Ok this is a bit of an angry post as it has JUST happened!
My dd reaches double figures next week. We've had a number of family upheavals this year and her dad, my ex is away with the military so dh and i decided to time our family holiday to coincide with her bday, hopefully making his absence less painful. (we'll see how that goes)
Anyway to make up for the fact that were away, his dsis has had her for the weekend and took her bday shopping. Dh and I get on very well with ex's dsis, but have now hit a snag.
Dd has been pestering for a mobile for some time. We say no. She is (in our opinion) too young and doesn't need one. In our opinion its just one more thing to be lost, stolen, broken, confiscated and although people preach about the safety bonuses, our dd is exactly roaming the streets without us.
She will have one when she starts high school, she knows this and we've tried to make her see it as a 'coming of age' gift. I've no problem with other people giving their children a phone...each to their own, but that is our decision.
Anyway....they've bought her a phone. Text us to check it was ok, although theyve already given it to her. They say that dd said it would be ok.
I've said no, that she cant have it. Im furious.
1/ because if what they say is true, dd has lied to get something she knows shes not allowed
2/ because in my opinion people should ask before they buy certain gifts for children and a mobile os one of those gifts no?
3/ because now Im the bad guy...as per
They text back saying, she's just playing, but we'll take it off her before we bring her home,
So now Im not furious, Im heart broken. My daughters birthday and Im going to have to tell her off and Ive had her birthday gift (which I know she will have been thrilled with ) taken away.
AIBU to be pissed off that we are in this position or
AIBU to say she cant have it