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to just be utterly fed up

76 replies

onceortwice · 09/10/2012 13:26

Life is uterly shit at the moment.

I had invited two friends for lunch today. Confirmed as late as yesterday.

Cooked them lovely soup. COoked the kids a lovely meal.

They didn't show. No response to texts / calls.

DD upset because she is eating alone and she was expecting friends. I'm upset because I went to quite a bit of effort and, once again, no one else gives a shit.

These mums have children in my DS's class, which is why I was keen to have them around.

Nothing. So loads of food gone to waste, DD upset because 'friends' haven't turned up and another nail in the coffin of DS ever being accepted at school.

Loads of other (shit) stuff going on at the moment, but this has just really got to me today.

Please don't tell me I'm BU (or if you have to, be gentle)

OP posts:
Sparklingbrook · 09/10/2012 13:28

Oh once what is wrong with people? Angry

What's going on with your DS at school?

CaptainHoratioWragge · 09/10/2012 13:30

Oh poor you.

That is really terrible behaviour on their part, they don't deserve your lovely soup.

Alurkatsoftplay · 09/10/2012 13:34

Gosh that's really horrible. Have you heard from them yet?

I would love your soup!

What's going on at the school?

pugglefan · 09/10/2012 13:34

That's just plain rude of them. Really sorry you're having a rubbish time and other people's rudeness is not helping.

You're not being unreasonable in the slightest!

travellingwilbury · 09/10/2012 13:35

That is just bloody rude , was it an open sort of invite to a few people to drop in if able ? Or a solid invite to particular parents who have children who get on well with your dc ?

wannabedomesticgoddess · 09/10/2012 13:35

Thats so rude. Im so sorry. I cant believe people sometimes.

What kind of soup is it? (Im hungry :) )

lowercase · 09/10/2012 13:35

maybe they have a valid reason not to show?
wait and see if they offer up a valid reason.

Dont show DD you are upset, just 'i wonder what happened, nevermind'

freeze soup?
soup for supper?

dont let a couple of no shows steal your peace, they are the ones with problems (unmanageability / unreliability / rudeness) not you!

you on the other hand, sound like a lovely friend.

travellingwilbury · 09/10/2012 13:37

What is going on with ds ?

I would love some soup , especially if you have good bread .

Firawla · 09/10/2012 13:37

yanbu that kind of thing is horrible! try not to let it get to you if you can (i know sometimes you cant help it!)
i hope they have a really good reason/emergency otherwise it is so rude!!!

sooperdooper · 09/10/2012 13:37

Oh what a shame and how rude of them, have you heard anything from them yet?

Agree with lowercase, can you freeze the lovely soup so it doesn't go to waste?

Sorry you're having a bad time :(

issimma · 09/10/2012 13:39

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DevaDiva · 09/10/2012 13:42

You know what? People like that really grind my gears. What possible reason is there to be so bloody inconsiderate, rude and selfish?

Honestly would it have killed them to call/text to let you know why they weren't going to come?

I'm outraged for you onceortwice i'm having a shit day too in case no one noticed Grin

DinosaurSchool · 09/10/2012 13:42

That is awful. They are not the sort of people to bother with. Unspeakably rude.

I'm so sorry, I have big anxiety issues around things like this so really sympathise.

Have you chocolate you can eat?

MrsKeithRichards · 09/10/2012 14:07

That's so rude!

onceortwice · 09/10/2012 14:10

Thankyou all.

My DS has autism, so school is a big issue for him. Hence, I am trying with the other mums.. (and taking it personally when there is any issue)

I really went to quite a lot of trouble. Nothing will spoil (it was veggie) but just feels I am trying to know a square peg into a round hole.

OP posts:
mumto2andnomore · 09/10/2012 14:18

That is crap of them I'm really sorry. You sound lovely. Is it possible they misunderstood the invite or got the wrong day ?

onceortwice · 09/10/2012 14:21

No, I've had a reply saying that they'll come for tea instead. So now I am faced with saying no or chucking lunch away and making team for 6 children.

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Sparklingbrook · 09/10/2012 14:22

They can't do that. Sad The invite was for lunch. What are they playing at?

veryhurt · 09/10/2012 14:23

Yes very rude of them.

Let them come for tea and dont show your annoyance. Cook them beans on toast!

MissMogwi · 09/10/2012 14:24

Cheeky sods. They don't show up and then invite themselves for tea?!
Sounds like they are taking advantage of you OP.

diddl · 09/10/2012 14:24

Rude buggers.

They sound like absolute users.

Lunch didn´t suit so they just swan over at a meal time that suits them?

They can fuck right off!

Sparklingbrook · 09/10/2012 14:25

Are there any nice Mums at your DS's school? Sad

diddl · 09/10/2012 14:25

Why would you have to chuck lunch away though?

ScooseIsLoose · 09/10/2012 14:25

What a bloody cheek tell them to did off Angry

ScooseIsLoose · 09/10/2012 14:26

Sod not did

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