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AIBU?

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Original poster

to think that making fun of someone's weight is not on?

72 replies

showtunesgirl · 19/09/2012 21:45

An old work acquaintance has just posted a pic of herself on facebook sitting next to a large black lady on the tube. Her friend must have taken the pic and she's called the picture Fatty fatty boom boom.

I've commented: What is the point of this? Just as it's not acceptable to make fun of someone for being black, it's also not acceptable to make fun of someone for being big.

AIBU to think that she's wrong?

OP posts:
RollerCola · 19/09/2012 21:49

YANBU. Has she responded to your comment?

DamnBamboo · 19/09/2012 21:49

Clearly it's not nice to do this but presumably the lady about whom the nasty comments were made won't ever see it...

Just defriend her.

HecateHarshPants · 19/09/2012 21:50

Not at all.

I find that people who would never dream of mocking someone for their colour, or a disability, feel that fat people are fair game.

I have come to the conclusion that it's because they see it as a choice/self inflicted and then throw out lovely comments about greed and normally follow it up with ones about stupidity (and sometimes cleanliness)

(Can you tell I've been on the receiving end of some lovely attitudes? Grin )

Fakebook · 19/09/2012 21:54

How pathetic. Obviously some people don't grow out of childish behaviour upon leaving school.

Original poster
showtunesgirl · 19/09/2012 21:56

If I'm being brutally honest, she's a bit silly herself. She was always on some weird faddy diet like "I don't eat dinner" so she could stay thin.

She also had an on and off boyfriend who was constantly cheating on her and she kept saying that he was going to marry her. We all told her to dream on but she was convinced that he was the One.

DamnBamboo, you're right, I should just take her off my friends list!

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Anonymumous · 19/09/2012 21:59

It's not just fat people who get mocked. I can't possibly be the only person who is driven mad by comments about slim ladies not being 'real women' or having figures that can only be achieved through starvation diets and being a misery guts. And how unattractive thin women are, and how all men secretly prefer bigger ladies, blah blah blah. Grrrr...

porcamiseria · 19/09/2012 22:00

An old work acquaintance?

nuff said, express displeasure and defriend

WorraLiberty · 19/09/2012 22:02

Anonymumous you forgot 'stick insect' and 'no tits' Hmm

YANBU OP, she does sound like a complete twat...

pointythings · 19/09/2012 22:02

I would never make comments about someone's weight, not face to face, and not on FB. It's just rude. If you can't see the real person then just shut the f* up.

LucieMay · 19/09/2012 22:03

I just wish as a society we could get over mocking women for their size or shape, however big or small they are, but it's never gonna happen.

topknob · 19/09/2012 22:05

As a small person I do get really fed up with the do you ever eat comments and being thin blah blah..it is hurtful tbh. OP you are right the photo was wrong as were the comments.

topknob · 19/09/2012 22:06

worra do you know how much those comments can hurt?? bit like the stupid fb posts about how men like real curvy women :(

aldiwhore · 19/09/2012 22:08

Its pretty tragic really and not very funny. The only time I ever laughed at someone's weight (other than my own) was a dear friend who asked me what a particular cardi looked like, I said "not good" our other friend who is slightly more honest (and pretty large herself) said "Hagrid".

Original poster
showtunesgirl · 19/09/2012 22:08

topknob I think you're misreading the tone of Worra's post. She's saying it's NOT acceptable.

So we've established that IANBU but AIBU to think that it's ok to now make fun of her because she's a twunt? Grin

OP posts:
wannabedomesticgoddess · 19/09/2012 22:08

Think its really sad that women are still being like this towards other women.

YANBU

JeuxDEnfants · 19/09/2012 22:10

Very pathetic :(

MadgeHarvey · 19/09/2012 22:10

Mocking anything to do with another person's physical appearance - any part of it - shows a stunning lack of both wit and intelligence. It's just lazy and usually only practiced by the cerebrally incontinent. Defriend and keep it that way.

Sunnywithachanceofshowers · 19/09/2012 22:11

YANBU

topknob · 19/09/2012 22:11

Then I do apologise x

SoleSource · 19/09/2012 22:17

Yanbu

I had this in ASDA by the cashier the other day.

WorraLiberty · 19/09/2012 22:23

topknob I weighed hardly anything until I was around 32yrs old so I spent my whole life with those nasty comments...often from complete strangers and sometimes for 'misguided friends' who thought thin people were fair game because it's apparently not rude to comment.

So yes I do know Smile

Floggingmolly · 19/09/2012 22:30

Directed at you, SoleSource?

SoleSource · 19/09/2012 22:48

Yeah. Also about fat people etc. I started a thread about it in chat today.

Floggingmolly · 19/09/2012 22:50

Hope you gave them hell.

amybelle1990 · 19/09/2012 23:00

YANBU that person sounds like they're a bit of a nasty piece of work and need to be defriended

but I must admit I'm a bit fatist [embarrassed] I'd never offend an overweight person to their face or pull a facebook stunt like that, but I hate it when people defend 'overweightness' and try to normalise it >puts on hard hat<

The way I see it is that you can't help what colour/ gender/culture you are but you can definitely change what size you are.