to be annoyed at dr's comment?

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Ok so went for 6 week postnatal check for me and ds2 and the doctor was asking about feeding and I said yes I am breast feeding so she said oh so his poo's will still smell quiet sweet then she said 'when you start mixed feeding then his poo's will smell horrible'!! So I just said back I don't think well be doing that somehow I breast fed ds1 for 18 months.

The point is I never even mentioned any desire to use formula or mix feed. Am annoyed because of the assumtion I will mix feed and because I thought the nhs were supposed to be encouraging breast feeding! I have nothing against anyone who choses to mix feed or formula feed its there choice but I feel my doctor should not be making an asumptions about how I feed my baby!!

You obviously have issues with this doctor so why keep going back to her, see someone different or change practices. Life's too short

I found ff poo still had that sweet smell, so I guess she must have meant solids.

YABU.

I can not understand why anyone would get annoyed over such a comment TBH!

Dear god people get annoyed at the slightest thing these days.

Chill love, you won't survive the teen years otherwise.

Errrr.... I think it's safe to assume that YABU. I'm pretty sure your doctor was making conversation and probably couldn't give a tiny rat's ass how you feed your baby.

Mountain... molehill.

Wow you are being VVU!

Enjoy your baby and try to relax a little!

I think you could be annoyed on a less personal level - it is annoying and wrong how many direct and indirect messages we get saying/telling us/presuming that bf is something to do for the 1st few weeks only or not at all! I agree the doc was prob not referring to weaning, and was just making an assumption - they shouldn't do that on any matter not just bf related.

over sensitive! maybe she ment weaning baby

I was only really annoyed cos i thought breast feeding should be encouraged by the nhs and the assumption was made in my eyes that at some point I won't cope and will have to use formula. I don't want a bun fight and I have lots of friends who ff and I know how guilty they felt when they had to give up trying to bf for whatever reason. I just always am made to feel like the crazy hippy lady who bf and had a home birth.

completely precious

wear your lactivist badge next time so she knows where you are coming from

why do you assume ff = "not coping"?

why say your friends felt guilty when they "had to give up" bf

YANBU to be annoyed by anything at 6 weeks postnatal!

at my 6 week check, after establishing that it was a 6 week post natal check, the GP asked how many months old my baby was

I'd give you a biscuit but I am making allowances as you have just had a baby.

She was refering to weaning! They do smell bad

It sounds as though you don't think this particular Dr is very supportive so you are very sensitive to what she says.
I would ignore and forget it to be honest

The NHS is for everybody not just people who BF and why do you only know people who felt guilty about using formula. I couldn't BF either of mine and never felt remotely guilty about it , you do what is best for your own DC .

YABU. Sounds like you went in looking for something to be annoyed about.

Why is it not ok for your Dr to make an innocent, chatty comment but it is ok for doctors to be so pro bf that they don't even refer to people ff? Wouldn't that make people who ff feel a bit upset? Doesn't sound like you are fine with ff to be honest. As has been said up thread, it's not fucking poison.

Why exactly is ff 'not coping'? I ff and coped very well thank you.

Because they all seem to that they are not doing what's consider 'best' for your baby and have had to give up for what ever reasons sore nipples, not enough supply etc and the nhs tell you over and over you must bf cos its best etc. Then they feel like they have failed.

I feel sooo greatful that I can breast feed well and easily but everytime I look around the nhs contradicts itself and its own advice.

I also had a hv with ds1 tell me to formula feed when he was not sleeping through as it would fill him up and he would then sleep through the night!!

I honestly think that you are the only one who thinks you are a hippy.

Please stop thinking people are thinking bad of you. People are so self centred they really dont have the inclination to be judging you.

And anyone who does isnt really worth the headspace anyway.

Hmm.. A little over dramatic to be annoyed about this, surely?

Sounds like she was just making conversation.

IME GP's don't tend to be particularly interested in the breastfeeding debate (mine didn't anyway). It was the midwives and HV's who were very keen on discussing how I was feeding my babies, the GP wasn't really interested.

I would just let it go tbh. I reckon they were just talking about starting solids.