to ask what age you moved out of your parents' house?

[jackiesil]

I only ask because there is a "buying your first home" thread that I was commenting on (I was musing about how I've managed to land on my feet, but my brother, only a few years younger than me, is facing a much more difficult environment)... and then just now I've read a thread where the mother of a 14 yr old was commenting that she has to wake her DD up and make breakfast etc etc.

ANd my first thought was "cor blimey at 14 I was only a year away from moving into nan's and pretty much living as an adult", and so it surprised me. Not that I know it's normal - my parents split up when I was just past my 15th birthday, and to stay in the same school to do my exams it meant living with my nan for a couple of years before uni (in the end it worked out very well, i got a huge awakening into the real world (i helped out around the house and stuff) and was all the close to my nana/grandad for it).

so, what age did you move out of your parents?

And do you think you should have moved out sooner? later? What did you learn or wish you could go back and tell yourself?

(I wish I could tell myself to be easier on my grandparents from the start - I was quite a troublesome child and it took me a few months to realise that I couldn't shout and swear about curfews to my nan in the same way I'd been used to with mum. I regret being such a pain back then.)

I moved out on my 19th birthday with my boyfriend, who is now DH. I loved that flat, it was just lovely.

20. i got married. it was expected.

16 and never looked back, I moved in with bf (now dh) bought our first home at 18. However I would hate it if my own children felt the need to move out at 16 I hope they feel like they have been looked after and listened to with just the right amount of mollycoddling (something I can quite definately say I didn't).

21 rented a flat with my sis
26 bought my first house

18. Went to uni, came back for a few weeks in the summer, but spent the most of it in my chosen new city. Stayed there and moved in with boyfriend I met in 3rd year. He's now DH and I'm 37

1* year to the day, not 2! Jeez don't know why I'm adding years spent with that twunt lol

I went to university at 19 and never returned to live full time at home. I bought my first house age 22, six months after I graduated.

My story is same as yours shockedballoon

14 I moved from my DM's to my DF's. Nothing unusual in that, still with a parent, but there I did as much housework as I do now, and cooked most of the meals for us both.

At 19 I moved out and got my own place.

It was less work on my own, it turned out.

16 - moved out of a horrible home into a job with accomodation (waitress in a hotel) and never went back.

Just before I was 17 I got my own flat and have been self sufficient ever since.

I wouldn't want that for my dd. She is the same age now as i was when I was living in a flat and didn't have enough money for both the electric meter and food. She can stay with me until she is 50 if she likes.

18 - to go to uni
Db left at 16
Dh left at 32
Horses for courses and all that - he had much more relaxed parents!

18, permanently.

17 for Uni, back home at 19, out for good at 21 as moved abroad.

17 - because my step dad was a w**r!!!

went away from home at 7 to boarding school
went to university from school
lived at home for 9 months after university Mum gave me a "march out" date.
So I guess I was 22?

Aged 21, after uni, moved away to a live in job with now-DH. Stayed away for two years, then we both moved back with my parents for a year to save for a deposit. We then moved back out after that year into our own home.

erm, 22 I think. Or 21. Can't remember now.

I moved out to be the residential support at a project for young women with behavioural problems. After a year and a half I left and moved into a bedsit. Lived there for a year, maybe less, before moving into a flat with some bloke I barely knew (and married 3 months later )

When I look at 21/22, hell, 25 or 26 or older! year olds now, I am struck by how childlike they are. Not all of them, of course, but still living with their parents and stuck in the parent/teenager relationship, with meals cooked, laundry done and going out clubbing and acting like teens (including full on strops and zombie stomping )

I do wonder if you don't actually start to grow up until you have left home and you no longer have that parent-child relationship with your parents but it shifts to parent-adult offspring and becomes more equal, and perhaps the parent is the one to back off and move away from active parenting, iyswim.

I don't know. I just think that it's better to move out and start to make your own way in the world and that there's nothing wrong with starting out in a bedsit.

19, couldn't wait to get out of there. My younger brothers 23 & 24 both still live at home & don't appear to have any plans to move out any time soon

25, and moved back at 26 and now at 27 I still live with my parents. I can't afford to move at the moment, rents are extortionate for anywhere half decent away from the crackheads.

I do my own shopping, washing, cleaning, cooking. It really is like a house share but with my mum and dad.

I yearn to move out because of various personal reasons but hey ho, I could be worse off.

I moved into my ILs at 17, then after 10 months of hell DP and I bought a house and we moved out! I was 18 and DP was 20 :)

16 into my boyfriend's bedsit.

Too young, much too young.

17, about two weeks after I finished high school (and only took that long because I needed to book transportation out of there and getting stuff from both of my parents' homes). Moved 3000+ miles away, only been back once due to needing legal papers, and was never happier than when I left.