to think that making fun of someone's weight is not on?

[showtunesgirl]

An old work acquaintance has just posted a pic of herself on facebook sitting next to a large black lady on the tube. Her friend must have taken the pic and she's called the picture Fatty fatty boom boom.

I've commented: What is the point of this? Just as it's not acceptable to make fun of someone for being black, it's also not acceptable to make fun of someone for being big.

AIBU to think that she's wrong?

Shallow is based on previous things said in RL.

She's now messaged me to say that she used to be fat so would never mock someone who was. Er, then WTH put that pic on FB?

YANBU Why some people feel the need to judge and/or mock someone because of their appearance I don't know.

The worse person I have ever know for being mocking of fat people had been very overweight in the past. Maybe there is something about getting their own back in it? Just a thought.

Yanbu What has the victim's race got to do with it though?

What does her race have to do with it?

It was just an addition to the description I imagine...the same as the OP mentioned the photo was of a lady and taken on a tube train.

I 'hid' a friend on fb for posting pics of a transexual and making nast vile comments. Just cruel.

I think the race addition was to make it seem even worse.....and she was black too

People do that all the time and it's not helpful to those of minority groups at all.

She never said "A fat white lady" did she....and that's for a reason. Not having a go....just pointing it out for interest.

No, that's not what I meant. [bangs head]

I was pointing out to the girl that it's not acceptable to make fun of someone who is overweight just as it's not acceptable to make fun of someone because of their race. Some people don't seem to understand that.

Good for you showtunesgirl.

'Tis a metaphor.

i don't know why you think an overweight person would be the slightest bit interested in your opinion or your blunt honesty. there's no excuse for it? who needs an excuse? it's their own business. i know there's a population level problem with growing BMIs but as an individual you see in the street its nothing to do with you and your barely concealed disgust. ex fat people can be just as bad as ex smokers for being holier than thou rather than being able to scrape together some empathy and understanding.

thursday I guess your post was addressed at amybelle and not me?

Firstly,

IABU and deserve a

Secondly the point I was trying to make and failing considerably was that you shouldn't mock anyone for how they look, but picking on someone because of their race is considerably different to mocking someone for being fat.

indeed OP, sorry.

and amybelle, yes, i agree completely. racism and bullying fat people are entirely different things. doesn't make one ok or not a horrible character trait, but it is a different thing.

Being spiteful to someone on account of race OR size, are as equally offensive and disrespectful.

Just because you have looked, and judged that that someone is overweight as a result of greed/overeating does not give you the right to be rude.

I've lost count of the amount of people who feel the need to point out that I'm fat
I'm a recovering bulimic, and I'm now a size 14 with a reasonably healthy approach to food and my body. I'm not perfect but I don't hate what I see when I look in the mirror anymore most of the time. What gives anyone the right to undo my hard work by 'helpfully' telling me that they are displeased by my body and that they are repulsed by fat people?
Fuck 'em. Smegheads.

You will go around in circles forever discussing why/how people are overweight, but that is really unimportant, if you don't have the manners or grace to treat your fellow human beings with respect.

Manners ring a bell with anyone?

amybelle by not answering the question ive asked upthread ive worked out what the answer is.

Brave post fridgepants.

In a similar vein, not that I was hugely fit before, but my bipolar medication has resulted in my gaining about 20-25 kilos (can't do stone, sorry)....

.... about 3 1/2 stone which I HATE but I also haven't had a manic or depressive episode since early 2009, after being hospitalised in 2008. I am nice and stable now. And fat. Fat and happy. Could be worse.

However I have just joined a gym as we are going on a quite sporty holiday in February and I want to be in better shape plus look better so I guess deep down I am really not 100% happy

Hang on, amybelle, you do know that making fun of any aspect of someone is not on don't you?