"they were only sick once, so I sent them in" - Aibu that this drives me mad?

[Molehillmountain]

Just because the child in question was only sick once, it doesn't mean it's not a bug, and if it is then they're more than likely spreading it around. The number of times I hear this from sensible people is unbelievable. A bit sore about it today as this is day two of my fifteen month old having a vomiting bug (we're at home and have cancelled plans).

Drs diagnose NSV all the time when there is no real reason for the child being poorly. If I had kept mine home in his first 7 years everytime he had some minor viral ailment we would never have left the house. As it was he had tons of time off school and I was told "he would grow out of it" - which tankfully he did around the age of 9.

If I were meeting up with a friend with a sick child I would always tell them mine had a cold, virus, whatever and leave it up to them if they wanted to meet or not. And if we were invited somewhere I would tell the host that he had a cough/cold/virus and if they said they would rather I didn't go then I didn't. Its only about being considerate.

You can catch all sorts of stuff just going about your daily business, you cant stop living with every sneeze and snotty nose. There are so many airborne viruses that if you didn't catch it from my child you would catch it from someone else.

Luckily for me I work at home for myself, but if I had been at work when my son was younger I almost certainly would have been "in trouble" for the amount of time I would have had to take off. And the same parents who complain about children going in when they are sick are often the same ones who are complaining that there is a supply teacher "again" because the class teacher has had to take more time off with her own sick children "again"!!!

DD is 5 and I know no one will believe this but she has NEVER had a D&V bug.

But if you make her eat something she doesn't like she will retch and sometime be sick (her gag reflex is very strong).

Because of this I don't make her eat things she doesn't like.

But when she was on school dinners THEY did make her eat something she didn't like and she was sick on her plate. And then they rang me up at work to come and collect her

Which is partly why she has packed lunches now.

But yeah, if she gagged and was sick I would still send her into school because she isn't ill.

freak my dd1 is exactly like that

YABU.

Children can be sick for lots of reasons that aren't bug related. Keeping them off school every single time is ridiculous.

I'm wondering if you are a parent at my dd2's school! She was sick in the playground this morning and I'm sure lots of parents were a bit that I still tried to send her in but, in the colder weather she is sick virtually every morning through coughing. We have had inhalers and such prescribed but nothing seems to help.

It isn't like anyone is going to catch a bug from her! Trying to get a doctor's note to get around the school policy or she will never go to school until springtime! I felt really awful this morning as I'm sure a lot of the parents were thinking along the lines of the OP!

And I did ask the teacher to please pass me out her bag of wipes so that I could clean the mess up but she never came back. Just shut the door so I had to just leave it there

Am convinced will now be year R pariah