seconds before you have to leave the house) you only have to change socks.
With tights under trousers you'd have to strip them right back, and who CBA with that?

Oh yes, ds also has striped, multi-coloured, rainbow leg warmers!

I was forced to go to Norwich last week. They have a whole shop containing H&M Kids in Chapelfield now. I ran past it. I was warming up for running past both the Disney Store and that there one on the first floor which is in perpetual darkness and full of trendy teens with limp arms and floppy hair.

FFS that should read I'd use as in theoretically I would use not I use which would imply that I do put my boy in tights

Yes I would and do, ds has spider man ones from H&M

I used to wear tights under my jodhpurs when I went horseriding (extra layer, no extra bulk.Very important)
Then I bought some thermal leggingy things.
They were so un-elastitc that when I had my jodhs on I couldn't get on the bloomin' horse
The shame!

Lol@ ISeeThreadPeople

Checked with DH. Apparently trousers/gros with feet = perfectly acceptable. Spiderman tights = kinda acceptable. The footballer/Viking idea (I upgraded Swedish Men to Vikings for effect) helped.

He said its nothing to do with being gay. He just doesn't want DS to be bullied. By other 18mo's? DH was bullied as a kid quite badly so is a bit overprotective perhaps?

Still buying the tights. Id like to see DS trying to get them off

Maybe say to your dp there won't be any photographic evidence so ds won't get teased.

Yep, my son wore thick blue tights! He too would take shoes and socks off round town in the dead of winter, used to get dirty looks when he was waggling his bare feet around.

I have photos of him wearing them to bring out when he brings his first girlfriend home.

He might have a point about him being bullied if he goes to school in them, but hopefully by then he'll have the sense to keep his shoes on - or you'll have stopped caring!!

Put socks on under the tights for extra warmth and be prepared to have a child who looks 'odd' with legs 3ft long

Will he wear wellies?? Most little ones like them even if they hate shoes especially if they have some character on they like.

not at all unreasonable! all four of mine have worn tights as babies/toddlers.

h&m, m&s and john lewis will all have blue/red etc and there are a few sites online that do more boyish ones.

i am in norwich btw i notice there have been a few posters on this thread from norwich/norfolk. we have a fb group or norwich/norfolk mnetters and we meet up etc and are planning an xmas meal.out. if you are intetested in joining then pm me :)