To rehome my dogs?

[toughdecision]

I've NCed for this and apologies in advance for the rambling nature of this post. Am trying not to dripfeed.
DD is 8 months old. My dogs are 9 years old and I've owned them since they were 8 weeks old, they are 5 months apart in age.
One of my dogs has growled and challenged my DD on a number of occasions, she's never bitten anyone before (she has mouthed me when she was a lot younger, when I was grooming her as she hates it. I don't groom her now at all, I send her to the groomers every 2 months for a short clip to keep her coat in check). I'm worried she might bite my DD although she has shown affection towards her as well at times.
I have been removing my DD when the dog has growled/challenged and locked the dogs in their sleeping area. I spoke to a behaviourist at a shelter this week and she said I shouldn't remove my DD as this is sending the wrong message to the dog, that what she is doing is okay, she says I should leave DD where she is and correct the dog's behaviour by banging 2 saucepans above her head and this will show her I'm pack leader. I tried banging a biscuit tin when the other dog was barking incessantly and she did stop but my DD was sobbing because the noise was so loud.
I'm very nervous about not removing DD as I do feel it's putting her at risk.
I'm waiting for the shelter to get back to me as I'd want them to be rehomed together as they've never been apart from each other for longer than a few hours if they are at the groomers separately or at the vets.
At the moment, they don't have much of a life. They spend a lot of time in their sleeping area because of the growling and they never get walked anymore as I can't manage them and the pushchair on my own (I have to go down steps to get out of my house and they are very unruly on the lead) and my DH doesn't feel they need to be walked as they're quite sedate breeds and he thinks they're happy [sceptical]. They used to spend all their time being fussed and loved, now they're just being told to constantly move or get in their bed.
But when I look at them, I can't imagine them not being here or with us, they've been our babies for so long.
I've talked to friends and family in RL and I'm getting very mixed opinions, they all know how we feel about them.
DH doesn't really want to rehome but feels that it's making me very stressed out (which it is) and it would take away that anxiety for me.
I really don't know what to do. I feel guilty for keeping them as their quality of life has decreased as they never get walked anymore and they confined a lot of the time but then I also feel guilty if I rehome them that I've not tried hard enough.
I also can't rehome them separately or get rid of one because they are very attached to one another, when we do take them out if one of us crosses the road before the other and they're separated, they are desparate to get to one another. They are in excellent health for their ages and although they are unruly on the lead, they are small dogs and are very affectionate and friendly (apart from the growling dog with my DD).

The fucking dogs have NOT posed any risk to the baby.

The dogs have said, stop banging fucking pans around my head, and take me for a walk please and they have said who is this new person, lets all meet neutrally and get to know each other in a safe environment where I feel respected and safe.

No dog has grabbed said kid by throat. Such a ridiculous overreaction and the reason so many dogs are dieing in rescue.

People give more time and consideration and care to new boyfriends that they met in the pub than to the dogs. Those animals that would fight off a rabid wolf to defend you if they had to. I keep saying I am leaving this thread.

What, exactly is the problem here ? ...... you say you can no longer manage walks with the pushchair. So what - if you don't want to accept the advice given about how to do this more successfully - then why on earth can't you walk them once your DH is at home. 20 minutes is nothing - in fact, surely you could manage 30 or even 40 mins just for the hell of it! I think your DH is disgusting, refusing to walk them. How bloody lazy - when they must be going stir crazy .... and more so, I'd imagine, if they've been used to regular walks for many years until recently. But regardless of him being unhelpful and irresponsible, that doesn't mean you can also dismiss their needs. 20 minutes, just 20 minutes a day - and you'd probably have happier, healthier and calmer dogs as a result. Are you honestly saying that for the sake of 20 minutes a day effort you'd prefer to rehome them ?

And I agree that it's very unlikely they'll get rehomed. It doesn't bear thinking about, surely , if they are loved pets ?

I know right now that many people have fallen on very hard times and quite literally cannot afford to keep their pets. It must be heartbreaking to surrender them to a shelter in those circumstances. But this isn't about money for god's sake. It's almost certainly about 20 bloody minutes effort a day. Please please if you love them as you say you do you can surely find that tiny bit of time - with or without the pushchair. And you should be putting a rocket up your DH's arse because these dogs are a joint responsibility.

Remember too that shelters are at breaking point - dealing with cases where owners have been left with absolutely no choice but to give up their pets. They are turning people away - god knows what happens to some of those poor creatures thereafter if they have unscrupulous owners. Do you really think it's fair to take up resources - meaning that other cases in genuine need could be refused - when your own problem could almost certainly be solved by minimal effort ?

