To think drivers who beep me are complete idiots who should have more respect for for others?!

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I am a fairly new driver. As such sometimes I prefer to wait until there is a slightly larger gap before pulling out of a side road / entering a roundabout / turning right etc. I am such I will improve with experience and confidence.

This morning I was waiting for a gap to turn right. I was on a fast road, it was dark and rainy so I was struggling to judge whether I had time to go or not and waiting for a gap. The t*at behind me aggressively gave me the horn. This has happened before. AIBU to think drivers should show more patience and respect for others who might be newer drivers?

If its happening to you a lot, then YABU. Taking ages to turn right holds up the traffic horribly, and not just the car behind you, but everyone else too. Just get some "P" plates, and maybe have a little consideration for other drivers, as well as your own needs.

Don't listen to geegee IMO, if you need to wait a while to feel safe then safety is the most important thing here not irritated people behind you.

YANBU however I am currently on a mini-rant about pedestrians who take ZERO responsibility for their own safety and then have the cheek to give the finger!

I am (honestly) a very courteous and considerate driver unlike DH who hoots everyone and drives me mad but the other day I was driving and a woman stepped out into the road to cross it without so much as GLANCING to see if a car was coming, on her phone and sauntering while looking straight ahead. I had to actually slam on my brakes to not hit her (luckily wasn't going fast) and in shock (and also to alert her fact there was a bloody car inches from her, as she didn't even seem to have noticed) I beeped my horn. She carried on walking, didn't even glance my way, and stuck her finger up at me as she sauntered on.

I WAS MURDEROUS I CAN TELL YOU!!!

So, erm, having got that off my chest, no YANBU but I wish to God some pedestrians would not feel that it is solely the driver's responsibility not to run them over. And that people just displayed basic manners...

It's people like geegee that makes driving not pleasent

it was probably geegee behind the OP

YANBU in general, though sometimes hesitation can be dangerous and would fail your test. But I agree people shouldn't be so impatient.

Geegee what would you prefer they do, pull out when it's totally unsafe just so you don't have to wait a few more seconds geeze . People on here wonder why on earth people don't want to drive. Well geegee and people like her are one of the reason why

It also depends what car OP is driving. I have had very fast cars, and am much more likely to pull out into small gaps as I know I can reach the speed the other cars are going quickly.

I have also had bangers that would require a larger gap to avoid being hit by the car behind when I pull out and have to try to accelerate to their speed.

OP, ignore them. Maybe go for rides with others and watch when they pull out or ask someone to come with you.

FWIW, hesistation is a minor in the driving test. Driving dangerously is a major. You fail for hesitation when you do it 3 or more times. You don't fail for hesitating once as the DVLA recognises that as a new driver you are going to be less confident.

YANBU if you aren't waiting for a long time on a regular basis. But if it is happening to you a lot then you may need to have a think about whether you are being overly-hesitant. I don't often see people being beeped for not pulling out of junctions, so if it is a regular occurrence then that might suggest that you are regularly sitting there unnecessarily.

There are some daft people out there though. I was waiting to turn left into the nursery the other morning. It is a narrow entrance so you can't drive in until anyone coming the other way has pulled out. I had to wait for about 30 seconds because the woman coming out was faffing around trying to straighten up. There was a red traffic light on the main road behind me, so for the main part of the delay, thee was noone waiting behind me. The lights changed and a woman came up behind me, waited about 5 seconds and then started beeping at me and waving her arms. I'm not quite sure what she expected me to do. Suddenly think 'oh yes, you are right. I won't go the nursery any more. I'll go to the Thai restaurant along the road instead. What a good idea."

Muppet!

I failed my test first time as a wasp got in the car from the examiners window when we stopped at some lights and he went crazy swatting at it, hitting everything with his newspaper. Out f nerves I sort of giggled once but that enough. Also, when we got back, my examiner said he knew I would be failed as the examiner always failed females!!

