"they were only sick once, so I sent them in" - Aibu that this drives me mad?

[Molehillmountain]

Just because the child in question was only sick once, it doesn't mean it's not a bug, and if it is then they're more than likely spreading it around. The number of times I hear this from sensible people is unbelievable. A bit sore about it today as this is day two of my fifteen month old having a vomiting bug (we're at home and have cancelled plans).

On a slight tangent, why did nursery tell me they'd let DS in with conjunctivitus IF he's got presecribed eye drops. Seems odd to me, although it is only a inor ailment it is very very infectious.

My youngest will throw up if he gets tired.

It's always the same - latish night followed by early evening headache the next day then he will be violently sick, once.

Right as rain the next day after a good night's sleep.

He also throws up if he eats sweets.

So it's not always right to keep them off because it's not always something infectious that causes it.

My younger sister could throw up on command when she was little and frequently did (was a good way of getting her way with my vomit-phobic mother). However, I HATE people who have no qualms with spreading their germs around. My other sister is diabetic and a friend of hers came over to her house the day after they had gastro. Still unwell. Her reasoning? "Oh, we were bored being stuck at home sick so we thought we'd come over for a cuppa." She still had the runs and used my sister's toilet. Sure enough my sister and her little ones all came down with it, and so did me and my 3. As single mothers at the time it was AWFUL!. My sister got so sick she was hospitalised on a drip. SO SELFISH of that "friend" and I made sure she knew that. Bitch.

Oh YADNBU

Hmmm.. DS is still going to school tomorrow, he's fine now.

If your child who is otherwise not a pukey child vomits once and you send them in, then I'd be --->

If your child vomits when they cough, gets car sick, has anxiety sickness, then I'd hope that you could use reasonable and sensible judgement.

Yanbu. We all have norovirus for the second time in three weeks because someone else sent their kids back to school too soon and reinfected us. I now have all my lot off til Monday.

My ds1's secondary school has a policy that if they feel well enough to come in then there is no reason they shouldn't be there, regardless of the length of time since last puke/squit. I haven't noticed that there is more of a problem with bugs spreading

Erm, my DD vomits sometimes when she has a cough and cold. It isn't a stomach bug.

Also, the advice with conjunctivitis is that unless there is an outbreak of it, with lots of children affected, that there is no need to keep a child off school/nursery.

My nursery's policy used to be 24 hours, now it is 48.

Another nursery excludes for 24 hours for one-off vomiting but 48 if they know there is a bug within the nursery, which seems more sensible to cover the car sick/overeating scenario.

I used to work in catering, and if you had D or V you had to stay off for 24-48hours after the last instance. I once had a manager demand I come In when I had shingles and kidney infection, when I told her that I could potentially kill a co workers baby did she back off? No, I had a doctors note when I came back after 3 weeks but she harassed me every day I was off with email and leaving messages on my phone. YADNBU, some people are selfish and rude, they don't care about their impact on others health.

My son was only sick once this morning,he is now totally zonked on my bed,in no fit state to go anywhere,this bug is going around the school just because people don't keep their kids home when they are really sick.Makes me mad.

A one off bout of vomiting should be assessed individually. Children are sick for all sorts of reasons. The 2 year old that I mind can throw up if he can't get his own way - he coughs himself sick. A 9 year old that I mind frequently vomits at the end of a migrane episode. Under primary school rules both these children would have to stay home for 48 hours which is unreasonable!

As a childminder my policy is that one bout of sickness with no other symptoms in a 24 hour period is fine.

My DD2 has chronic car sickness. Not just car but buses and trains also. If for any reason we don't drive straight to school she has a barf in the car. Sometimes if we get caught in traffic, that's us stuffed. We have a bowl kept in the car for the purpose. The poor wee soul has become so good at the casual vomit that she never misses the bowl and at the most will need her chin wiped.

If she took 48 hours off for every spew, she'd never be at school.

Oh also meant to say, I would know if she had a bug as more than likely she'd be poorly/have a temp. before being sick and after.

i think 48 hours off for 1 off vomit or runny poo is excessive

I overheard two parents chatting in the playground one morning-

"I brought her in, she was only sick a few times and only has a bit of a rash"

WTF

I have to admit im in the midst of this now. DH and DD vomiting Monday night, both of them off Tuesday together. She has stopped vomitting but has liquid nappies (grim), and I started vomitting this.morning.

I feel like shite, pardon my language, and DD is still tired and grumpy. However I have the equivalent of Ofsted (not a school) today and tomorrow and if I were to call.in sick it would be more than my job is worth - I am.going in, in the hope that they send me home. In the meantime DD has to go somewhere and that place is my DMs.

DH works with Autistic students who get sent in with Swine Flu, as it is worse for them to have the break.in their routone than to go to school ill - so he has gone in today.

Whilst I understand it might be tricky regarding work if your child is sick. I don't want my child to get sick because you didn't want to have to take time off.

DS1 has breathing issues that can mean a normal cold lands us in hospital for a week on oxygen. Just before his big operation I took him to his Aunties 30th birthday party (with hindsight probably a mistake), and popped him in a play pen with another child. The child promptly started to cough and I heard the other mother explain to her friend that they'd has her at the Dr's as she's so unwell. Complaining that the Dr said it was viral (a cop out in their opinion). I took out DS pretty sharpish and thankfully he didn't pick up whatever the child had, but seriously, who takes a child with a nasty virus to a birthday party full of other children? I'm extra sensitive due to DS's health issues, but please, have some consideration. What might be a few unsettled nights for you and your children could be a hospital stay for another family if their child has other medical issues. Stay in your homes!!!

If ds vomits, it is deffo a bug.

dd is a one-off vomiter; usually because she's been to a party and got over-excited / eaten too much crap. I use my judgement where she's concerned. No headache, no temp, running around and right back to eating, I don't keep her off.

My dd was sick in school and was sent home. When i picked her up i asked whether i had to keep her off for 24/48 hours and they said if she seems fine send her in tomorrow!! Think its probably the only school i've known to say that.

people cant stay in their homes because they have a virus! it just isnt feasible. What about people with 5 or 6 kids? they would never go out. Imagine phoning into work sick every time you had a virus?! the country would come to a standstill

there are so many people in this country. People get sick