dp just headbutted me....

[tantrumsandnappies]

i know i'm nbu but just need some quick advice.....

so this moring after maing plans to take dcs swimming dp lets me down again we have been fighting and arguimg for the last few months and they are just getting worse he never does anything with me or dcs instead choosing to go out with his friends he never comes home before 12 and is out of the house by one the neat day..

sorry am rambling so today after everything i ased him if he was still comin with us and he said no as he was meeting his friend so i got pissed off and stormed into the bedroom he followed me shouting what is my problem so i told him i have had enough of the lies him not helping me with dcs or money (yet he came home with two new ralph lauren hats saying his friend bought them) then he just headbutted me got in the bath apologised and tried to kiss me before he went out...

i don't now what to do haven't really got alot of family around and need some help.tia

No, you won't need police reports, just tell them what you've told us.

no i don't think he will accept it which is why i need some advice
i know he won't come back at least for the next couple of days because that is what he doe's so while he's not here i need to sort things out asap

I would ring the police first. Now.
And then get in touch with WA who can help you get you and DCs to a safe place.

Please ring the police first though

Ring the police x

I can only echo those who have said please ring the police. They can advise you. Keep yourself and you children safe.

It may well be a one off, but you cannot take that risk, I did and it happened again and again and again until I didn't have the strength to do much about it. Its not normal behaviour, its wholly unacceptable.

I wish you the best of luck, you have a long journey ahead of you whatever you do, but the right path, the one of 'no more' will have a happy ending. x

The only thing you need to worry about right now is staying safe. The police can come and stay with you whilst you collect up what you need to leave.
On a practical note, to save you having to come back whilst he is there, try and get your paperwork, like passports, DCs birth certs etc in a bag so once you are away from him you can start sorting out the practicalities.

You know you are doing the right thing, no one should live in fear of being hit or head butted. It will be ok.

Stay strong.

Is this the first time he has assaulted you? Have there ever been pushes, stopping you go out of rooms, shouting in your face, anything to make you frightened for your safety?

thank you all

i'm going to phone womans aid when i get to my friends i just didn't want to call them and think that i'm being over dramatic as i know there are women in far worse situations than me

If you dont do something now though love, you will become one of those women very soon. :(

Don't become one of them tantrumsandnappies you are not being overdramatic.

@goldand orange he's gone so ive got everything i need the dcs are napping as soon as they wake up i'm gone.

@moon yes its the first time he's hit me but no like i said he has been screaming in my face and i have become a little bit scared of him even though i try not to show it

Do not underestimate the gravity of what he has done. Women's Aid definitely won't think you're being overly dramatic.

Cant really add anything to the advice regarding phoning the Police and making steps to ensure your (and the childrens) personal safety.What is your realtionship generally like and has he assualted you before?

They won't think you're being dramatic! What he did was serious, he assaulted you. And as Squeaky says, if you don't do something you will become one of those women :(

You are not being over dramatic. You are actually minimising that he has assaulted you (which is perfectly normal in abusive relationships)

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I have put these examples here to show that headbutting is a very serious assault. You are not over dramatising. You did not deserve this.

I'm afraid you need to process and understand the type of relationship you are in. It is an abusive relationship. And it won't get any better from hereon in. You may very well see a few days/weeks of 'I'm so sorry", but this is just pretense so that you don't call the police and he gets a sentence like those above for the very serious assault he has just committed.

Yes a headbutt is serious assault don't minimise it OP x

i am in no way minimising what he has done and am fully aware that it wrong i also know it was not my fault the only thing i done was tell him a few home truths which is what he didn't like and why he done it i know that i he has done it once then he will do it again and i am not goin to stick around to see what happens next he can apologize all he wants it won't change a thing

Good for you! x

Well done you x

Good for you!

Sorry tantrum - I didn't mean that to sound critical

You are totally doing the right thing, and you sound resolved to get out. Good. For. YOU.

thank you i just don't want people to think that i think its acceptable fo what he has done i know all relationships have ups and downs and we all argue but he has more than crossed a line with me

he has just replied to the message i sent him

and sorry for all the missing letters my laptop is very dodgy and misse letters

Poor you, it sounds awful.

I hope you can get things sorted out. Please don't hesitate to call womens aid, I'm sure they will take you seriously.

How awful.

Is your head alright?

Can you get anyone to come and stay with you in case he tries to come back, Family or friends? He says he won't but you really can't trust him after this.