to think you don't tell someone in a hospital to cheer up. Twice.

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That's it really.

I went for a scan today to look for fetal abnormalities. Turns out that's fine but there are other abnormalities that need further investigating. The baby's stomach is too small and I've got too much fluid. Feel really shit about it and staying away from google but the consultant has frightened me enough.

Anyway, prior to this I turn up to my appointment, hand in my booklet and let the receptionist know who I have to see and when. Then I say thank you and turn to leave. I then hear a loud voice say 'Cheer up.' I turned around and said pardon as I thought I must have misheard and the midwife (at least I think she was, same uniform) behind the desk says it again and laughs.

I just stared at her, laughed nervously, and walked off. Is it just me or is that an inappropriate thing to say in a hospital? She doesn't know why I'm there and whether I should be cheery or not?

WIBU to mention that I wasn't happy about her saying that when I go back for another scan next week? Or am I just oversensitive because I've had a shit day?

YANBU, I hate it when people who should know better speak without thinking.

I also eye-rolled a woman in the ante-natal clinic a couple of weeks ago who was having a loud rant about "stupid attention-seekers waddling around, why can't they just walk normally?' Erm, ever heard of SPD, PGP? Clearly not.

Hope all turns out well with your baby OP.

oh Roundtable that really was terrible of her, bloody idiot. You should certainly say something-if not now then later on. It may prevent another scared, nervous mum going through the same. angrybeaver, so sorry for your loss just wow at some of the things that people have had to tolerate at trying times. Shocking

Well I said something to my consultant and midwife. Just said that I wasn't sure it was appropriate thing to say in a hospital and that I was worried it could really upset someone.

Their eyebrows shot up and they asked me to describe, they seem to know who it was straight away and looked at each other rather exasperated so I think she's got form! They said they would being it up and apologised.

Stomach of the baby is still not filled with fluid, think it's a problem with the throat rather than something like Downs Syndrome although she wasn't certain. Seeing the Great Ormand Street team in 2 weeks and then every 2 weeks into be monitored from now on. Basically, I think it's a wait and see until the baby is born.

Thanks for all the well wishes.