Ok will try not to drip feed.
Have a child with ASD, he is 10. Today we are supposed to be visiting my parents, a two and a half hour drive away. When ds was initially diagnosed they were not very supportive and it took my Dad, especially a long time to come to terms with it. He was quite unkind to ds in trying to prove there was NOTHING wrong with him, he was naughty, just a boy! To be fair my Mum is now fab and my Dad now tries his best.
When we go there DS has a room put aside for him (grateful for this) for him to retreat to whenever he needs to, which is often. We take his laptop. Now I am sure other parents of ASD children will understand. Ds needs his laptop, it calms him, he looks at certain videos, trains, transport, cars etc and it keeps him on an even keel, he spends hours up there in his room, perfectly happy, no meltdowns. Today around two thirds into the journey he suddenly shouted he didn't have his laptop. I knew we had packed it so stopped to check, sure enough, he had brought the wrong bag, similar colour but no laptop 
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So I phoned my parents and asked would it be ok if we use their laptop while we are there because ds cannot manage without it and if we can't then I will have to turn back to get his. Being without a laptop is simply not an option, they know this. Ds would be stressed, difficult to keep entertained and manage and would then probably meltdown. My Dad would shout and get stressed and well, you get the picture. Big long pause "well we'd rather he didn't."........... Now let me tell you this, ds treats his laptop as if it is made of diamonds, its is his most precious possesion, he has had it for three years and the only thing that has ever been wrong with it was hard drive issue, which we had fixed, absolutely nothing he had done. He would do the same with theirs.
So anyway I just said, I have to go back and get it then, bye and put the phone down. Turned back at the next exit and now am home and as its late I am not going back tonight. They have messaged asking us to go again tomorrow morning but after a nearly 6 hour drive (what with all the rain, traffic and weather) I don't really feel inclined too, me and dc are knackered and quite frankly I am bloody pissed off about it!
So come on give it to me straight but please do remember I have been driving for 9 hours today, as helped a friend move house this morning before we drove up to parents.........
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