To think that the bullying culture on MN can be a bit much....

[tjah04]

Having been a member of MN since 2003 I have seen and read some disgusting comments from other members particuarly on this board.

I am starting to think that some of these people must be very sad and insecure.

Some of the names that are called are disgusting and I am sure that these people would never go up to someone in RL and call them that.

And do not get me started on the "I am better than you because I can spell" attitude which seems to be the final insult if all else fails.

Other comments include

"troll" "Oh not another thread" etc.

It is cyber bullying at the end of the day and as mothers shouldn't we all just grow up a bit? The MN team do a great job of deleting such posts but often the OP has seen it and the damage is already done.

OP you don't have to link to the thread just tell us the name of the poster who called you a dyslexic cunt or ask MNHQ to come on and confrim that is was said by a poster who is not a troll.

This is hardly anything to do with this thread but I want to say it anyway. I have been on MN nearly 4 years. I have always regularly namechanged. I have started threads about suicide, disputed wills, abusive marriages, alcohol, problems with DC and many more. Each time I have recieved amazing advice, never been called troll, had PMs asking how I am.

I namechange because I have such a lack of confidence that I think I must appear to be a twat so I nc beofre anyone can call me a twat. The only time anyone has insinuated that I am a twat is when I have tried to explain why I nc regularly. They didn't believe my lack of confidence and my anxiety was the reason. Apart from that I have had nothing but great support from many regulars.

As per usual, I realise my post has very little to do with the OP so now I am worried I will look like a twat so I will nc again.

Like I said, I know it doesn't really have anything to do with the OP but it has been buzzing around in my head for a while now and I wanted to say thanks to those who take the time to advise and help genuine posters even if you don't recognise the nickname.

whenever there's a 'you're all a bunch of bullies' thread the OP can never link to anything and instead refers to something that they might have once seen on a Wednesday or it might have been last Tuesday. If there's real bullying then it needs to get called on the thread not dredged up without evidence.

Evidence, people. Bring CSI in.

hully - look after yourself, ok?

Perhaps you could message HQ and have them confirm this actually happened then? Because it does sound very much like you have invented something outrageous for the purposes of your argument, I'm afraid. And that one remark is not related to the substance of your complaints in any case: it is of a completely different quality. It's like hating Ed Milliband because Stalin murdered his own people: a complete non-sequitur. You might make a case for Milliband being a dickhead, but you can't use metaphorical gulags to do it.

Oh fuck, cross post a gazillion.
So sorry to hear that Hully. T'is truly shit. Praying for your cousin x

sorry Hully - just read about your cousin.

Hilly so very sorry for her and of course yes her parents, so bloody hard.

Oh, Hully, I'm so sorry. That is shit beyond measure.

I also agree with BIWI (always) and Tufty and LRD and ........................
(please insert own name)

< gives Hully a title hug>
LeQueen hisyhuffy is so onamatapeic. It's like a steam train- if you repeat it really fast, really quickly while running up and down the hall.
Now, about my paint?

My name is MaryZed and I have a confession to make.

I painted dd's room using Dulux paint.

And I didn't paint the skirting boards.

Hold on, (I really am going to work in a mo)

So the thread went

Op - post of some kind
Unknown - You're a dyslexic cunt
Unknown 2
Other poster - Oooo, that's mean
Unknown 3 - YY, I agree with the incredibly offensive thing Unknown said.

I have never never seen the like on MN. Genuinely never.

Getting quite excited about your paint knowledge. It's for the living room which gets sun in the morning. I think warm grey? I found some great big swirly 70's curtains in the jumble. I thought grey would take the 'too in your face' out of them. That and I like elephants.

I got into quite a fight yesterday. I woudn't extrapolate that out into being bullied, I called the poster out on the thread in question and I wrote the name down on a post it note then carried on arguing the point I wanted to make.

And forgive me if I'm wrong, but given that tjah04 is not an especially clever or distinctive name that anybody would particularly need to keep, and that you have no posting history under it, why would it matter if you told us what the thread was? You could simply namechange again after this goady thread. Your refusal to back up your claim at all is illogical unless you are completely making it up.

Sue it sounds more like:

OP -post of some kind
Unknown - You're a dyslexic cunt
Other posters - that's an obnoxious thing to say
Possibly one other poster -
Post deleted
Thread deleted

[baffled]

So that's how it should go - op is abused for no reason, abuse is deleted. Where does the bullying come into it at all?

In answer to your question it's hardly surprising that some posters are called trolls or the like.

Some of the threads on here every day are utter bollocks.

Yabu.

I should have been a barrister. One that doesn't get ignored though, maybe.

Because the thread was not about that one thread in question. I was asked why I had namechanged and I explained why.

I do not need to show a specific thread to state that it happens on here.