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Original poster

To straighten my 2 year olds hair?

132 replies

FannyFifer · 19/10/2012 20:03

My 2 year old dd has really frizzy wispy hair, it's quite long but looks very thin and straggly, like mine.

I was doing my hair a few weeks ago and she was watching so I did her hair with the GHD's as well. Shock

I put the heat spray on first, but is it really bad??

I have to admit it looked so much better, i usually have to put it in a pony tail as she never looks tidy.

I did it again today for the second time, once every few weeks is ok though, isn't it?

Awaits flaming.

OP posts:
StaceymReadyForNumber3 · 19/10/2012 21:20

Then honestly MrsRhettButler I think you are projecting.

I could have sent dd for laser surgery when she was small, but it's her body not mine and I wouldn't do something like that without her permission. And that's not even going to hurt like waxing!

zombieplanmum · 19/10/2012 21:22

This is a joke, right?

PropertyNightmare · 19/10/2012 21:23

I am with you Mrs Rhett. Dh and I know a beautiful (and I really do mean stunning) little girl of 8. We've kniwn her since birth.Mum and dad are both very attractive too. The little girl has a mono-brow and my dh has always said if she was ours he would have waxed it for her. She (since 6) has been teased for it in school. Dh reckons he would have headed that one off at the pass and I agree tbh. Hair removal is not a big deal and pretty routine these days. Electrolysis would probably be the best option ultimately.

MrsRhettButler · 19/10/2012 21:23

I wouldn't even consider any unnecessary surgery for myself let alone a child stacey, I do see evryones point about boosting dc's self esteem and do hope I've helped dd with hers (she seems fine right now btw) its just I know how it feels to be teased relentlessly.

PumpkInDublic · 19/10/2012 21:25

There is another thread about hair on AIBU at the moment. I suggest a read OP.

Quip · 19/10/2012 21:25

My 2yo Dd is a cheerful mess. Nothing in the world would make her more radiently beautiful than she is already (except perhaps a nose wipe). I am seriously flabberghasted that some people believe they can do a better job than nature when it comes to 2yos. They just don't need improvement!

PumpkInDublic · 19/10/2012 21:25

Apologies, it's in chat.

brdgrl · 19/10/2012 21:26

well said, quip.

Original poster
FannyFifer · 19/10/2012 21:26

Shit, I've been found out, it's me, Katie Price. Grin

Wow so many judgements, was expecting to be told I was being unreasonable but dear god I haven't tattooed her or pierced her ears.

I rarely comment on appearance, don't like all this little girls should be pretty crap.

Her hair looked neater, didn't make her more or less pretty.

My GHD is 11 years old so it's not used often, I am very low maintenance, no makeup or tan, and my hair is left mostly naturally curly. Not passing on any insecurities.

Her hair gets trimmed regularly, she has a very dry scalp so i try & leave it down every now and again but it always goes in her face and annoys her, when I straightened it, it stayed out her face.

Anyway, all points noted, she sits perfectly when getting her hair done so i hadn't thought about burning her, but its not a chance I will take again.

OP posts:
PropertyNightmare · 19/10/2012 21:26

And when you can see far in advance that someone is very likely to be bullied I don't think it is that awful to take avoiding action.

MrsRhettButler · 19/10/2012 21:26

I probably am projecting stacey but dd has no idea as I keep all these thoughts to myself and she knows that I think she's beautiful inside and out and that inner beauty means being kind and friendly and inclusive of all so honestly can't see that I'm damaging her or anything.

Also wanted to say sorry to hear your dd has been in and out of hospital :(

zombieplanmum · 19/10/2012 21:26

"My 14 year old doesn't straighten her hair or slavver on slap. She does have blonde hair to dye for though" Love it Grin

MrsRhettButler · 19/10/2012 21:28

My thoughts exactly Property

zombieplanmum · 19/10/2012 21:30

oh well, had you said that your GHDs were 11 years old, we would have clearly not given you a flaming - of course, its not like they are new or anything. Come on OP, stop pulling our chains, for a fun friday night thread, id have hoped for better tbh 3/10

MrsRhettButler · 19/10/2012 21:31

For the record I love to see those little girls with really tumbling, unruly hair, I think its beautiful. My dd's are mixed race so their hair is very tight curls and very frizzy so not really tumbling more haystack but they do have beautiful hair :)

AgentZigzag · 19/10/2012 21:32

I've been posting on a thread where I said the OP WNBU to discuss dying her 11 YOs ginger hair because she was getting shit shouted at them because of it.

But this is a 2 YO, the same things don't apply when posters are talking about wishing their parents had helped them out for something they got teased at at school.

The 2 YO isn't going to be teased, nobody will (or should) think any less of them because of whatever the cosmetic 'blemish' is, that leaves it all because of how it reflects on the parent and/or their own negative experiences.

I like the cut of MrsRs jib as well, but waxing a 2 YOs eyebrows would be wrong.

YerMaw1989 · 19/10/2012 21:32

nooooooo

GHD's near baby hair noooooo.

zombieplanmum · 19/10/2012 21:33

My DD used to have beautiful curls, i was :( when they went as she got older, like me her hair gets a few curls in when it gets damp but other than that its just wavy now. I miss her curls. I can't understand this whole trend for boring straight hair anyway.

tittytittyhanghang · 19/10/2012 21:34

If this is a seldom occurance, YANBU. If your dd is happy to sit and let you straighten her hair without jumping about or likely to get burnt, i don't see any issue with it. All the time, it will dry out her hair and YWBU but seldom occassions, meh, not really an issue.

MrsRhettButler · 19/10/2012 21:37

Grin agent I know it would be wrong and I would be conflicted about it but I did have to be honest.

Thelobsterswife · 19/10/2012 21:38

Fanny there are a lot worse things you could do to your DD. many women cake their faces in make up in full view of their child, bang on about their diets, wear ridiclous heals and blow dry their hair into ridiculous shapes every day. All of which is damaging. Those little girls will be taking all that in. As you have rightly acknowledged, straightening can be dangerous and is best avoided but for goodness sake, the response you have got is astounding.

MrsRhettButler · 19/10/2012 21:39

Sorry, that grin was at agents comment not at the thought of waxing a baby.

AgentZigzag · 19/10/2012 21:46

I'd probably think about it as well MrsR, as well as wonder about avoiding the risk of future bullying problems.

But I know it'd just stay a thought.

Maybe it's because DD2's only just out of her time being a baby that it seems on a similar line to doing it to a baby, and shows it up as more wrong to me?

If DD is anything to go on though, you'd only be able to do it the once before she got wise and didn't come near Grin

SheppySheepdog · 19/10/2012 21:46

I like some of these responses. One of my dc fell and split his head open as a toddler and still has a scar on his forehead. I hate it, used to sit and stare at it for hours when it first happened, convinced his face was ruined etc. It's starting to fade now but I still know its there and am terrified he is going to get teased at school over it because someone mentioned to me that Harry Potter (never read it) has a scar in the same place. Sad

AgentZigzag · 19/10/2012 21:48

Grin at 'that grin was at agents comment not at the thought of waxing a baby.'

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