For thinking i shouldn't be getting constantly pestered by the local nurse and GP team to get my daughter immunises when i've repeatedly told them my answer is no?

[Lowla]

My daughter is 4. She got all her jabs as a baby, but i stopped at the MMR one. Since we missed the appointment, i've been getting loads of letters to invite us to the clinic for the MMR jab and now her school booster jab for some other virus. (Hib or something like that).

I've phoned the GP and asked them not to send any more letters out as i've chosen not to get her immunised any further for my own personal reasons, and worries over her last reactions to the jabs. And now i've got some nurse calling me asking to do a home visit next week to 'check on me and dd'. I asked 'is this about the jabs?' and she said, rather reluctantly, 'yes'.

AIBU for feeling like they should respect my decision?

Sorry for the bad grammar. Writing this in a rush as i have to run and get dd from school.

Sossiges- Go to a non partner GP then. They get their salary whatever happens. But do you REALLY believe people go through that much training and then decide that money is better than patient welfare?

Every pregnant women in Wiltshire is going to be offered a vacination for whopping cough,the doctor explained that the vaccinations you recieve as a child do not cover you for life,children die from whoppingcough .

"Healthiest child I've ever met. Seriously."

how do you know? wait till there's an outbreak of mumps at uni. I am 25 and quite a few of my friends have had it in early adulthood despite getting the jab. They got it because other people weren't vaccinated. It can make men infertile ffs.

YABU

I take it you expect your daughter to participate in society? E.g. Attend a school, utilise nhs services if needed etc

Then I'm sorry but your decision should not be respected as its based on selfishness instead of societal consequence.

Febrile fits are not a reason to avoid jabs. Have you seen the results of measles or whooping cough? Kind of a lot worse.

I would respect your decision if your child was then home schooled and limited in their societal interaction. Now that wouldn't be fair would it to your daughter???

Though you expect everyone else around you to man-up doing the hard work and provide herd immunity for you.

I hope they start to hassle your dd to get tge jabs as soon as she is old enough. Or at least keep records as to what her selfish mother has denied her.

I wasn't immunized as a child and when I went to the Dr in my 20's to get my immunizations as I don't follow my mother's hippy crazy ideas they had no record of what I needed and reluctantly gave me tge polio one and nothing else.

Lostit- The plural of data is not anecdotes.

OP offensive? I don't think so are you sure it wasn't me?

Weird, on MN it is more acceptable to not vaccinate your children than it is to baptise them.

She IS the healthiest child I've ever met. No, I can't predict what the future will have in store for her, but what i can do is offer the OP what little info I know about the subject area at this moment in time.
Very sorry

DD reacted to the last shots. I asked my HCPs and we together decided that DD should have her next set, but have them late. I am pro-vaccine and cannot understand why I would want DD to endanger a child who was immuno-compromised or severely allergic to the vaccines.

Every pregnant women in Wiltshire is going to be offered a vacination for whopping cough,the doctor explained that the vaccinations you recieve as a child do not cover you for life,children die from whoppingcough

Every pregnant woman in the country is being offered it.

I do think thats a big problem with the vaccination system, there is no way for most people to know if they are still covered by their childhood vaccines. Perhaps people should be able to have their immunity checked every 10/15 years on the NHS and any vaccines that need a booster given.

A friend of mine has 4 DC's. DS3 was diagnosed with autism at 2.5yrs.Consequently she didn't get DD (youngest) vaccinated against ANYTHING. Healthiest child I've ever met. Seriously.
Each to their own and all that but my friend is convinced her DD has such a strong immune system because she had to build up her own defences against everything.

Wise man once say, "anecdote does not equate to scientific fact".

Can I ask, the people who don't vaccinate. Are you anti-vaccine entirely? What I mean is, do you think we should all not vaccinate and get polio and so on, or should we vaccinate to protect your children?

It is irritating when you are deluged with letters about vaccination when you have told the GP surgery for e.g. that you have had them done privately (in ds's case) BUT they are sent out by the Primary Care Trust, not the surgery. (I gave my GP's surgery a full record from the private clinic - so was particularly annoyed by repeated letters claiming 'we have no record...')

Chuff this, my experience is clearly wrong, I'm off

+1 to mrsterryschocolateorange question

OP I think YABU

theinets you sound like a fucking idiot with your references to rural Africans. I know plenty of rural Africans who are fully aware of the importance of vaccinations .

LostIt you are not wrong, just in the minority.

I was also an extremely healthy unvaccinated child but to put your child's health over everyone else's health is selfish.

In all seriousness op you need to go and have a chat with your GP. Febrile convulsions are not serious and kids grow out of them. It is apparent from your responses that you are not making an informed decision.

You owe it to your DD to make a decision based on the advice of a medical professional. The NHS website also has info.

@lostit its not that your experience is wrong, it is that you are attributing too much to your experience.

I'm in England right now, the sky is a bit grey. Doesn't mean there is no blue sky anywhere in England.

I was born in the last year that Smallpox vaccinations were routine in the USA.
I regard the scar on my shoulder as one of the most reassuring proofs of the success of science that there can be.

I have a cousin who is a "rubella baby" - NOBODY who has ever met one would not get that immunisation.
I have friends who have no children because he caught mumps at university and is infertile - NOBODY who has seen the effects of adult mumps would wish it on any man.
My father had measles and it damaged his eyes for ever - NOBODY who has seen measles would want it to properly return to the UK.

Getting rid of the BCG inoculations in school was a really bad move that is being rolled back to prevent TB spreading further.

The HPV vaccination will hopefully save my daughter's generation from fear of cervical cancer.

Sorry, but those who are against inoculations have obviously led MUCH too sheltered lives.

ethelb people do tend to get mumps when the vaccination wears off, which I'm sure it invariably does - IMO it's much better to have mumps as a child than as a teenager because as you say "it can make men infertile, ffs"

YABU. I understand why you've decided not to vaccinate and seeing your DD in hospital each time must've been horrible, but it doesn't mean you've made the right choice. If medical professionals believe that she should still be vaccinated and that vaccinating her protects her from something far worse than vomiting and convulsions, you should listen to them. Perhaps a middle ground could be reached whereby she is vaccinated in hospital and kept under observation so any adverse reaction can be dealt with immediately?

It is apparent from your responses that you are not making an informed decision
This is what I suspect is at the heart of this. Your gp's surgery don't believe it either and want to make sure that you are making an informed decision. Once satisfied, then they should absolutely leave you alone and respect your decision. I don't think it's unreasonable for them to make sure of your position first.