Who is BU regarding DP's cousin trying it on with me?

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DP's cousin recently revealed his feelings for me.

His cousin only ever really see's me/us at parties or in a pub/club so now DP sneers and makes snide remarks when I get dressed up for said occasions, meeting girlfriends etc just in case cousin sees me and tries it on.

DP thinks it is my fault somehow for "letting it happen" but I have told him I put him (his cousin) firmly in his place.
He thinks I should tone it down and perhaps cousin wouldn't feel this way about me if I didn't wear nice clothes/heels/much make- up or style my hair.

I feel I should be able to dress up and go out without being made to feel bad about potential sleazes.

So who is BU?

Hi everyone,

I just wanted to say thank you for all of your comments, I was slightly shocked at the general consensus, I didn't realise he was being THAT unreasonable.

I spoke to him and explained how warped it is that he thinks I'm even partially to blame for someone being attracted to me, I explained how upset it had made me.
He was embarrassed and apologised, he's still not speaking to his cousin which doesn't really affect me.

YerMaw1989 Sorry for being vague.
The story:
I was out with friends in a club, he saw me and came over. I said hello and asked how he was (no reason not to at this point), he eyed me up and made a face when he thought I wasn't looking, but I ignored it.
Then he asked if I wanted a drink, I declined and he looked a bit put out and started to walk away. I turned back to my friends, carried on chatting/dancing etc. Cousin came back and asked me to 'go with him' (I assumed he meant to the bar?) I said no, he kept asking, which turned into begging, I kept saying no. I turned back around to my friends, then he grabbed me. DP's friend stepped him and cousin skulked off. He then rang me the next morning to say how much he liked me, knew it was wrong but still wanted me. I said "yes, it is wrong" and hung up.

He had never said/done anything before.

I forgot to add, after the conversation with DP, I went out clubbing with some friends looking nice etc. He had no issues at all with it.

I'm pleased you have been able to put him straight and that he has apologised.

The whole family sound as if they stopped evolving round about the time women got dragged back to caves by a hairy club-wielder. But perhaps your DH is retrievable. Good luck!