To want ONE morning off this week?

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Dh works FT, I have two voluntary jobs that take me a total of about 15 hours a week. I do all the housework-type stuff except hoovering - Dh will wash up once in a while if I ask him to but it's usually me. I get up around 6.30, have a cuppa, sort out breakfast and wake Dd at 7, we have tea & breakfast together then she gets ready for school and heads out at 8.15.

Dh is off work this week as we are planning to move house soon and he wants a week to get everything sorted and partly packed.

I asked if he would take one morning this week and get up with Dd so I could have a bit of a lie-in on a weekday (bliss!). He was a bit , asking what time Dd has this, what time he should do that, what should he do for breakfast (point at the cupboard FFS, she can get her own cereal!), I felt like he was trying to make it so awkward that I'd tell him not to bother.

Today I mentioned it to my mum, and she was all "oh you can't do that, he gets up early every day, he works hard, it's his week off, let him have his week's lie-ins".

I don't get a day off. I don't ever get a day off. I want one day where I can stay in bed till 8.30 with a cuppa. AIBU?

Reading that back, I sound like a right entitled cow.

Why don't you lie in at the weekend?

And why do two voluntary jobs if you're this tired?

Could you not give one up?

We take it in turns to lie-in at the weekend, and I'm not tired - at least no more than 'normal'!

I just want the luxury of a cuppa in bed. DH has had a cuppa delivered to him in bed yesterday and today.

Fair enough

Your DH has done nothing wrong except ask about the morning routine though.

You're Mum is obviously wrong.

Sorry but yes, I think YABU.

How old is your DD? I'm guessing if she's out the door by herself at 8.15 she's old enough to sort herself out without you?

I just asked Dd if she minded if Dad did one morning with her instead.

She is now writing out Instructions. With a full minute-by-minute schedule.

Lol, how old is she?

Dd is 14yo - yes I know it's definitely old enough to sort herself out, but I had to do it a few times at that age and hated the feeling of an 'empty house', for some reason sitting having breakfast on my own felt awfully lonely.

Worra she is doing the Schedule very tongue-in-cheek.

Fourteen??

Lol sorry but this is such a non event

The pair of you can have a whole week of lie ins together, why wouldn't you?

I'm sure she'll survive this 'empty house' feeling for a week!

I used to love getting myself up and ready for school at that age. I could put whatever I wanted on the radio and drink my tea/do my hair in peace.

at non-event

It is, isn't it...

Do you think she is maybe... a 14yo PFB?

your daughter is FOURTEEEEEN???

ffs. she is old enough to bring you breakfast in bed before she goes to school!!!!

14!!! Get her to make you a cuppa and deliver it to bed.

X-posts with squeaky.

YANBU at all IMO. If you do all the housework and you are up at 6.30am every week day morning then you are working just as hard as he is, possibly more so. You may not get paid for it, but that's a different issue.

just a tad!

If you want a cuppa in bed, your DD can surely make you one before she leaves?

Wait, she is allowed to touch the kettle, right?

Hmmm. I was on the phone and just refreshed this after writing my post. Lots of x posts. With the DD being 14 this is bonkers!

Normally, I would be with you, Dahlen. However, she has a 14 YEAR OLD and does 15 hours a week work. He works full-time. He does more than her.

OP I think YANBU. It is nice that you get up and have breakfast with your DD, I know she is old enough that she could get herself off to school on her own, but it is lovely that she doesn't have to. I don't think it would hurt your DH to get up with her once in his whole week off! I hope you get your lie in!

honestly... I am absolute pissing myself laughing at this now I know what age she is...

"I asked if he would take one morning this week and get up with Dd so I could have a bit of a lie-in on a weekday (bliss!). He was a bit , asking what time Dd has this, what time he should do that, what should he do for breakfast (point at the cupboard FFS, she can get her own cereal!)"

I was expecting him to be dealing with a 2yo... perhaps a 4yo at a push.. not someone who is almost an adult!!

X-posts with Dahlen. Grrrr.

She is old enough to cook you a breakfast and bring it to you both in bed before she leaves for school!!

I don't think it would hurt your DH to get up with her once in his whole week off! I hope you get your lie in!

It might not hurt him (unless he falls off his chair laughing at the idea) but why should he get up with a 14yr old on his week off?

Reading the OP again with the age in mind, I'm quite sure his face wasn't him being awkward...it was him thinking 'WTAF'??