To be doubly doubly fucked off about exs new baby now she's born and he took my baby name!

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That's just it in a nutshell! Dickhead not only knocked up the ow within 6 months of us splitting after leaving me with tiny baby a). His new daughter has just been born and hes called her the name we'd picked for our son if he'd been a girl.

I despair of that man.

And I'm really REALLY fucked off about everything to do with this!

FUCK!!!!!!!

Stacey, no, of course not. And I was only speaking for myself and choices I would make anyway. There is no need for the thread to be hijacked.

Having children by different partners is not ideal. Nor is naming your child a name that your ex wanted to use. But there's nothing bad about either of those things.

lets face it any man who leaves his wife/partner when they have just had his baby then quickly gets someone else pregnant is a complete bell end, and this is the sort of thing you would expect a person like that to do

I was only speaking for myself and choices I would make anyway.

So if you yearned for a second child and your DH had left you for someone else, are you saying that you would never consider having that second child with someone else?

Easy to say what you would do if you havent been in that situation.

And point of order, if the thread didnt need to be hijacked, why did you start it?

YANBU. I would go mad if my ex does this to me (I have the feeling he will). I doubt I will be able to keep my mouth shut if he does - Illage Vidiot sums it all up very well

My XH and his partner (who was OW) actually asked if it was ok to use one of our dc's middle names as their choice when they were about a baby. Thankfully it was the opposite sex, but I was a bit .

about to have, even.

I started it by saying that my opinion on that may mean that it makes my opinion on a related subject less valid to the OP. it's everyone else picking up o it that's hijacked it.

But yes, I am saying I wouldn't have a second child with someone else.

And btw, I didn't object, even though I would not been overly happy. It was none of my business what they named their child. I thought it said a lot about them that they were crass enough to consider it.

somedayma, I meant it would take the shine off the name, not the baby. Thought that would have been obvious, but clearly not.

And like I said outraged, easy to say if you have never been desperate for another child in a subsequent relationship.

Still quite nasty Karma, as I said above, I bet she doesnt know because he didnt bother telling her and it wouldnt really do anything would it? Except that every time she looked at her child she would think of you and probably hate you a little more each time, and what would that solve?

It is nasty, but if my dh cheated on me, I wouldn't feel any need to be kind to OW.

Oh dont get me wrong, neither would I. But equally, I wouldnt go out of my way to be spiteful, it just plays into their hands that you are the vindictive bitter ex, and I wouldnt give them the satisfaction.

What a tacky fucker. I almost feel sorry for the silly bitch.

Just say congratulations and move on.....you will heal quicker this way i promise!

Funnily enough, when I had the opportunity to be very spiteful to a woman who'd harmed me, I did choose not to, on the grounds that it would hurt innocent people too. I must admit that i derive great satisfaction from knowing that I could trash her life (and believe me, she does deserve it).

In this case though, the only person who would be hurt is OW, so I think I would let my spite win out. I am not really sure there is anything wrong in being vindictive if you are only vindictive towards people who have actively harmed you and don't let innocent bystanders get caught up in it.

Yanbu.

Understand karma's sentiments! But sensible say nothing and be the bigger person (but letting the rage out to trusted people!)

It may be coincidence, we are expecting dc2 (dc1 is only 18 months) and neither me or df can remember any of the names that were suggested first time around. We knew the sex and were pretty much certain on one name but had back-up for both sexes. The list could be exactly the same bar one as far as we know.

What a tacky fucker

It is, thats the perfect word....tacky.

If you want tacky, I think i can beat it with what a member of my family did.

When her first child was born she had her wedding dress made into a beautiful christening gown for the baby. Perfectly ok, traditional too I believe. However to this day she doesnt get why the babies father and his family were pissed off.

He was her fiancé, they werent married and the dress was from her first disastrous marriage that ended when she had an affair with her babies father!

baby's not babies

YANBU

What a tosser

However, vent on here, get your anger out but don't let it spill over into RL. There is nothing, nothing, nothing you can do about it or anything else your ex does.

x

I like IllageVidiot's post.

And think it would be wrong to tell her. But totally right to ask XP how she had reacted when he told her it was "our" girls name. Then let him stew.

:o at the dress from a different wedding!

Genius.

Smeghead, tackytastic!

She is tackytastic! This is the woman who had her bridesmaid when she married the baby's father in the same dress that she wore as BM at the first wedding! She has done soooo much other stuff, but the christening gown one was the most relevant!