to ask what age you moved out of your parents' house?

[jackiesil]

I only ask because there is a "buying your first home" thread that I was commenting on (I was musing about how I've managed to land on my feet, but my brother, only a few years younger than me, is facing a much more difficult environment)... and then just now I've read a thread where the mother of a 14 yr old was commenting that she has to wake her DD up and make breakfast etc etc.

ANd my first thought was "cor blimey at 14 I was only a year away from moving into nan's and pretty much living as an adult", and so it surprised me. Not that I know it's normal - my parents split up when I was just past my 15th birthday, and to stay in the same school to do my exams it meant living with my nan for a couple of years before uni (in the end it worked out very well, i got a huge awakening into the real world (i helped out around the house and stuff) and was all the close to my nana/grandad for it).

so, what age did you move out of your parents?

And do you think you should have moved out sooner? later? What did you learn or wish you could go back and tell yourself?

(I wish I could tell myself to be easier on my grandparents from the start - I was quite a troublesome child and it took me a few months to realise that I couldn't shout and swear about curfews to my nan in the same way I'd been used to with mum. I regret being such a pain back then.)

17yrs and 5 months joined the army since then visted them but no more than a week then when left army visting went down to the odd night a yr not visted for over 3 yrs nows dont think they like me very much lol sister left at 16 and vists less then me

19, to get married.

I stayed between family, friends and my parents from 14 - 15yrs, then moved out properly at 16.

I went to university at 18 but came home for the holidays. Graduated at 22, got a job and moved out properly.

18. But I moved back in at 23 to care for my mum when she had cancer. So, then out again at 24.

18 - went to university; I am glad that I knew more or less how to take care of myself (cooking, laundry etc), even if I was incredibly naive and emotionally immature. I would want my dds to have the confidence to leave home aged 18 if they want to

19. i went off to uni, moved back briefly after uni finished though until i moved in with dh.

18 when I went to work in the US during my gap year. After that university (proper full time course so I wasn't back in holidays) & then dh & I bought a house the year before I graduated. It was all a very natural & non traumatic transition to full independence ... I hope my children are as lucky but expect that it will be more difficult for them.

I was 20. My brother was in his late 20s and my Mum did absolutely everything for him. Even making sandwiches and drinks, and doing all his washing and ironing with no thanks. In fact he'd complain if it wasn't done right. He expected the same from his wife (who then left him), and he often treats loved ones very poorly. I believe my Mum's approach was a major factor in why he is as he is, and it has done him no favours. He lives abroad now (alone).

18 to uni. Failed miserable Maths exam
Spent year back home
Then returned to uni to do nice maths free course.

Easter of the year I spent at home I met DH to be.

So I Inflicted him and me on my long suffering parents every third weekend for two years. DMum fed us Sunday roast and did any washing we had and brought us breakfast in bed. DDad and my now DH talked engineering and computers and I tried to get a word in edge ways.

Once DH had finished his course we got married and rented a flat near my university and I guess that's when home became somewhere I only visited, I was 22.

18 here got a flat with then bf moved back at 22 then out Again at 24/25

Like Lostinwales I 'left' for boarding school at 11 but I kept coming home for occasional days/weeks/months for another 15 years!

I definitely didn't have my washing etc done for me beyond 12/13, and I paid a token rent as soon as I started earning. We all shared the cooking and shopping and I generally did all the family's ironing because my mum hated it so much and it meant I got to watch what I wanted on the tv.

tracey my brother is the same, spoiled rotten by my mum, at the age of 26 he is still getting meals made, clothes washed and ironed, bed made! She evens leaves a glass of water out for him coming in from a night out FFS! He is an anti-social human being, and to be honest a selfish prick

I moved out at 20 and have never asked for any help from parents.

I WISH I had left at 15. I kind of tried to and failed.
I finally managed to leave at 20.

23, moved in with DH 6 months before we got married. DH was nearly 26 but he practically lived in my parents house before we got out own house. I had it made at my parents, was spoilt rotten. They cooked for us, did our washing, bought us food.

I honestly had never put a wash on or cooked a proper meal until I moved out. Now I realise I was a lazy bitch, I love keeping house, I should have helped my folks more.

Moved out at 17 to a shared house, back for a few months before buying my own flat at 18.

I'm surprised the average age on this thread is so young as I seemed really unusual amongst my friends, most of them were in their 20s.

18, to university.

I went to university at 18y so moved out then. Came back for holidays and for a term once whilst doing some local work experience. Left university at 22y and moved in with Dh (then boyfriend.)

16

when I married dh.....

had already had ds 1 too

27. Should have done it before as I had a terrible relationship with my father but it was quite normal where I'm from. You only moved out to get married though youngsters were just starting to shack up with each other before marriage and this was the nineties.

17, My mum hated my DP (now DH) and said she didn't want me there I ended up at my MIL house until I finished education the my and DH got a place age 20.

I wish I'd of had more time to help MIL as she did so much for me and it must of been hard for her. I payed for what I could but I always forgot to tidy up and it took me 6months a bit of time to work the washing machine.

19, having stayed there for the first year of DSs life.

25 and still here. Can't afford to move out, can't afford to move away, stuck in hell :(

Wonder if it depends on where you are from (and obviously your age). It was common to stay at home in my small town in Scotland till, your 20's,30's and beyond. Went south and it seemed much more common for folk to have moved out in their teens.