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To ask how much you drink?

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JerryLeadbetter · 17/10/2012 20:55

Just that really. Bit worried that I might drink a bit too much. I was always a party animal Pre-children, and now I have two small DCs I don't drink anywhere near as much as I did, but still have at least one weekend night out with friends/ DP where I get quite, erm, merry, plus a glass of wine or two most nights.

I find it hard to judge what is the norm as most of my friends don't have children yet and go out a lot, but most of the mum friends I have met at toddler groups (who are fab) really drink very little on a regular basis, maybe the odd big night out, so I'm not really sure where I fit in!

Just been thinking about it a bit lately and reckon I'd feel healthier and a lot less sluggish if I laid off it a bit...

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apostropheuse · 17/10/2012 22:22

I don't think people have any reason to tell porkies on an anonymous forum, so I'm guessing it's either a) or c)

SarahRT · 17/10/2012 22:23

It's great to see the responsibility about drinking on this thread. I am so pleased to see a conversation about it, with honesty and openness. I have a clinic that treats women who for whatever reason have moved on from habitual drinkers to hazardous drinkers. It's an invisible line, that can be crossed so easily and takes so many by surprise. It did me! Wine has become a sort of social oil really. I drank in a very jolly way in my twenties, not as cute in my thirties, by my forties I had crossed the line. I also had breast cancer, three glasses of wine a night can increase the risk of bc by 40-50%! I was drinking far more than that.

MrsDmitriTippinsKrushnic all illness and bad things revolved around alcohol with me too. I just am glad to use that negative experience to be able to help other women who are just like I used to be.

WilsonFrickett · 17/10/2012 22:26

Crazy the c's are all down the pub

smellsabit · 17/10/2012 22:27

i obv drink far too much
every day bt least a bottle wine
one night a fortnight out and more ...

StuntGirl · 17/10/2012 22:28

Nowt!

KitCat26 · 17/10/2012 22:30

Not a lot. I have had 3 glasses of wine in the last month. I love wine but am not a huge drinker since having kids.

Crazycake · 17/10/2012 22:33

APOSTROPH I know you're right, maybe it is a)

Inneedofbrandy · 17/10/2012 22:33

Some weeks I have half a bottle of wine a night, more in winter cos I'm bored, sometimes I go weeks and weeks without a drink and not think bout it. I never get paraletic drunk as I hate being sick (phobic) but I like going out getting merry and dancing on tables! I don't really go out any more, it's more out for food and a shared between 2 bottle of wine with friends.

Crazycake · 17/10/2012 22:34

WILSON I like your reasoning

PomBearWithAnOFRS · 17/10/2012 22:34

Having thought about it quite seriously, I reckon DH and I would easily be classed as functioning alcoholics now. The amount we drink has gradually crept up and up over the years until it is a fairly serious amount of alcohol. I dread to think how many units it works out at, and deliberately don't work it out so I can cling onto my "denial" of how much it really is
If it wasn't for the children we would probably be a good bit "further gone" than we are too, that and the cost of the drink anyway.
I am actually too ashamed to tell you how much we drink, because I have a feeling most people would be appalled... :(

TiddlyZomZomZombie · 17/10/2012 22:34

I'm not much of a drinker, occasionally have a glass of cider/perry in a pub, but this is mainly because I don't enjoy wine or beer and that is usually what's on offer! I probably have less than 2/3 drinks a month.
If I go 'out' out with friends, without DS, I'm very happy to have a jug of Pimm's to myself! So I guess I'm a very occasional binge drinker, but I'm such a slow drinker I only ever reach 'merry'. lightweight

For those of you who don't drink or don't drink much, do you hang out with other non-drinkers, drinkers or a mixture? I guess I'm wondering where potential friends are who don't drink as much. Lots of my buddies/old buddies are maniacs on the sauce and I guess maybe I'm looking for a different direction but one that is still fun- if this is possible?
It's most definitely possible to still have fun without getting bladdered! It does mean putting effort in with less booze-obsessed mates tho, as so many drinkers have a problem with those not drinking to get drunk. They will claim you're being 'boring', but there is nothing as boring as a drunk having a go at you for not wanting to match them shot for shot...
My friends all drink (apart from the pregnant/bfing ones!) but none of them are such heavy drinkers that I notice a big difference when I'm still sober.
Tbh I found the biggest help was choosing the right venue - it's hard work going clubbing sober with a big group of drinkers, whereas if its just a meal out with a few mates, or drinks in a quieter pub, it makes no difference if you're not drinking or just having a couple. Plus there are more options these days, a glass of Appletiser is a lot less obvious than the orange juice I used to get stuck with when I was teetotal.

