to ask what age you moved out of your parents' house?

[jackiesil]

I only ask because there is a "buying your first home" thread that I was commenting on (I was musing about how I've managed to land on my feet, but my brother, only a few years younger than me, is facing a much more difficult environment)... and then just now I've read a thread where the mother of a 14 yr old was commenting that she has to wake her DD up and make breakfast etc etc.

ANd my first thought was "cor blimey at 14 I was only a year away from moving into nan's and pretty much living as an adult", and so it surprised me. Not that I know it's normal - my parents split up when I was just past my 15th birthday, and to stay in the same school to do my exams it meant living with my nan for a couple of years before uni (in the end it worked out very well, i got a huge awakening into the real world (i helped out around the house and stuff) and was all the close to my nana/grandad for it).

so, what age did you move out of your parents?

And do you think you should have moved out sooner? later? What did you learn or wish you could go back and tell yourself?

(I wish I could tell myself to be easier on my grandparents from the start - I was quite a troublesome child and it took me a few months to realise that I couldn't shout and swear about curfews to my nan in the same way I'd been used to with mum. I regret being such a pain back then.)

19, to go to university, but was back during holidays so only half moved out really. When I graduated I was then home for the summer, but moved to London in the October, so I was then 23.

18 to go to University.

Moved back home for a few months.

Bought own home at 22.

I moved out at 16 to live with my older brother. Stopped living with family at 18 when I went to University.

18, when I went to Uni, never went back. I would have moved out much, much sooner if only I'd had the means to.

I think youngsters were more self sufficient back then (mid '90s), I had a job from the age of 14, and never again after that did my mum give me money for anything. It took me until I was 18 though before I could be fully self sufficient (afford rent, bills etc).

Well technically went to Flat for UNi at 19, but since I came home every weekend and sometimes during the week, and left it from Easter till October, it didn't really count. I officially moved out on my wedding day at 24. really was too well looked after at home.

At age 24 - parents were divorced so i lived with my dad & sister - felt guilty leaving my dad who was finding it hard to cope (i thought). But then we started rowing a lot because we'd just outgrown each other's company.

The main thing that had kept me at home so long was definitely worrying about my dad.
Daft now i look back, because he definitely preferred living on his own! (My sister was rarely at home, so she didn't get in his way like i did).

I'd worked full time since leaving school, but in very poorly paid office jobs; & HCA work in a nursing home.
At 24 i went to university for my nurse training; & got a room in the Residences (paid for by my bursary & part time job wages).

It's been 12 years since I moved out (!); & i'm happy to say that my relationship with my dad is so much better than it was when i was younger.

I was 17 but went back and forth until I was 23

My sister left at 19 to live with a boyfriend but he was abusive & scary.
So she was back less than a year later.

She lived at dad's longer than me because she was often out or away anyway; so she didn't get under his feet at all!
It was more like an adult house share for them i think.

I moved out when I was 18, am now 32 and DH and I are about to move back in!

19 when I left for uni. Occassionally went home during the holidays and then moved in with friends after uni when I was 22. I rent a house with my partner now.

I moved out to go away to university at 18, never moved back as I had a dc when at university and got our own place. My sisters stayed living with my parents in London until they left university, as they wanted to go to London universities and it was cheaper to live at home.

Pretty common amongst my London friends to stay living with parents until late 20s as it's much nicer and cheaper than doing a flatshare, and buying your own place is pretty much out of the question until that age.

Finished my studies aged 17 while my parents moved away.
Moved in with parents aged 18 to study a new course.
Left again age 19 to study at uni.
Returned aged 23 post post grad.
Left age 24 to live with DH.
Returned for 6 months aged 27 to save a house deposit.
Returned at 33 for 6 months whilst selling/buying another house.

I am 26 and still living with my parents out. I went off to uni at 19, but had to come back home after a few months as I was too unwell to stay. Now I live at home because I'm not able to work due to mental health problems, and I feel like it would be wrong to move out and claim housing benefit, when I could be living with my parents and not costing the state money for accommodation. Sometimes I wonder if my mental health would have improved more if I had my own place though.

23

19 when DH and I bought 1st house together. Although technically moved out of parents at 18, but moved in with DH (then boyfriend) and his mum for a year before buying our 1st place

left home 19

bought home home 21

lost home 23

now 35 renting claiming HB

glad I dont own my own home in many ways but in other ways I resent it.

had my parents been around I would have moved backed at 23.

22 moved in with my DP 6 months after meeting. Got told it was too soon! 5 years on we have 2 DDs :-)

18. Have yet to get on the ladder at 34!

Lived away from my parents at 15, became financially independent at 20.

I first lived alone when I was 15 and an exchange student in Sweden for a year. Being Sweden, the exchange program though I'm too old for a host family and just rented me an apartment and gave me money for food.
Moved back for a year and then out again when I was 17 to go to Uni.

I was kicked out at 17 (just) because I was a cow. I had no where else to go, so was considered homeless so I was put into emergency accommodation with a lovely ?slightly mad?woman for two weeks, until somewhere could be sorted out for me. I managed to get a place at a hostel near my collage. Fortunately they accepted me early, because you usually have to be over 18. I then stayed at the hostel until a few weeks before 18th birthday and I got given a council flat because I was considered at risk. It was very scary at the time and the hostel was a real eye opener. Peoples rooms got broken into, there was alcoholics and drug users there. I was the youngest there, and luckily never had any trouble. I don?t think I would go back and change any of it. The emergency accommodation was helpful because I still lived in a house (so it was not as big a shock as if I just moved straight into hostel!) and had dinner ready for me, but I had to sort out getting money for myself and getting somewhere to live etc. then living in the hostel was quite helpful because I then had to cook for myself and be generally reasonable for my money and food and budgeting! ? but there was also other people who had been there to help give advise and remind me that the communal cooker was STILL on and my dinner was burning! And also not to be naive and trust and believe what everyone does and says! So by the time I got my flat I was a hell of a lot more prepared in how to not totally fuck up! I am now 24, and after some savvy swaps have a lovely big flat in a lovely area with decent neighbours, that I have just bought!

17 I think.

I did everything for myself and my brothers before that though mum had bouts of depression and alcoholism.