To demand my mother come and stay 10 days before due date.

[debbie1412]

I feel like the biggest twat going today. There's been some debate as to when my mum should come and stay with us so she can look after dc1 2 years. Im 38+4 and getting anxious about her being a 3 hour drive away. She doesn't drive so if I start going in the night it would be a mission to get her here. She wanted to come nxt wk end making me 39+3.
After having fairly sharp braxtons in the night I've woke up this morning, created blue murder on the phone demanding she come stay as off today as dp can pick her up without having to risk life and death belting up the motorway if I do start in the night.
So anyway she's now coming today and I'm feeling foolish and embarrassed. I'm praying I don't go 2 weeks over due as that's her down here for nearly a month.
Have i been a moron???
Dc1 was born at 39+4 ( think that's adding to my panic )

Windsurf74, I think you missed the bit about her mum coming to stay to look after her 2yo when she goes into labour not because she is being demanding.

Second time round I was much more stressed about how it would all affect DD1 than I was about actually giving birth- the thought of her being passed around neighbours/friends like a parcel because there was noone to look after her moved me to tears!

Blimey, there are a lot of grumpy people on here today!

YAB a little U to 'demand', but its perfectly understandable. I don't blame you for being so stressed about who will look after your older dc. Labour is stressful enough without worrying that your DP is doing a 6 hour round trip at 3am in the morning and if your labour kicks in quickly your DC will either be at the hospital or sitting with a neighbour. If your mum is able to come for a few weeks then that's wonderful.

Thank you x

Well, how lovely that you have a mum you can even ask. As such, I'd personally be doing that - asking not demanding! I don't think being pregnant is an excuse to have a little diva type tantrum!

In theory, your DH could even take your son to her whilst you're in hospital? I'm going to be in hospital this week min 5 days, poss 7 with no DH for support giving birth to my first and my mum in another hospital undergoing major surgery 5+ hours away (missing the birth of her first grandchild)

Your situation is hardly that drastic - is it? Really?! Sorry, I think you're right to feel like a twat for being so dramatic.

U? Nah, you were feeling stressed. I'm sure your mum will be glad to be with you & your family, and that you will look back on this time and laugh.

If I were your mum, I would be sort of amused, and actually, I would enjoy coming to "the rescue".

I was thinking just the same thing, musicalendorphins.

I'd love to be in a position where my daughter asked me to come and help her, especially when there were babies involved.

As long as you get on with your mum (and it sounds as though you do) then there's no harm, is there?

Yes, some people aren't as lucky, but that doesn't mean they have to be bitchy about you.

How is it going today Debbie?

It's all very quiet on the baby front, def jumped the gun slightly but 39 weeks today. DS is in nursery this morning so me and mum are going for a last minute baby spend. Thanks for the support and yes mum is amused :-)

So three days until she would have come anyway?

It´s Sod´s law that now she´s here baby´ll make you wait!!

Forgot to say-hope it all goes OK when it does happen!

Glad to hear you are relaxed now! Maybe you will have a Halloween baby? [hgrin]

Aw, how lovely of your mum. Good luck with it all.

Incredibly unreasonable imo
Demanding anything of a parent wh
en you are an adult is rude and unreasonable
You could have a local arrangement for a friend to mind your dc for a few hours until your mother arrives.

Don't worry about it your mum will understand , I would do the same for my daughter as I'm sure you would. Much better to have that kind of relationship than all the people on here who won't let their mums visit or stay when they have their babies they always make me really sad for them
Good luck !

Windsurf
Hope all is well with you and your DM. My Mum was ill in hospital having a (undiagnosed) heart attack when I was in hospital having DD. It was a nightmare time. DD is nearly 20 and enjoys a very close relationship with my DM - all worked out well.
Hope it's the same for you.

Well, if you can't be unreasonable with your mum, who can you be unreasonable with?