CouthyMowEatingBraiiiiinz · 17/10/2012 22:34

Erm. Since Jan 1st, I have had 6 bottles of cider and 3 glasses of wine. Not all in one night!

That is about usual for me, alcohol doesn't mix with my meds.

Then again, my meds don't mix with my meds, I'm on so many...

CouthyMowEatingBraiiiiinz · 17/10/2012 22:38

I stopped clubbing when I stopped drinking. My friends are a mix of drinkers and non drinkers, none heavy party girls any more though. We have lived our wild youth, but now we all have 3+ DC's, a couple is the most we have.

We have fun without drink because we are mad as a box of frogs a bit silly.

eurowitch · 17/10/2012 22:51

I have one or two glasses of wine, two or three glasses a week. Apart from weddings and special occasions, that's it these days. It used to be a LOT more. But I am older now and we are ttc so we have cut it down.

irishchic · 17/10/2012 23:03

HMC I think you are right, that a lot of people, (myself included up to about 6months ago) drink more than is healthy, not saying they are alcoholic or even alcohol dependent, just in unhealthy habit. Strangely I know many women who take good care of themselves otherwise, eat healthily, work out etc yet think nothing of having maybe 2 glasses of wine every night with two heavier drinking nights on fri and sat.

Its worth bearing in mind the alcohol content of the wine you are drinking. If you get a bottle of white thats 9% then one glass of that at 125ml is only one unit, whereas that 125ml glass of a 13% wine is closer to two units.

winkle2 · 17/10/2012 23:06

I'm exactly the same as eurowitch - hello btw :)

TTC is more important to me than drinking.

Everlong · 17/10/2012 23:39

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fluffypillow · 17/10/2012 23:47

Nothing at the moment . Been of it for 2.5yrs due to pregnancy and b'fing.

I'd love a drink though. Not impressed that I'm facing my third dry Christmas in a row

SpookleDust · 18/10/2012 00:13

Top much. I would say I'm usually dry Mon - Thurs but have my dad staying for a couple of days and have shared at least 2 bork Ed of wine over the last 2 nights.

Thurs/Fri/Sat at home, DH and I would have Agee bottles of beer each plus about a bottle of red each.

This is considerably less than we had before DCs. In those days Thurs-Sat would be fairly major binge sessions. I am rarely 'drunk' these days, more like in relaxed mode. DH relies on alcohol much more than I do. Sometimes I feel like I'm drinking jusy to keep him company. But I do enjoy beer & wine

I don't smoke and I exercise regularly. I'm not overweight and am probably in denial that my drinking is excessive as my lifestyle is pretty healthy apart from the alcohol.

SpookleDust · 18/10/2012 00:15

So many autocorrects/typos

CrunchyFrog · 18/10/2012 03:01

It's funny, I can't drink wine at all. 4 JDs gets me lightly oiled, happy but coherent and more than able to look after myself. More than 6, I'm pissed.

Wine, a glass and a half and I'm unpleasantly woozy. Beer, 4 pints will make me drunk to the point of illness. But lots of people think my drinking spirits makes me a hardened drinker, it doesn't, it's just what suits me and I prefer.

RichManPoorManBeggarmanThief · 18/10/2012 03:48

So true about habit. I am one of those people who is a creature of habit, so once I'm in one (good or bad) it runs until I decide to break it. If I get in a habit of having a glass of wine every night when the kids are in bed, then I get the glass and start pouring without even really thinking if I fancy it or not. If I got in the habit of having a cuppa when the kids were in bed, I'd do that. I'm focusing on cutting out that habitual drinking where I don't actively think "Ooh, I fancy a glass of wine", it's just what I do at 7pm to mark the start of "me time".

nokidshere · 18/10/2012 04:00

I'm not a drinker. I dont have any issues with alcohol particularly I just don't really drink. People like me going out with them though as I am always happy to drive ;)

Alligatorpie · 18/10/2012 04:58

I am BFing, so not as much as I used to. I drink a beer or glass of wine 2-3 times per week.
Pre- preg, I would share a bottle of wine with dh most nights. Sometimes 2 on the weekend.
I'm with you, crazycake, I think all the drinkers are down the pub!

JeezyOrangePips · 18/10/2012 07:23

If I have a rare night out, about 3 drinks. At home, I'll have a drink a couple of times a month.

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