To think that the bullying culture on MN can be a bit much....

[tjah04]

Having been a member of MN since 2003 I have seen and read some disgusting comments from other members particuarly on this board.

I am starting to think that some of these people must be very sad and insecure.

Some of the names that are called are disgusting and I am sure that these people would never go up to someone in RL and call them that.

And do not get me started on the "I am better than you because I can spell" attitude which seems to be the final insult if all else fails.

Other comments include

"troll" "Oh not another thread" etc.

It is cyber bullying at the end of the day and as mothers shouldn't we all just grow up a bit? The MN team do a great job of deleting such posts but often the OP has seen it and the damage is already done.

Sorry to hear that hully

((hugs))

Oh, god, hully.

I'm so sorry to hear that.

Oh Hully xx

Op as you won't name poster or thread then how can we believe you are a serious poster.

Posters who know each other in RL, what's the harm in chatting together, like I said its a bit boring for me personally so I scroll over,, but don't see the pack mentality here.

What's wrong with a good old verbal fisticuffs anyway. Brightens the day.

It really really sucks

She had just been told she had a five second window to try and have kids and the headaches started...

Agggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

Thank you Hully - were you being unpleasant, not like you at all.

Thanks all, I know it's "derailing" blah blah but fuck me that poor bloody woman and her poor family.

I will not get the example. Point blank. I have name changed because I do not want to be linked with that thread - Period.

If you choose to believe that I am making it all up rather than encouraging a serious debate on MN etiquette then fine.

Sorry about that Hully . It's shit.

tjah, I don't believe that someone who called you a dyslexic cunt wasn't called on it by other posters. The only time I wouldn't report such a comment was if you were being deliberately nasty, provocative, and hurtful (which some op's do). In that case you would be behaving like a cunt. I still wouldn't be happy about the "dyslexic" bit.

I simply don't believe that others piled in and backed such a poster for no reason.

Tough, have you seen that group joining a serious and sensible thread and derailing it? If you do, tell them to stop.

Derail away.

Do you know what will happen now? Chemo to shrink it?

I'm not asking to be nosy, so don't reply if you don't want, but I figured sometimes if you've just heard, you want to talk.

X Post Sorry to hear that Hully xxx

Yes, derail away.

We have debated, personally I think there's no a tusk bullying and you are wrong and being unreasonable.. Also you can't fling accusations and then fail to produce evidence.

tjah - honestly if someone said that to you it says far more about their intelligence than yours. Please next time press the report button and dont let them get away with it.

Another nice bit of bolding.

There is a bit of a pack mentality, let's all swoop in and out-do each other with insults, but there are also many, many posters who write very kind and helpful posts. The efforts some go to blow me away, actually, especially in Relationships, and I think that very many broken hearts have been helped to heal thanks to MN.

Thanks, lrd. Yep, yet more chemo. She lost all her hair last time. Here we go again. In some ways it's her parents I feel most sorry for, they shrunk and aged last tiem round...I dread to think how they'll survive this.

I'm not saying you're making it up though.

What I'm saying is that if you're talking about a bullying culture on MN, and then you give a terrible example of someone calling you an awful name and then you can't show it then how can "we" know whether the person who called you that was a BASTARD who is here regularly (and should be avoided like the plague) or a troll.

We also can't tell whether that person said:
"you dyslexic cunt" and then everyone else on the thread said
"Yeah! LOL!" which I doubt or whether everyone said " That's an appalling way to speak to someone and I've reported your post"

DYSWIM?

Maryzed, Other posters did and it was deleted.

But there were some other posters that sent the smiley faces or "what she said" comments.

This was just my personal experience but I have witnessed it many many times over the years.

Yes, it must be awful for her parents. And all of you.

I hope she reacts a little better to the chemo. I have heard that chemo for breast cancer is nastier than for brain cancer, so I do hope that proves to be the case here.

Anyway, thanks all.

Go back to the bullying stuff, this isn't the place really!