To think Mumsnet has changed me?? (or Mumsnet vs The Real World)

[Proudnscary]

Mumsnet has changed my thoughts and attitudes in the four years I've been prowling these 'ere boards.

I have a big group of friends in RL and a lively, jokey social life blah de blah but my hackles get raised so much more quickly now. My attitude and knowledge about feminism, porn, domestic abuse, is much more evolved than it was pre Mumsnet (I didn't really think about these things to be honest). Now I speak up and challenge dodgy views - (hopefully) in a good natured/bantery way.

BUT it's weird when you get a RL vs Mumsnet jolt! When a group of intelligent, fab real life women talk dismissively about things that people would go nuts about on here. It's like a parallel universe in some ways. So sometimes I think it's made me go slightly insania.

Anyone else remotely know what I mean?!

it changed my attitude towards domestic chores, handling tasks and actually made me a proud housewife.
It is didn't do the following to me:
www.cleanerconfessions.com/news/do-women-prefer-cleaning-over-making-love-4418/
but still it made housekeeping a manageable task and my life better.
Thanks Mumsnet!

"I have a vase of twigs in my living room - they are huge branchy, kitch things sprayed in gold with birds on them and shit and there are pebbles at the bottom of the vase.

I have the same, I like my gold brancHes. when it'S easter I hand eggs on them, and for xmas you can guess!!!! they are in a nice green vase tho, however I did have them in a glass vase with sand

BE PROUD!!!!

at moving to YANBU. A male friend of mine read a MN thread that he happened to find through Google and spent the first 500 posts thinking YABU was a particularly prolific poster who everyone kept replying to.

Thinking about this, having not read any other posts (will do soon) it has changed in both positive and negative ways. But much much more positive than negative.

And I completely agree with the MN vs RL. Sometimes I have to bite my tongue due to 1) outing myself as a MNer as some of the things I might say might be seen as a bit MNy (did you mean to be so rude? norks, etc) and 2) because some of my views, and confidence to say those things that have always bugged me, may be seen as a bit too controversial and not in keeping with the way my RL friends speak and interact. Not all of them (i suspect one at least is a MNer) but most of them.

I too think I am much more aware of, not increasing my feminist thoughts, but having the words to say them.

The biggest three things MN has given me has to be this confidence to express myself, and to believe in myself more, and has given me an outlet to express my unhappiness at the things I can't talk about freely in RL, such as my back problems, relationship problems, and parenting concerns.

I love you all. Even the Vipers

I think did you really meant be rude is so wanky
the only answer is yes
all the mn words,norks,quiche,luffly I associate with mn but never use or have never heard in rl.I'd be bemused if someone said norks,but wouldnt crack on it's mn phrase

Just thinking you can see the influence Mumsnet has had on me through my NN history ... I started out as JugglingWithThreeShoes - from the book Three shoes, one sock, and no hairbrush - about the challenges of having two children. (Or should that have been one shoe and three socks ? )

Then I changed to the more surreal, post-modern, and playful "JugglingWithTangentialOranges" - Then after feeling so inspired by the Paralympics this summer, and generally being more aware of choices in my life after my time on here I changed to "JugglingWithPossibilities"

• I just read a great feminist quote by Adrienne Rich on another thread that the most important thing any woman can do for another woman is increase her awareness of possibilities ! So thanks to all for doing just that for me !

(There having been some seasonal variants along the way too, though I haven't won a prize yet )

out of interest what's origin of nest of vipers
was it a journalist or some such

I think it was a flouncing poster..?

Where does norks come from? Never heard it before.

scottishmummy well that is me. I am wanky. I love saying mn things in sentences, just really for my own personal chuckles. as you said. wanky.

proudnscary - a work colleague of mine completely outed herself by using this word. I don't think it is used quite so much on MN but it used to be, in the olden days.

know norks said a lot on mn but it's not a mn exclusive
dawn French uses it
but did she teef it of mn.no idea

i thought it was a daily mail quote? or maybe they read a post and used it?

Yes I meant I've not heard it apart from on MN, Pavlov.

ah ok! i don't think I had heard it before MN either. Apart from this one friend. Hilarious she got outed by the word she was highly embarrassed

do you really use mn phrases in real life.how deliciously funny in a wanky way
like leave the bastard
why have children if you leave with em strangers
gavel
bumsex

I've never outed a mumsnetter before. To be honest, I'd be embarasssed if people knew I MNetted as the site has a crappy reputation if you don't know it (Boden-wearing, whingey, po-faced, man-hating etcetera). But you must have outed yourself too so not so bad?!

yes, I have mentioned friday night bumsex in a conversation and got lots of looks!

I have also said 'leave the bastard' when a friend said that her DH had asked something marginally unreasonable of her. Hilarious. She thought it was very funny as I said it very deadpan. It was funnier to me than she realised.

I also make overly [shocked] faces at greggs pasties being mentioned, and fruitshoots.

And I have written a shopping list with grapes, pombears and naice ham on, then left it in my shopping trolley.

I get my kicks out of simple things in life.

I used to like (not in RL that would be incredibly fucking weird) until there was a thread about how cringey it was. Now I dare not use it ever again.

Pavlov you must leave a hell of a lot of confused people in your wake!

She was a good colleague of mine, and I have no idea who she is on MN, and neither does she know me. I did not ask. She has not worked in my office for a long time so we would not know each other on here now. I expect if I spent an age looking for her it would not be hard, but i would not do that.

It was very funny as she used the word, I burst out laughing, she went red and knew she had outed herself before I whisperd

gavel is dead wanly.it's the presumptive finality of it
just begs you to disagree
and it makes me think someone's watched too much judge judy

have inadvertently left my list in trolley
it's so inane though
I'd like to think milk,bread,hummus did bring someone a wee warm glow though

proud well I don't do it in every conversation I have. Just from time to time when something pops into my head. And occasionally I burst out laughing at something no-one gets, then have to quickly sip some wine or something. Luckily, I am on some strong painkillers at the moment so I think my friends just think I am high as a kite most of the time and put it down to that