Ah i'm glad people who can speak better than wot I can have turned up

Theres to many of these threads around, OP posts that dog has growled at new baby so needs to rehome them.

I always think, if you love your dog, they dont take second best to a new baby, you can walk them, you dont bang pans above them (how would you like that!) It might be a bit difficult to rein them on a pram but you do it because you love them.

dreams spot on. absolutely spot on.

Disposable dogs.

When will people learn? Dogs aren't the warm up act to the headline baby act. Don't get a dog unless you're commited to it being part of a growing family.

Can't walk a shih tzu? You're talking shih tzu.

I think that says it all squoosh, dogs arnt the warm up act. I wish people would realise that!

Oh I am forming a new club on this thread. People who don't treat dogs as the precursor to breeding. Amazeballs.

(I am ebaying a 9 year old (going on 15) in exchange for a dog if anybody is interested??)

I`m on a roll, I have two dogs, a pug that pulls and a beagle that needs to be [pulled] encouraged. You just manage it! Its not their fault, they need a walk!!

Stop walking when that pug pulls!

I knew I shouldn't have read this thread.

OP you have been given lots of good suggestions. You don't appear to want to try any of them.

It would be kinder to take them to the vets yourself.

Hideous.

But, turning away from OP, Ive always found that a dog enriches a childs life. Im with you snowflake with a new club, find all this disposable dog owning too depressing!

I know dreams, I keep saying I am leaving the thread and then I get another wave of . It drives me to utter distraction. Disposeable (sp?) animals, just for tossing around with a staffy on a lead or selling pups for a couple of hundred quid. I lost the plot on Saturday in the park with a woman and her doberman!

x posts, Im trying snowflake, but she just ignores me <img loading="lazy" class="inline-flex mumsnet-emoji" alt="Grin" src="https://www.mumsnet.com/build/assets/grin-D7Eg_B6y.png"> It took me half an hour the other day to walk to the park (2 mins away!!) I stop and bring her to heel, do you think I should try treating her? And, they get so excited when I get the leads for walks, Ive tried ignoring and dropping the leads but they dont listen, but I love them regardless, they are great at recall though!!

Threads like these make me so mad.

No-one is forced to acquire an animal. No-one. Never. So why the hell don't people think it through. Why don't they think about their life plans for the expected lifespan of their pet and consider the impact pet ownership might have upon those before making the commitment ? Okay - none of us can see into the future, accept the unexpected can happen etc., but I've seen some bloody ridiculous - and forseeable - excuses put forward as a reason to get rid. In this case, it seems more like laziness than anything else. The answer is staring the owner in the face.

(Charlearose - BTW, your dogs look gorgeous ..... Bordeaux and Mastiffs are something special).

As others have also said, it would appear that OP had already made her mind up before she came on here - she probably was hoping that everyone would agree she should get rid of her dogs and that her baby was not safe near them. She is not the least bit interested in trying to tackle the situation, she just finds excuses for every good suggestion made to her. I'm sorry, but people like her make my blood boil .

SpecialSnowflake I'm with you - threads like this make me really unhappy too. God help those two poor dogs - looks like their owners certainly won't.

I usually give people in this position the benefit of the doubt, but CHRIST! You cant take the pram down the steps, put the brake on and then go back for the dogs? Its not exactly rocket science. As others have said, walk the poor little buggers! If they are unruly, then train them. It doesnt bode well for your child, if you cant manage to train a dog!
Really, theres no excuse for them being unruly, growling, and not getting walked. You just dont want to.
At 9yo, bonded as a pair, and showing bad behaviour, the best thing you can do is have them PTS yourself. They wont have a life anyway if you put them into rescuee.

Poor Poochies

9 years of being the centre of attention and now a real baby has come along they are surplus to requirements.

dreams - I am not expert like the sadly missed Valhalla but I foster dogs that are due to go into rescue and those that are due to be rehomed and pulling on the lead is something I won't tolerate with any dog.

I think I ranted mentioned upthread about the wild border collie I took on. He was 2 years when I got him and had NEVER () been walked in his entire 2 years. He had me pulled to the ground many a time and I am no ballerina! I got him walking to heel within 3 weeks because he was very food orientated and just stopping walking and having him back to me with a cube of cheese or sausage each time he was by my side walking worked well.

In fairness it took my 7 weeks with an ex racing greyhound because food didn't matter to her it was just her learning that if she pulled I was going nowhere. It is time consuming, boring and very embarassing when you are doing the polite nod to people who are passing you by thinking "wtf is that woman doing"!

*took ME, not took my