But back to the point of op- i

Nishky - it classes as a 'major' point. So yes - although I had other 'minor' points on that test, the reason I failed was for not driving at an appropriate speed, ie 60mph.
The test before that I failed for 'speeding' whilst driving with the flow of traffic in rush hour - so everyone was speeding

My driving instructor told me on test three to stick rigidly to the speed limits at all times

I failed my test first time as a wasp got in the car from the examiners window when we stopped at some lights and he went crazy swatting at it, hitting everything with his newspaper. Out f nerves I sort of giggled once but that enough. Also, when we got back, my examiner said he knew I would be failed as the examiner always failed females!!

But back to the point of op- its just practise. I would put the p plates on, and ignore people behind you. Get used to your car and know how long it takes to get going, and don't just pull out into traffic, better be hooted at than dead in a ditch. Can you go a different way or leave later/ earlier to avoid the hysteria of a certain time for driving? I used to, til I was more confident.

I woud never get out and approach other drivers. Road rage and all that. I hooted at recently for not dicing with death at a crossing. I'm not driving a Ferrari!! Just a big old car that is slow and could cause an accident myself by lurching into fast traffic. Parp Parp:)

As a new driver I understand how you feel OP. New drivers are on 'probation' for 2 years and if for eg I got 2 speeding tickets during this period I would have to re-do my theory and practical test. Obviously I don't want to do this which is why I do dead on 30 in 30 mile an hour zones (of which there are loads where I live).

Other tossers drivers (I'm referring to Audi drivers here, these seem to be the main culprits I've encountered) want me to go faster ie break the speed limit and tailgate me on a regular basis. This morning one decided to pull out and try and get in front of me almost taking out a cyclist. Yeah, good move. Not.

Some drivers don't take into account that though they may have been driving certain roads since Adam was a lad, many 'new' drivers to an area haven't and so will be slightly more cautious. DH for eg grew up in a very rural area and can quite happily zip along the roads where he grew up, knowing when a bend, sharp turn is coming up etc. I however don't know the roads and will obviously be slightly more cautious.

If everyone was more considerate of others it would make driving so much less stressful...

Dealing with idiot drivers is parse and parcel of the modern driving experience on our over crowded roads.

People beeping, cutting you up, fliping the finger, tail gating, pushing in, not acknowledging you letting them out etc etc etc.

You have to learn to just ignore it and just tootle on.

P Plates.

Try giving a lift to someone you know is a good driver.
They will be able to give tips/see what is happening.

I would say YANBU but the very fact you have been beeped several times indicates that you are not driving appropriately.

Ok this subject really infuriates me! I have been bleeped at the second time in the whole 13 years of driving just now. The mentality of someone of bleeps at another drivers for driving safe just speaks volumes! For a start it us totally illegal to bleep at anotherdriver to hurry them along m.askthe.police.uk.
I drive by my standards and what i feel comfortable with not the idiots behind me. This isnt adriving testits the real world. I havent had an accident yet and in the case if thecomplete t**t who has just beenbleeping at me whilst i had my child in the car well, if i would have let her push me and on to the roundabout an that car had been going all the way round and not straight ahead then she would havejust drove off uninjured Meanwhile me and mychild would be being pulled out of the car and my insurance company wouldnt have accepted that the idiot behind me was pushing me as an excuse. If you are in a rush picking up your kids because you have a busy lifestyle and idont then set off earlier!!!

This thread is over 3 years old.

Re the speed limit is not an instruction - I passed my test a month ago, and going 50 on a 60 road would not be a fail, even if it was safer to go faster. However 50 is the minimum.

Just saw how old the thread is!

Why dont you go out in the dead of night and practise pulling out of junctions and turning right and just try to learn to do it really speedily? Its mainly clutch control!

If it helps, ive been driving for 8 years and when i upgraded to a massive car recently, i had to go back to waiting for ridiculously long gaps until i could pull out, until my confidence rose again!

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im a learner driver i dont think p plates would help they target me in L plates ffs ive had taxis pull out on me granny up my ass when we are stuck in traffic going up hill not an issue for someone who knows where there hill bite is but i fucking didnt cars driving up my butt overtaking me when im doing the speed limit its a nightmare