To be annoyed when my DS asks me to 'keep hold of my two year old' - in her house!

[TeaDr1nker]

I am having a rant, so forgive me but...

My DS has a 7 yr old, I have two children 6 and 2. She is having a kids halloween party tmrw, 6 yr old invited, 2 yr old not, when i said that when i drop off 6 yr old would she mind if i stay for a cup of tea? She said it was ok, (she offered to pick up my DD so that my son would not have to come into her house) but would i keep hold of him as she was making arts and crafts for the other kids to do.

I am a little tbh, it is her nephew, i am a little put out that she didn't invite him, i can understnad why - she is having other children in her house and she has others to supervise but i am upset that she hasn't asked my DS and me but i can see her point of view, although i don't agree as she is family.

But what has annoyed me is that I know she doesn't want my DS in her house, yes i know why but its not like he is hurricaine Sandy, all i have to do is give him some crayons/paper and he is happy as larry.

Am i over reacting, what do the MN jury think please.

what I don't get about this is that I CAN'T WAIT till my eldest gets to "drop and run" party age. What's not to like about having some bonus FREE 1:1 time to spend with your youngest?

I still HAVE to stay at all of my eldest's parties, as soon as I can drop'n'run you wont see me for dust, youngest and I will be off home for a nap for some quality time

Well queeny some people/adults just like a social occasion.

Quite right tea, parties for 6 year olds are different from parties for 2 year olds.

You were unreasonable to push for an invite for a toddler and did you to drink tea! If you had got toddler babysat and offered to actually help at the party then I imagine your dsis would have been delighted.

Pictish, love the 'up to high Hoolie' comment.

Please explain as want to use it.

I think it was the right decision. I have to say that I have been in the position of your sister and it didn't work out at all. The younger child was not able to join in the activities, my friend was trying to get the older children not to be too rowdy around younger child and I had another 2 people to take care of when I was hardly managing to keep on top of things with 15 boys around.

Believe me, I love my friend, but that day I had too much work to do and nobody to help me to do it, my friend offered to help but obviously, with a young child they needed more attention from me than I could give them at the time. And frankly, the younger child didn't seem to be having a good time either :-(

Up to high hoolie - stressed, freaking out.

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3 good reasons why yabu. Give your sister a flipping break!

Of course YWBU!
She is hosting a party for 6 and 7 yr olds, was even kind enough to offer to collect yours (I'd have thought she had enough to do!) but you were rude enough to say you'd "drop in for a cuppa" - with 2 yr old in tow - at the start of the party !
YWBU to invite yourself for a cuppa when it clearly wasn't a good time for her
YWBU to think a 2 yr old would enhance a 7 yr old's party in some way
YABU to think that she is BU for asking you to not let your 2 yr old disrupt all she's got ready for the older children.

Hope your 6 year old had a great time at the party, your sister probably just wanted to check you weren't upset with her if you didn't speak to her much on dropping off when before you'd been so keen for tea and a chat. I'm sure when you have a chat and ask her how it went and tell her you decided to leave her to it and get on with other stuff with your youngest she'll be fine.

Yabu