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To have told him i can't have sex?

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janflan · 04/10/2012 10:08

I've got myself into a situation. I've been chatting to this bloke for a few weeks on fb and by text. He's someone i used to know a while back but don't really know him that well.

We planned to meet and i may have led him on a bit. Due to circumstances i thought meeting up wouldn't be for a while and i could have lots of wine and it would be dark.

Now he wants to take the day off and come over tomorrow! In the daylight! He's younger than me by quite a bit and is fit in more ways than one. I'm not in any way!

There's no way i can have sex with him in the daylight without wine with only a day to prepare! I'd need a new outfit and my hair, eyebrows and nails done and a hedge trimmer

I've just sent him a message basically saying that i know i might have led him on but i can't have sex with someone I've just met. That i do really like him but think coffee might be best.

He's been constantly texting me all day and now he's gone quiet.

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Solo · 05/10/2012 11:11

How old is he? and you janflan? I'm watching with interest as I believe I might just be ready to date again after many years of singledom.

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janflan · 05/10/2012 11:13

Yes there's no need for it is there i can't be glued to my phone 24/7.

Thanks very much i am too i'm feeling great now, probably better than i would have if i'd have met him.

He hasn't replied since the last message telling him he should have told me yesterday it was a definite.

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janflan · 05/10/2012 11:14

He's 23 and i'm 30 Blush

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cheekybarsteward · 05/10/2012 11:16

I give it 3 days before he is irritating the fuck out of you and you are barring his number........

Numberlock · 05/10/2012 11:18

Make sure you wear your new outfit and underwear for lunch with your sisters.

You never know who might be in the cafe/restaurant.

Nothing wrong with that age difference, or any age difference.

Am laughing to myself imagining him totally bemused by this new super-confident woman telling him what she will and won't accept. Smile

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janflan · 05/10/2012 11:32

Yes now that's a plan i will do that. I can't be bothered to straighten my hair though so i'll leave it curly but i will put make up on.

Yes me too he's probably wondering what an earth has happened to me.

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perplexedpirate · 05/10/2012 11:33

Same age difference as DH and I.
I can heartily recommend it. Wink

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janflan · 05/10/2012 11:36

Well i think i've scared him off so i won't get chance to find out.

I've never gone for a younger man before, ex was 16yrs older than me and all my other ex's have been at least 2yrs older.

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Solo · 05/10/2012 11:37

Oh! that age gap is nothing!! my brother's partner is 7 years older than him and!!! she was around 25 stones when they met! he fancied her anyway!! and they have been together about 12 years now :)

wednesdaygirl · 05/10/2012 11:45

23 hes a baby Smile

Be confident men love women that know what they like in and out of the bedroom Wink

Numberlock · 05/10/2012 11:48

Well keep us posted, jan. I can't wait to hear what happens next!

And good luck to you too solo with your dating.

Solo · 05/10/2012 12:01
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janflan · 05/10/2012 12:07

Well so far nothing he's been silent.

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Numberlock · 05/10/2012 12:21

He's yesterday's news Jan. Wink He just couldn't handle it.

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janflan · 05/10/2012 12:45

That's right Numberlock he is.

I'm all dressed up to go and meet my Sister for lunch, i may be a bit overdressed but who cares?

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piratecat · 05/10/2012 13:31

he's bottled it, better to know now that he's not reliable. it's all too twisty and he's backtracked.

something similar happened to me last week, and mine just disappeared, i was blocked on facebook, and he deleted his account on the date site.

I was incredulous, but a few days later realised i really didn't need the hassle.

It shouldn't be hassle should it, it should be nice. I hope you have a nice lunch with your sister, and meet someone much more sorted!

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janflan · 05/10/2012 14:08

I've had a lovely lunch thank you.

He text me his new number so i said so you do want to still talk to me then and he said yes of course.

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Solo · 05/10/2012 14:16

New number? do you think he is actually single?

Glad lunch was good.

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janflan · 05/10/2012 14:19

I think he just changed his phone, am pretty sure he's single but can't be 100% certain.

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Solo · 05/10/2012 14:24

I change my phone when the contract runs out, but I keep my number...

Icelollycraving · 05/10/2012 14:26

Sounds like too much hassle already.

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janflan · 05/10/2012 14:27

Why do you think he might have changed it then?

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Pancakeflipper · 05/10/2012 14:31

Just phone his old phone and see what happens.

But he could have 2 mobiles - personal and company one.

Solo · 05/10/2012 14:33

There could be lots of reasons. I just have a suspicious mind after my ex's exploits

Solo · 05/10/2012 14:34

I'd phone his old number in a months time or from an unknown to him number.