to be gutted after DP confessed to eating a steak (both vegetarian -not anymore obviously!)

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I've been vegetarian for 6 - 7 years. I made the decision to go vegetarian when I realised that I wasn't eating much meat due to not enjoying it due to taste and ethical reasons.

I met DP 4 years ago and he decided to go veggie with me because he wasn't one for eating much meat either.

I came home last night from work and he told me he had a confession to make. He had given in to his cravings and bought steaks, ate one last night and the other is in the freezer.

I wasn't expecting this really although he has told me he had been having dreams about eating meat.

I know I don't really have a leg to stand on and can't tell him that he can't eat meat but I have been feeling awful since I found out. I felt uspet, disgusted at the thought of animal flesh being cooked in my kitchen, not to mention a steak actually mingling with items of food in my freezer. I wanted rid of the evidence. I could see the empty packet in the bin, and the dishes he'd used to cook/ eat it. Reading this paragraph back to myself, I feel like there is something wrong with me for feeling this way. I don't have a problem with other people eating meat, I just don't want it in my house :(

I don't feel like I can talk to anyone in RL because I feel that the people around me (meat eaters) probably don't respect my non eat-meating preferences and think it's a bit silly.

AIBU for feeling this way? I havn't spoken at all to DP since. Although I did ask if he would be buying more meat, he said ocasionally. I then said could he cook it when I wasn't around (I thought this a reasonable request seeing as I work shifts and we don't always have tea together!)

I would hate it too OP! (We have both been veggie for over 20 years and our kids are too.) Do you go out to eat much? Or get takeaways? Maybe that would enable him to get his meat fix without the buying/cooking. Or would it be difficult for you to see him eat meat?

Venison is hardly an exotic meat, and neither is reindeer...

I think I've said a few times now that it would be to me. . It's not common place within my family and friend group.

And seriously reindeer isn't? How many cafes or resteraunts do you go to that serve reindeer?

Gold, there is nothing off the wall about game.

I think people on this thread might be incapable of reading and its rather frustrating. For YOU maybe. It is not the norm for me and people I know to eat reindeer and venison. It might not be 'off the wall' I don't think I ever said that, it's just not the NORM. don't tell me reindeer is as common to you as chicken is, because I won't believe you.

I've said numerous times now that I ate the basic meats: which to me were chicken beef and pork. I didn't want to add any other animal to that. There was no need to.

Sorry that sounded a bit harsh but it feels like some of you are trying to force what is normal for you onto me, when I've explained a few times now.

Venison is reindeer.. reindeer is just another breed of deer, the same as you can get different breeds of pigs and cows.

Game Pie, Game Soup, Venison steaks, other game products are all widely available in every UK supermarket, and almost any restaurant/pub that serves food.

Eating fillet steak isnt really the norm either, and to be quite honest there is very little difference between a venison fillet and a beef fillet..

(Bangs head on wall)

It doesn't matter if there is little difference between themr! For me it's about introducing another animal into my diet that I wouldn't need to, because I've never been offered a meal with them in and we don't buy it!

Christ.

Yes, we get that!

But supposing you went to a meal and the host offered you game casserole, would you actually refuse to try it on those reasons alone??

I'm veggie now so of course

But even then yes. And I know, I know how rude it would make me seem but my point is I would never have been offered it anyway because its not something my family and friends eat and I try to find out beforehand what they are going to serve

And if you understand me then why do you keep reiterating that its normal for you...

Gold. You didnt want to eat more meats and no one is saying you should have done. Then you are saying that it isnt normal to eat venison, well for someone on the verge of vegetarianism, as you were at the time, of course its not normal. But for meat eaters, venison is considered a normal thing to eat.

Just because you chose not to doesnt mean that it isnt a normal meat to choose as part of a meat eating diet.

goldship how can you say your family or friends 'never' do anything. Surely they surprise you at some point.
Tbh I don't really understand your point. You are annoy people eat food here that is not the norm?
I don't get it.

But I didnt say it was normal for me, I said it was normal for most meat eating people in the UK and Europe, you are describing it as if it is some sort of rare exotic food such as crocodile...

Smeg - clearly you haven't read. Even when I was a meat eater it wasn't normal. ALL my family and friends are meat eaters but they don't eat it either. Not that they wouldn't, but they don't because its just not something they buy.

I'm not saying anyone is abnormal for eating it. Just it isn't normal for us!

Maybe it's because of where I live, or social class or whatever I don't know. It just doesn't happen.

As an adult I am quite capable of making choices about what I eat and frankly if someone tried to tell me I couldn't eat something in my own home I would tell them to F-off.

Has it not occurred to you OP that your DP stopped eating meat just to placate you?

sookie because they are my family and friends that's why. They have never ate it.

And I've never tried to make a point! People started questioning one if my posts and I've answered in reply to them! I haven't intended to make any point!

Anyway I think OP's thread has derailed enough! :)

I used to work as a meat inspector in abattoirs. I used to check the meat was healthy and that the abbatoirs were hygienic. I found the actual slaughter humane, the slaughtermen were efficient and killed the animals as quickly as possible. What I found was distressing was the transportation of the animals. These days animals are transported mile and miles and even overseas to be slaughtered in huge factory like abbatoirs.

It didn't turn me vegetarian but I do want animals to be treated as humanely as possible. I'd rather pay more for meat and eat less of it than for animals to be raised in very intensive conditions.

Even in Sweden reindeer isn't eaten as regularly as beef and chicken, moose is eaten mote often than reindeer but stil it is seen as a luxury food. Our freezer does have a picture of a reindeer on one of the draws alongside a picture of fish and a chicken to indicate that is the meat draw, I was a little surprised when I first saw it.

I've just spat my drink out reindeer :o

I'm applying to become a protected species due to my fabulous golden bollocks - then I know I'm safe.

I wouldn't want bits of metal in my. reindeer sausage anyway golden bollocks your safe from my freezer ;)